Beggars cannot be Choosers!

Whenever I've had someone ask me for money I always refuse but if I have the extra money and there's a resturant or convient store near by I offer to buy them a sandwich or soda. It really weeds out the ones that just want money for booze or drugs from the ones who are genuinley needy and need the help.

I hope you don't let this one experience effect how you look at homeless people. It could be this man has a mental illness which unfortunetly a lot of homeless do have.

It is sad that how one experience can totally change one's perspective. I hope that you will continue to be compassionate and sensitive of others who need help. Don't let this one bad experience ruin it for others who truly need help and would be most grateful for it.

How can be that beggar so rude and so chossy? Lol.
Hes taking advantage of the kindess you showed to him.
I dont give alms to beggars especially if i saw them with good health and not totally disabled. They can work on their own. I would'nt want them to think that money can easily be get just by begging. They should also learn a lesson and have to strive hard.

The nerve of that beggar! I think he deserves where he is right now because of that callous attitude. I think not all beggars are like that, you just happen to meet this kind of a person. I think the beggar is expecting money not food and drink. Very few people does that and I think that you just made a good gesture and you should not be discourage in helping others because of that incident. In our place we have lots of street children that begs for money. There are times when my wife would just share food with them and they would gleefully accept it and feelt grateful for that treat.

It doesn't matter what everyone else does. It's what you do that counts!!! Yours was an act of kindness. You didnot just give him money to buy beer. You bought good healthy food. You are an Angel! Seems that the beggar has some lessons to learn. Some have to hurt until it is easier to change. Then again, he might just think about what happened. Sometimes the little things can change a person. Drama seems to always come around change so never let it bother you. The beggar needed a jolt of reality which you supplied.Don't let this ever keep you from interacting with a stranger or stop those wonderful acts of kindness. The goodness is in you!!!! Isn't that just too valuable to give up?

Hey Jelly,
Sorry to hear what happened to you. At times you are going to meet some weird people and then again u will meet some really needy person too. Its becoz people like him the real needy person dont get the money or food.
I instead of giving money to beggers, I try to help the poor. Its like if i c a poor man selling something and i feel he is in real need of money, I pay him some extra money of what he is selling. I also some times donate money to charitable organisation which helps women and children who are vicitms of domestic voilence.
There is an organization called CRY and its for education of small children. People should donate money to such places. I request you to not stop donating as there are genuine people who need help.

Cheers,
Tutul

Hi jellymonty,

You're right, beggars can't be choosers. In this case, the option you gave was actually a better one - just taking the effort to buy him a sandwich and juice, enough to make him last until the next meal - it was to me going the extra mile. A pity the beggar didn't appreciate it and it turned out a sandwich was the last thing on his mind. We do have a lot of beggars in my country too and yes, some are choosy as to what kind of alms they are willing to take. Some even demand for a certain amount, and will curse you if you give less than what they expect. However there are also those that are really in need, these are the ones I am willing to share my blessings with.

I lived in Vegas for 8 years and one thing I learned is NEVER give a beggar money. So you did right. Sorry about the experience. Most of these people have substance abuse problems,and that's why they are homeless, and they seem to like it that way. Some of these folks are mentally ill. Most of the truly honest homeless are in some kind of program and trying to do something about their plight.

Don't feel discouraged. Usually, on occasion you might find someone who you truly think needs compassion & help. It's best to talk with these people first and find out where their head is at. Then ask them if they are hungry, and suggest a couple of things you are willing to buy them to eat. That way if they have a food allergy, you are not wasting your time or money.

Never give these people money. If they have a substance abuse problem, the money you give them goes to support it.

beggars also come house to house, one time we gave him rice, he complained, just rice??? duh... so demanding...

Hi, you are great initiative in helping beggar or poor, i appreciate you very much, in Japan there are many people indifferent towards the beggars, they thought that many beggars were lost in bad management and business scandal, so they prefer looking down on the losers or to be ashamed to get along with them, Japanese don't forgive lazy and lost man in tradition, your good deed encourage me to learn respecting and helping the poor.

Well, i think there are some problems in your behave, before you buy food to give that beggar, why don't you ask him which food he wants to eat at first? when the beggar dislike this kind of food, you say to him "...I'm giving you some food and now you're being fussy??" he misunderstands that you are insulting hime, and he gets angry, it is no wonder that the the beggar's pride is too big and you talk with him with careful words. Buddy.