I'm in a bad mood!!
By katsmeow1213
@katsmeow1213 (28716)
United States
July 3, 2009 12:24pm CST
I'm likely to snap for no reason what so ever, because I'm just in a terribly bad mood!! It's nothing serious, it's just life has got me down. It happens to the best of us, and I'll snap out of it soon enough.
I'm still dealing with only 1 vehicle, which does not make life very easy. Especially since all the kids are home on summer vacation, and I can't let them outside here for many reasons, lack of a yard being one of them. So we're all stuck inside the house which isn't at all fun. I could drive hubby to work so I could have the car, and aside from not being able to afford the extra gas to keep doing this, the weather isn't cooperating so there's not much I can do even with the car! Although the other day we did go play at the park in the rain just to get out of the house!
Add to that the fact that the vehicle repairs are eating up our every last dime, and I've gone well over a month without being able to spend my usual amount on groceries. Do you have any idea how hard it is to feed a family of 7 on only $50 or $100 a week? We thought things were supposed to be better a few weeks ago, and they were better... for like 1 week. Then because both cars had to break down at the same time... it all fell apart again!!
I am just emotionally and mentally exhausted right now and venting about it isn't even helping anymore. 
So this is pretty much why I've been rather low key lately, I'm just too tired and frazzled to keep up with anything!
What do you do when life has you down, when everything is piling up at once?
Do you have something you'd like to vent about today?
So this is pretty much why I've been rather low key lately, I'm just too tired and frazzled to keep up with anything!
What do you do when life has you down, when everything is piling up at once?
Do you have something you'd like to vent about today?1 person likes this
18 responses
@cynthiann (18612)
• Jamaica
3 Jul 09
I am amazed that you are still sane! I cannot imagine having 4 children in the house 24/7. It mnust be so difficult as they are naturally full of energy and want to let off steam. I've been thinking about what you can do. You already know how to stretch a dollar so I cannot assist you there.
Are there any food banks in your area that you could go to? This could help a little. I know that you already use the library facilities but ofg copurse wothout a car, then you cannot reach.
Have you ionvestigated if there are any summer camps that are organised by volunteer associations? Perhaps your city counci;l can help you with this one. Thus would get the kids doing something constructive and give you a break. You have to get out. When your husband comes home even go to the mall for a couple of hours by yourself and walk and walk around. I am so sorry - I am sure that others who know the system will come up with better ideas. This is a tough time but you will get through this and you have got through other situations. I pray to God that you will be able to get the other car fixed soon.
@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
3 Jul 09
Because we've been in this situation for about a month, I've already exhausted every resource I could think of, like the food banks and such, so that makes it all worse. We should be okay after this week is over, and we're still trying to sell hubby's computer to help us through this rough patch. Unfortunatly it's even more frustrating that some people have the gall to offer over $100 LESS than I'm asking for!
@cynthiann (18612)
• Jamaica
3 Jul 09
I am so sorry - often people take advantage when buying from another person if they know that the person is really hard up and needs the money. This is so awful for you but I klnow that you have the strength to get through it. You are a strong courageous lady and you will get through. Take great care of yourself.
@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
3 Jul 09
Thanks. I'm sure I'll feel better tomorrow when hubby finally gets a day off. I'm just exhausted today which isn't helping things.
@smartie0317 (1610)
• United States
3 Jul 09
For me, when I am to stressed to see straight I sometimes have to lie to myself and say "Everything is great! I'm happy!" That usually helps and makes me smile a little. On the bright side, be glad you have a vehicle. I'd really like one at the one at the moment and can't afford it. Everything seems more expensive and to take longer when you don't have one.
Right now, I'm very annoyed with a male friend I have/had. He was pursuing me for a relationship and is now chasing a girl who is a slapper and dating someone else. I am very hurt by his lack of care for me. I also feel like I will never find a good guy.
@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
3 Jul 09
He's not worth your time! Trust me on that, he's probably only interested in one thing, that's why he's going after her. You're better off without a guy like that, he's a pathetic loser!
