where ae you looking while you are listening?  

When I'm communicating with someone, I usually look at the eyes first, then to some other parts and back to the eyes, then somewhere else. I don't feel good if someone I'm talking to is staring at my eyeballs all the time. And so I just look at the eyes then goes somewhere. There were times that while a friend is talking, I just look at the eyes and the result was the stop in talking and telling me, "why are you looking at me like that?"

Let me think.I really do stare at person's eyes sometimes,especially when I don't believe the things I'm being told.I often look at hands,how they move,at my own hands or something neutral around.I never look at the lower parts of the body because some people get it wrong.Especially men.

I do look at someone when they are talking to me. I usually keep eye contact. I know what you mean about the body language.

I try very hard to look the other person in the eyes, when they are talking to me. I want them to know that I am very interested in what they are saying, trivial or not. If it is me that is talking, I would want the undivided attention from the person who is listening - I don't like it when they are looking all over the place while I am trying to talk to them. It simply gives me the impression that I am boring them to death, and they would rather be elsewhere. Therefore, when someone is talking to me, I make sure I don't give them that impression.

Even if that person has trouble talking, or is slow in communicating, I still try to keep eye contact. They, undoubtedly, know when we look away it is because we are uncomfortable looking at them. It is very important to be a good listener, even if it makes me uncomfortable, or I am running out of time. Nothing is too precious than being available for someone when they need to talk.

Initially I look at the eyes, but please do not discount a persons body language because it reveals so much more than thespoken word. It can clue you into whether they are happy or perhaps agitated or depresses. But youdo have to ballance it with the spoken word. So I would say you need to be able to listen and look at the body lanquge to be a good listener. Reflective listening is also effective in finding out what your friends are really feeling and saying. Some eye contact is better than no eye contact as your friendsmay start to think your bored

I try to make eye contact, but often find that I lower my eyelids, almost like half asleep. I got counted down on that in debate class. I wonder if I felt I listened and communicated better that way. Never thought about it.

I usually look at the person, i like seeing the body language. people often talk with their eyes more then their lips. So the most important messages are on the face. but that's just me :)

Hi savypat, It depends, if the person has come to me with something that is important to him/her, and wants my opinion, I will look the person in the face and give them my full attention. If it's just a regular conversation, I may be looking away but listening at the same time. blessings.

Yes, I do look away a little when someone is talking to me. I do find the body language a little distracting when I am conversing with someone. I don't know if it is considered rude to look away though.

It is important to keep looking at him when we talk with someone, especially in the first 5 minutes.