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For an unmarried 18 year old young man you are very bright and smart. You could not have said what you did better. What a great response.

I agree with you on the part to where the kids learn a lot from there parents. That is why I raised my kids on my own and my kids don't do that kind of stuff to me much less swing at me. I have always tried to do my best with my kids. And my 3 girls treat me well. My kids look up to me a lot. I think any or most parents wished they would have done better though. My oldest 2 kids have a child of there own and they are angels. They are good babies. I keep them over night and they are good with me.

I agree with you. There mom never stayed at home and she ran all the time and I keep telling my own mom this. My sisters kids disrespect her because she didn't take the time with her kids and she made her youngest daughter grow up before her time. She was the baby sitter of her sisters while her mom ran and drank. I thank God my kids have respect for me. I was always with my kids and raised them and gave them all my time.

Lets hope that someone will be able to be a good influence on these children and maybe they will see that the way they are acting is wrong

I hope someone does show them that the way they are acting is wrong or one day they will pull something on someone else like they are doing to there mom and it will back fire on them.

Yes it will. Lets hope that you are right and that I am as well and someone will teach them that this is not acceptable

My kids have never treated me like that either. But my sisters kids do this to her all the time. My sister ran all the time and never stayed home. She went to bars all the time and got drunk. While she handed her kids off to a baby sitter a lot. And her oldest daughter was the baby sitter of the youngest 2 kids. So she grew up to fast before her time. My sisters kids I wouldn't even let stay with me over night i did that a couple of time with her youngest and she was so bad. And I spanked her and she called her dad and he threatened me to have me beat up and I said go right a head she isn't going to disrespect me in my house.

That is good that your husband would stand up and have them respect you. I agree I would hand her the phone to. To call the cops. And she has called the cops on her mom but it back fired on both of her kids. The cop talked to there mother and said the next phone call he gets from them they go to jail not the mother. There mother caused some of this on herself when she ran all the time when her kids where young and she wasn't there for them like she should have been.

The crappy thing about parenting is that no one hands you a manual. But if such a thing did exist, it should include a section on how to deal with your own demons and still be a good parent. I went through a period of life where I did a lot of running around. It was after my ex-husband and I split up. We married young and got pregnant fast. So I never "sowed my oats", you could say. So I went through a 4 month period where I did. I regret it now but thankfully I met someone that changed my life (and was lucky enough to marry him). Its sad that your sister wasn't there for them when they were younger. Perhaps, at least with the 15 year old, she should try counseling. I still believe in tough love when necessary but perhaps getting those obvious anger and abandonment issue addressed might help all of them.

I agree she does need some kind of counseling for her and her kids. My sisters youngest daughter tried that bad stuff on me when she stayed over night. I lived in Ohio she lived in South Carolina and I called my sister and told her to come get her brat for a daughter now she was never to stay with me again. But my sister has never slowed down from her running all the time and that is why I think her kids are still like this.

Sounds like you and your husband are doing a good job raising your kids. Kids need good manners as they are growing up. My sisters kids don't have any manners. my mom raised us all with manners and me my brother and sister came out just fine but my sister rebelled a lot against my mom. That was my dads fault though.

Yes they did this to her for a long time it just got worse because she wouldn't correct them. I did the same thing to y kids as you did to yours. I took it all away from them. But her kids are different she has always let them walk all over her. That is good the cops took your side and not hers. They need to work at that age. My daughters started there first job at 16 but worked in the summer. Not at school time.

Her children are miss behaving badly. And they shouldn't treat there mother like that. But I look at why didn't she give her kids the time they needed from her? All she did was run around and never gave her kids attention they needed or disoplin they needed.

So you know how it is when it comes down to her kids. One of her daughters were sent away for a while. Thought her daughter changed but she didn't. She had everybody fooled. Her oldest daughter is on stuff she shouldn't be on and her 15 year old daughter is on it now to because of the oldest daughter.

I do understand and it is horrible. In my own case I came through it on my own because I wanted to. It may take that, for the older one to want to change and make a difference for the younger one. I hope it won't be too late.

I do hope her older daughter will change for the good and show a good example to her younger sister. My sisters oldest daughter when she was younger you could tell she could have been a good girl but her mother when she did all of that never helped her daughter out any and it hurt her in the long run. But I am proud of her oldest daughter for one thing she graduated high school. And she loves doing hair and she took those classes in school and it helped her out a great deal. But she still has know respect for her mom because of what her mom did. And her mom still runs all the time.

I always pray her kids will straighten up. But I know there mother needs to do something about it. My sister went to the police and the cop told her if her kids call him one more time they are being sent away. Her kids always thought they new it all and bossed around. They tried to do that to me but didn't work.

Kids are not right when they do that to there parents. Your child shouldn't make you cry like that. That isn't right. There is only one other thing to try when it comes down to kids like that and its boot camp. Its not military to where he signs his life away. But its a place to where they put very bad kids in line. I think my sisters kids need the same thing.

I think, your son has been hurt by your separation with your husband, that is why he is hurting you also. I guess, your son also wants to get your attention and his violent reaction implies that you have to change or stop the things or ways that hurt him. In my opinion, you should talk to him and explain things and show him that you love him. Being harsh to him would not change him.