my offer for help got rejected ........

I have one friend right now who has all the qualifications and education to land him a decent job. What boggles most of us, his close friends, is that every time we try to refer jobs to him, he doesn't seem to be interested. He keeps saying that he does not have the job experience. I mean, how can he get job experiences when he doesn't even apply for jobs! Well, there are some people that you really cannot help, even if you want to or your intentions are for the good of that person.

hmm, it has happened to me, when people think I am not good enough at the job. Genereally things related to computers, people think they are oh so smart....Most of these people have used computers for 3 years at max, I've been doing for 10. The internet too most of them have used for 2 years,maybe, I 8 years. And still they prefer to think if they cant' do it I can't
Also yesterday at my company, someone tried to hang an air blower to a nail which is above everyone's height,
It so happened that theere is an extension cord, which was kept vertically on frame of the roof. So the boss suggested it be made horizontal so that no one is hurt, so the point is, the nail on the board was lower earlier, now it was higher...So no one could reach it...I am taller than all of them, so I offered help. However the guy who had it kept jumping to reach it, instead of giving it to me. FInally he did succeed, it would have been a lot less trouble if I had done it, because I can reach it with my hands w/o jumping

Maybe your friend is just arrogant that you are smarter than him, or maybe its his ego that keeps him from accepting help from a friend, or maybe he plain thinks he'll manage it somehow....

hi, i agree that its his loss not yours.. and yes it is weird too,i mean, if i was your friend and need help, my friends, especially the one whose really capable, are in the first list that i ask for help. i think, he must have some good reason why he rejected your offer. well, my advise is, don't take that very hard, you are a good friend by offering some help to him. enjoy your days ok... thanks

Yes, I have experienced this myself too. I guess that some people want to find their own way if they have problems. I feel now that it is best not to take it to heart if somebody rejects my advice and does it their own way.. - Derek

Many times. Makes you wonder...just "WHAT" kind of friend, they thought YOU were to them. I know it always leaves me feeling kind of funny.

Are they, WERE they, really my friend after all, or what?

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It does make you wonder doesn't it? What is really going on. I think I would like a straight answer as to why I wasn't able to help. It may just be a misunderstanding or it could be trouble that if you catch it early you can fix the relationship.

It has been along time but I remembering never offering to help that person ever again.

I also experienced this kind of situation, but I let it pass and never offered help again to that friend. Don't mop too much of your friend's rejection, one day he will realized how precious your help was.