Should I let go or not?!

Hi marie_cehl, well it doesn't really a big thing for him, but how about your feelings? It"s hurting and there is always a bog doubt all the time for you. Does he care? And for you to continue the relationship cause you love him, you just have to be numb about it. When will she value you, until when can you hold on? When your patience say's it's enough! The problem is not at your side, it's his problem. I think if that is the situation there is nothing to expect but just go on with life and make yourself be busy not to think about it and adjusting to be alone. It's useless sticking with a relationship who just think of him self and not value you for what you are to him. I know it hurts but the hurts will you make stronger. What counts is reality bites! Have a nice day to you!

Okay, he's putting his feelings over yours here and that just shows it doesn't matter to him that he hurts you. I don't want to sound blunt or mean, but I think that a man who's in love with you and wants to be commited to you wouldn't do that in the first place. Then continue to do it after you've confronted them and expressed your feelings. Everyone deserves better then that, and please don't set yourself up for heartbreak. I know how you feel, but follow your instincts. If you aren't 100 percent sure that you're the only one in his life and he's faithful get out now. If you don't trust someone you can't truely be happy with that person. It hurts, but as a woman you're strong enough to overcome anything.

hi marie, i would say ..try talking to him and make him understand that u cant deal with such actions/behaviour of his, give him soem time to mend his ways and yet if he doesnt than i think it has to be u who has to move on withjout you cos ur ideals are different and if cant respect ur feelings he doesnt deserve u.why stay in an unstable realtionship instead of just endign it .I know its tough but the earlier the better.

hi marie_cehl,dont trust him when he says its nothing.if its really true then why would he not stop it? its not healthy in a relationship when one of our partner flirt when we are already committed.your bf is taking you for granted,he is soo insensetive,not thinking that it hurts you and flirting with other woman leads to cheating in the long run and will cause sometimes a break up which is soo painful specially if you love your man.the best way,i think is talk to him seriously and sincerely,if hes not gonna stop what hes doing,then its time you let him go,if he truelly loves you he will win you back!..good day!

You deserve a better level of commitment than he is willing to give you. You don't have to settle for this. This is not the dark ages. You do not need a man to take care of you. You can take care of yourself. Any time a man tells a woman that his relationship with another woman is "nothing" you can be sure that he will be telling some other gal that his relationship with you means nothing at some point in time.

Judging from other discussions you have started about this relationship I think you already know that it is time to let go. Life is too short to spend it in relationships that make you feel this way. Move on dear, and be happy.

marie_cehl what you are experiencing is something that is really hard. For me in a relationship if you love a person you don't need to text and flirt with others. I mean even if it is only texting, it is still a violation of the relationship that you both have. Where is the respect in it?
And some people started with only texting. What if they will be develop? I mean what if that texting thing will create something like a relationship with the both of them? What would he tell you?
If he loves you he should at least stop doing those things.

You should. If it is really nothing why does he keeps on texting. it seems he was ignoring you. You should stop this now or else it will be much bigger problem in the future because it all began with the texting. If he fooled you when saying that is just nothing, he can fool forever. You should let go or else you will be really hurt.

It would seem to me that, if those messages really are nothing, then he would stop doing it since it upsets you so much. Since he's still doing it, it's obvious that he doesn't care that these messages upset you.

I know that's a harsh reality, but it's very obvious. I feel badly for you because I can tell by your post that you care about him a lot. Since you do not feel stable in this relationship anyway, you should dump him. There are plenty of guys out there who would be honored to be called your boyfriend and truly care about your happiness.

Trust is a very important part of any relationship and, since you cannot trust him, this relationship does not have a good foundation. I'd say it's time to move on to have the opportunity to find someone who will really care about you.

Sending flirty messages to others and playing with their feelings and emotions may be nothing to your boyfriend, but such actions to me can be dangerous and can seriously undermine a relationship. You have already expressed to him how you resent his continued action. I don't think your request is unreasonable as he is already in a serious relationship with you. He shows so little respect for you when he brushes your request off like this. It makes me wonder how strong your relationship is with him really. I feel that if he continues his way as far as sending these flirtatious messages is concerned, you should threaten to leave him. Send him a strong and serious message that if he truly loves you, he should not do things that hurt you. If he persists in his ways, it is best to leave him because he is not worthy of your love.