@cynthiann (18612)
• Jamaica
3 Jul 09
Amen to Kat. Stay clear of anyone like this - only will bring you grief!
@lilybug (21107)
• United States
3 Jul 09
I am sorry to hear that things are still pretty rough for you guys. I know you had said things should have gotten better by now, but the car thing just nailed you again. I can't even imagine how hard it is to feed 7 people on $50-$100 a week. I cannot imagine that it is easy at all.
I do have several things bothering me right now, but I have vented to family about it enough I think. Well, one of them anyway. This one thing in particular is not making my life very easy right now even though it is for the best.
@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
3 Jul 09
My ears are always open, I have no problem listening to others vent... sometimes it's exactly what you need to put your own problems in perspective! You know how to message me if you want to let off steam.
@cynthiann (18612)
• Jamaica
3 Jul 09
Hey guys, you forget that this old lady has been officially diagnosed by a Cardiologist as having a big (enlarged) heart? I'm hear if either of you two sweetie pies needs me.
@ZephyrSun (7381)
• United States
4 Jul 09
LOL Well you asked... I got my husband to stay home from work Thursday morning with the kids because I had to go to court since my ex-husband won't pay a dime for any expenses for the children that him and I have together. He didn't show but his attorny did so we proceeded without him and it was just a bunch of talking and the case was continued once again (I filed a motion in December of 08). I haven't talked to my mom in a month (mother's day) because she took her cheating lying husband back and now I won't talk to her because I'm p*ssed. I don't feel any better either LOL
@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
4 Jul 09
Glad I'm not the only one with problems! Sorry you had to go through all that. Too bad about your mom, that's just a shame she doesn't have the courage to stand on her own and tell him to shove off! Hope you get the child support you need.
@thedailyclick (3017)
•
3 Jul 09
I can really empathise as I always seem to go from having a good few days where life appears to be working out and then suddenly everything in the world seems to be conspiring against me and all I want is for the world to swallow me up.
It’s never easy but what I try and do when life gets to me is to try and find one positive thing happening in my life and slowly try to find more and more till the positives start to out weigh the negatives.
The important thing to remember is that even though things are getting on top of you right now, things can change all of a sudden and you can be back on an upward spiral before you know it.
Hope life starts to swing back the other way for you soon.
@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
3 Jul 09
We should be okay after this week is over, and I'll probably start feeling better as soon as tomorrow. It hasn't helped that my husband didn't get a day off this week like he usually does, but he'll get the next 2 days off, so that will be less stressful for me.
@EliteUser (3964)
• Australia
28 Sep 09
Hey,
Well when I am really down, I just flip open my laptop and just listen to some music that will hopefully calm me down. Most of the time it does, but if it doesn't, I just log in to myLot and just reply to discussions. Make sure you have a good day, God bless and Happy Lotting!!
@lingli_78 (12821)
• Australia
4 Jul 09
i'm so sorry to hear about your condition kats and i can understand why... i had read your previous discussion as well about trying to entertain your active children without spending money... that must be really hard... i hope your situation will get better... good luck... take care and have a nice day...
@smileonstar (4007)
• United States
4 Jul 09
Hello,
IT is hard for everyone now, not you and not me. I am sorry to heard all the hard time for you and your family. I used to fall in that situation once and I was so frustrate about life and money so bad. I ended up with no money in my purse at all, I had to limit myself on spending,even food and my kids stuff.
I was so hard to get those money to spend around, then I started to learn how to save pennies and dimes I have. Now, I am all good with it... and I still keep doing it, and it will help me when a rainy day coming.
First, everytime I have change from where I shope... $1 or so I will put in my piggy bank, I this every single day. last month, I counted them and guess what I got? I have like over $400 and this help me a lot.
@3SnuggleBunnies (16374)
• United States
4 Jul 09
When life has me down I like to talk to a good friend or relative or find something that will occupy my mind...
