my offer for help got rejected ........

Hi. Maybe your friend didn't hire you because you are his friend. Sometimes it not a good idea to hire friends that you don't want to lose.:) Be positive about it. Did he give you a reason?

I have never gotten rejected when I have offered to help with something I am experienced with but I think if it were to happen I would probably feel disappointed and sad. I would also ask for a reason so that I don't feel too bad about myself.

You are right it was his loss and not yours. Better luck next time.

Happy myLotting!!!

That's true, it's his loss and not yours. And so you don't need to feel bad about what had happened. It is one of the events that I think we have experienced in our life. I offered to carry the load of an old lady because I saw her having a difficult time carrying the load. But when I offered my help, she just stared at me from head to foot and rejected my offer. I just smiled and went my way. It might be that since I'm not good looking, she suspected me of running away with her load!

i HAVE & it does make u feel odd when it happens. I bet he was afraid you'd do a better job then him. Don't worry about it like u said it's his loss.

Let me put it this way. The worst person to work for is a friend or a family member. They make the worst bosses also. You lose friendships also working for friends if something goes wrong like losing the job. Let's say for example he had hired you. And something went wrong and he had to let you go. That could have hurt the friendship. I know it happened to me. I had a great friend at work and moved in with her. She became my supervisor. And well things didn't work out at work. So before I knew it things didn't work any more at home. Maybe your friend values your friendship more than having you as an employee!! Don't think of it as a rejection. Think that your friend likes you so much they didn't want to lose you as a friend for any reason so they didn't want to have to face being your boss have to maybe someday say "You're Fired!" Hope this helps:)

I do not have friends who work and so this situation has never risen before me, but I think I was never rejected for help when I offered it to my friends and they were happy to have me around.

bourne

Sometimes it's hard to work with a friend, especially if one would be under the other friend's supervision there would be situations that might put a strain on your friendship. Maybe that's why your friend rejected your offer to help, because he values more your friendship and didn't want to put that friendship to a test. We'll never know what his real reasons are, I guess. I've experienced rejecting friends' offers for help too and vice versa. Sometimes it has something to do with pride too, like one doesn't want to appear to be too dependent on his friend.

Honestly, no. When I offered my help to someone, they more than glad to accept. Except someone is totally stranger, they might thought that I want something in return from them. But for your friend, probably he afraid that you want him to pay a high price for you, that is probably the only reason he can't accept your help.

Hmmm like the first one said maybe your help just got rejected because your friend is kind of shy. (I mean maybe in his mind he thinking that he is using much of your time) So, don't rush to conclusions easily because it may just seem that the person you offered help with is an independent person or just a shy person.

I cant say I completely understand how you feel in this situation. I have always offered help to my friends and luckily they have always gladly accepted.

Putting myself in your position, if I do get rejected by a friend for offering help, at first I would feel bad. WHY? It's not like im asking for anything in exchange of that help. But as a friend, I would simply wait for another opportunity when my friend needs help. It's not like this is the last time you can offer help to a friend. Maybe he/she was just too occupied and had a lot of things in mind. Just be an understanding friend.:)

maybe something else came up and he forgot to tell you considering theres a deadline to meet. Just dont feel bad if he rejected the offer, sometimes when a friend offers help, we reject it because we dont want to loose then as a friend and there are people that doesnt want to feel that they owe someone something. Its may not be monetary and maybe he doesnt want to feel n debt or something. I think its best if you talk to him if he is really your friend and check what really happened before you jump into conclusions. Remember, theres always 2 side of the story.