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I agree with you on what you are saying. My sister never corrected her kids she just would threaten them and thought it would get them to stop and that was all she did. She never corrected them right. Unlike me I would correct my kids ad they would get there groundings and know computer or outside time. But its never easy raising a teen. I have had a little bit of trouble with my teen children but it wasn't that hard to deal with. If there dad would have stopped teaching them to be the way he was witch was a liar they wouldn't have done the things they did.

If she ever corrects her behavior that is. If she doesn't her kids will remain the same and keep doing those things to her even as she gets older. I am glad my mom was there for me and spanked me to when I needed it. My mom corrected all of us. But my sister when she was young still rebelled against my mom. And now we know why. It was my dads fault on that part because he ran all the time and never gave us attention. And my mom divorced him for good reasons. But my sister was still searching for that fatherly love and didn't get it. So I think that is why my sister is the way she is. But my mother blames herself for every thing and I told her not to because she did the best she could with us kids and loved us. And all my sister could do was hurt her. My sisters kids have know respect for anyone.

You are very right to do that to your friends kids. That shows them how much you care and you are showing them the right kind of love. And as they are growing up they will remember that from you and do the same thing. Love is the right way to get what they want.

Showing kids love and giving them hugs is never wrong. It also makes good sense to be friends with kids in the neighborhood, this way if they turn into hoodlums they'll leave you alone in their criminal activity. I make sure I'm on good terms with the kids in our neighborhood, because I genuinely like them and if they turn bad, they won't bother me--I hope. They also know I don't have money, that helps too.

I agree with you on a lot of this. The kids do learn and watch what there parents do and that is how they turn out. My sister was never know peach when she had her kids. Much less she wasn't ready to settle down. She ran all the time. And her kids had to grow up before there time. Witch was wrong out of my sister. I always watched what was put on my TV for my kids to watch when they were younger. sesame street,mr. rogers and educational stuff is what my kids watched. But know fighting stuff. But as for my sisters kids they pretty much watched whatever. I never use cuss words unless I am really mad over something and it has to be good. I don't cussing in front of anyone unless for good reason. I am protective over my kids even if they are older now. My youngest pushes my buttons every now and then but she doesn't do it long. I have raised my voice witch is one of the things I wish I could go back and change. But I didn't do it often. So my kids don't raise there voice to there own kids.

I did exactly as you did. Or I sat my child down on the couch when they were younger and they weren't allowed to move. But my sister never stuck to her word or punishments. My sister does need to send her kids somewhere to get straightened up I do know that. I know even when the law is like that I will still give my child a butt taping if she needs it. I won't let my child walk all over me.

You know, to this day my children do not talk back to me. They respect and love me, they also know that I respect and love them, unconditionally.
I have a grand daughter, 3 years old, who is, on one side a sweet dear, as three year olds are and on the other side, she is a vicious b****. She bites other children that she plays with, she even bit a newborn baby on the nose and left a mark. She attacks her parents, teeth and nails snapping and raking, she's left marks on them! Their response, "Now honey, you shouldn't do that.". Can you imagine this child at 12 or 13? She is the only grandchild that I will not keep here as I do the others. I will not have a 3 year old attack me, but I do not dare smack her on the bottom. Her cousins do not want to play with her and when she starts school, she will be a major problem. My heart aches for her because I do not see a good future for her. This is a prime example of what we are doing to our children, they are not being taught consequences for our actions, they are not taught to respect others (human or animal) and they certainly are not taught to respect themselves. An occasional, deserved, smack on the butt could turn this child into the sweet baby she should be. We need more of this.

That is good your kids respect you and you respect them along with your grand kids. Now the one that bites others her parents need to correct her for doing that. My daughter when she was young she bit herself but never others. And I always told her your not hurting anybody but yourself and your temper wont get you very far. She finally stopped doing that to herself because she realized that it hurt.

That is sad when kids grow up to be someone they shouldn't be. They tend to regret it later. I did call the cops on my oldest daughter once but she straightened up. And she is 20 and had a 1 month old baby now. She has grown up a lot sense that day happened.

That is very true if you train your child the right way he or she wont for get it. I agree know human is perfect in anyway shape or form. I have always wanted my kids to be better then me and even a better parent then me in raising there children. Your right all kids don't turn out the way we want them to. Some kids turn out very bad and others turn out to be really good. And the ones that turned out bad we always sit there and wonder what we did wrong or where did it go wrong that my child turned out this way.