I dunno about venting as I did it on another post the other day about my sil & her kids being messy & then talking about my "mess". Who leaves a case of empty soda cans strewn about??? They also put on in my laundry basket and got a few items wet even. But yet they can contribute to the "mess" but not pick up their own... & then criticize me! 
@zhuhuifen46 (3483)
• China
4 Jul 09
I really feel the same as you, and this reminds of the days in my childhood, when my mum had a tough time during the vacations for the tuition of the next semester. She could hardly make two ends meet, Dad had no more to take home other than the salary. She managed it and we are grateful to her. Now she is over 90, happy and healthy. The tides will be over, the family needs a strong mother.
@Ruby722 (796)
• China
4 Jul 09
Sorry to hear that.Maybe i can't understand how your feeling.I can't imagine in your shoes.But i know it's must be very hard.You kids only can stay in house.Your can't afford so much money for kids paly games.Don't be upset.I think everything will be fine.just holding on..And when i am in a bad mood.Actually i will listen some music.
@AndrewBoi (369)
• Philippines
4 Jul 09
I have financial problem too but I live life in a simple way. I am just satisfied with my life but I have the desire to gain and settle for more. Let's just work hard and be wise. Above all, let us pray.
@candy2306 (576)
• India
4 Jul 09
Oh..yours is 10 times more tensed than mine. I rather not tell of my mood. I'm just feeling so tired and I'll be all good after a good 10 hours of sleep. Yes, whole 10 hours, to get back all my energy which was drained due to back to back wedding functions!
You're a strong person and you can handle this situation very well!
@submerryn (1304)
• Malaysia
4 Jul 09
so sorry to hear bout your life. but DONT feel sorry! get up and enjoy the sunshine. i know life is hard. i do get 'depressed' from time to time. i was a full time working mother, and after i had my boy, i quit and be a stay at home mother. being out of job with no income, my self value goes down the drain and i'm not happy at the beginning stage. but now, i learn to enjoy my time with my boy and life is even better than when i was working. i'd tell you to take all the negative aspects in your life and work to make it positive! the sun will shine on you again! cheers.
@mrakobesie (1246)
• United States
3 Jul 09
when i'm in a bad mood i just play with my cats. they are so adorable you can't possibly stay mad for long. they got me through a lot of hard times with no time to relax. being in the toughest nursing program in the state is not easy, but these guys can always keep me happy.
@SomeCowgirl (32189)
• United States
3 Jul 09
I am so sorry that everything is coming all at once. I've seen that happen here, everything seems to need repair, etc, but I haven't had to deal with it yet. I hope that you and your husband can get back on your feet soon. When push comes to shove, you could always try to sell some of the things that aren't valuable to you for a few bucks, it beats having so much stress. Well good luck to you. Sign up to freecycle if your not already, you can ask people for things you want or need, and people offer things all the time there. Atleast here in my area.
@jellymonty (2352)
•
4 Jul 09
I feel for you honey as I know what its like to feed a bunch of hungry seven brothers and us all being ramped in a two bedroomed house.. with no car, no money for public transportation.. It's a phase dear and everybody has to endure some kind of problems in life.
The key to overcoming stress and a crazy download of problems is to be thankful for what you have and appreciate that at least you still got your lives and you have loved ones around. I usually just thank God for the little blessings I cannot see with my physical eyes and make the best of what I've got at that moment.
venting out your anger will not solve anything. In fact research has shown that venting out your anger only makes thins worse. So put a brave smile on your, turn on the positivity switch and you will see your life getting better everyday. I hope it will work out for you soon.
@khayshenz (1384)
• United States
3 Jul 09
Ohhhh Ms. Kat - I'm so sorry to hear that. I know you can't probably afford any board games or anything like that for your kids but they could be good for indoor fun. Would they enjoy arts and crafts - coloring and all that? I'm not sure how old they are.
I hope you reached payout here - it's not much, but that's an additional 10 dollars in your pocket.
Just hang in there, I'm sure it'll get better!!
