What if you found out that one of your boss has an affair with your co-worker?

@johndur (3052)
Pasig, Philippines
July 11, 2009 3:33am CST
I actually experienced it in one of my previous work.and what i have done is just to shut my mouth and pretend that i knew nothing about their relationship even if i know that it is strictly prohibited in the company to have those kind of relationships...i just stayed away from the topic.what about you guys?what would you do if you were in my shoes?
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8 responses
• Philippines
17 Aug 09
That's really hard. If that co-worker is a friend of mine, I think I will advice him or her. This is irritating in the eye to see them being sweet knowing your friend is just your friend and co-worker and he or she is being sweet with your boss. Boss is higher authority. There is no respect in that. I will advice him or her to separate his or her personal life at work and be professional. But if I am not close to a co-worker, I will not divulge in their situation . That is their personal life, but I am sure that is very irritating to see them and it is never right that they have relationship and they are working together. It will be a source of gossip in the workplace. there is no working ettiquete there. One must sacrifice.
@johndur (3052)
• Pasig, Philippines
29 Jan 10
it is really irritating in my eyes but i cant do anything besides if i do any steps in reporting them to the higher authorities im sure sooner or later i will be the one they will be pushing out of the company since my superior is involve in it.since i dont wanted to be the sacrifice i just kept my silence and just ignored them.thanks for your response...
• India
12 Jul 09
I would do the exact same thing you have done, just play silent, thats the best option. It could get you into troubles for exposing the act al together and may complicate your growth and stability in that organization. We ll, as for the truth, it will come out in its due course.....
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@johndur (3052)
• Pasig, Philippines
19 Jan 10
thats right,no secret remains secret... thanks for the response
@carolbee (16230)
• United States
11 Jul 09
I would have kept my lips sealed just as you did. It's just safer that way if you wanted to keep the job. Eventually something will happen and they will get caught. The odds of them remaining together without getting caught are slim. Someone tells someone else and it snowballs from there right back to the couple or even worse one of their spouses, if they have a spouse. I think you did the right thing.
@johndur (3052)
• Pasig, Philippines
19 Jan 10
thats right! thanks for your response
@carolbee (16230)
• United States
19 Jan 10
Thanks for giving me the best response.
@sid556 (30953)
• United States
19 Jan 10
I'd do just the same as you. I'd ignore it as long as it isn't affecting their work or mine in any way. If they are professional enough to keep their relationship separate from their work then I really don't care what they do on their own time. Most companies have this rule but also will overlook it as long as it isn't affecting the job.
@johndur (3052)
• Pasig, Philippines
29 Jan 10
thanks for your response.
@tjades (3590)
• Jamaica
12 Jul 09
I would not allow their affair to concern me either. What they do is their business as long as it does not jeaprodise my work in anyway. If their actions affected or threatened my employment in anyway then Id possibly say something to the boss. Id rather lose my job while trying to save it rather than to go down without a fight. Other than that, their affair is their business.
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@johndur (3052)
• Pasig, Philippines
19 Jan 10
very well said. thanks for the response
@Wizzywig (7847)
11 Jul 09
Much the same as you... it would be none of my business unless it affected some aspect of my work - eg. if I had more work to do because the co-worker was spending work time on the relationship.
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@johndur (3052)
• Pasig, Philippines
11 Jul 09
thats right one for bud!!!!
• United States
13 Jul 09
i just dont talk about it and stay away from that boss as much as possible so he doesnt come after me or something lol
@johndur (3052)
• Pasig, Philippines
29 Jan 10
yeah thats what i have done....thanks for your response
@khayshenz (1384)
• United States
12 Jul 09
Like everyone else - I would keep my mouth shut. It's none of my business. However, I would look for a different job because that's not ethical neither is it professional. Especially if what they're doing (or not doing) will start weighing down on my productivity (i.e. when they're fighting, they would take it out on me or have a power struggle, etc). Additionally, your boss represents your company. If he's involved in something so unprofessional, what does that say about the company?
@johndur (3052)
• Pasig, Philippines
29 Jan 10
thats right.thanks for your response..