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Which person do you turn to first in a time of need, and why? email this discussion to a friend?

myLot reputation of 99/100. PeacefulWmn9 (2773)   ranked 289 out of 23,272 in relationships4 months ago

happy Hello all. I think we each have one particular person to whom we turn first in a time of need...friend, family member, spiritual guide, or if a student, perhaps an adult you're close to other than a parent.

For me, to this day, grown as I am, the first person I turn to when I am need of wisdom, empathy, or love and understanding is my mother. She is the person I most trust in this world.

Who is the person you turn to first in a time of need, and why?

 
 
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1. myLot reputation of 95/100. mjmlagat (1980)   ranked 60 out of 23,272 in relationships   4 months ago

hello there! it all depends on the type of need i'll be needing but most likely i turn to God first for everything. i know for sure He has all the answers to my prayers by answering my needs..it may not be the answers i always expect but at least it would be something that leads me to it.


myLot reputation of 99/100. PeacefulWmn9 (2773)   ranked 289 out of 23,272 in relationships  4 months ago

happy Hello to you, Mj. It is true we tend to turn to different sources, depending on the need and the situation. God, of course, is a "best source." I agree that God answers each and every prayer, sometimes in a most unexpected way, but always in the way we most need...even if the answer is "no" or "not right now." happy

Thank you for your response and have a great weekend. thumbup

Karen

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2. myLot reputation of 96/100. abbypringles (829)   ranked 1,916 out of 23,272 in relationships   4 months ago

My boyfriend is the first person with whom I share all of my problems too. I used to do that with my mom, but now I spend more time with my boyf and gets to vent out my frustrations, fears, worries, or anything that bugs me at that moment. Sometimes, he does not even say anything at all and just allow me to let those negative feelings out and it does so much to make me feel better. Just knowing that he's there willing to listen lightens up my burden because I know that I am not alone in facing all my battles in life. happy


myLot reputation of 99/100. PeacefulWmn9 (2773)   ranked 289 out of 23,272 in relationships  4 months ago

happy Hello there Abby. I think it is wonderful that you can go to your boyfriend with anything and that he is there for you in whatever way you need him to be. We all need a "trusted someone" to whom we can vent. It is a heathy situation you seem to have with your guy. thumbup

Have a lovely weekend. happy

Karen

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3. myLot reputation of 99/100. kitty42 (1165)   ranked 3,099 out of 23,272 in relationships   4 months ago

Hello my friend happy

I would have to say my Daughter, she is pretty honest and if something is wrong or right she just tells me how she feels about it, I trust her, my mom there is somethings I wont say to my mom that is just me, my sisters tell my mother everything, I can't Its not that I don't trust her its just that I don't feel comfortable talking to her about certain things. shocked


myLot reputation of 99/100. PeacefulWmn9 (2773)   ranked 289 out of 23,272 in relationships  4 months ago

happy Hi Kitty:) How wonderful when our kiddos are old enough not only to be still our "children" but our friends, as well. It's also good to get that honest advice, rather than someone merely saying what they think we want to hear.

I'm glad you have her...and that she has you. That is a beautiful thing, Kitty. thumbup

Enjoy the weekend. happy

Karen


myLot reputation of 99/100. kitty42 (1165)   ranked 3,099 out of 23,272 in relationships  4 months ago

Hello my friend happy



Yes we are lucky to have each other,I love her so much thumbup


You have a great weekend as well my friend happy


myLot reputation of 99/100. PeacefulWmn9 (2773)   ranked 289 out of 23,272 in relationships  4 months ago

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myLot reputation of 99/100. kitty42 (1165)   ranked 3,099 out of 23,272 in relationships  4 months ago

Hello my friend happy


Thank you happy shocked


myLot reputation of 99/100. PeacefulWmn9 (2773)   ranked 289 out of 23,272 in relationships  4 months ago

happy Hello:) I hope the birthday girl had a wonderful day, all day long, yesterday. thumbup


myLot reputation of 99/100. kitty42 (1165)   ranked 3,099 out of 23,272 in relationships  4 months ago

Smoochess my wonderful friend happy


You already know lol shocked, thats o.k always next year, I said to her what happened to my party she said we had a party me you and the kids lol confused

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4. myLot reputation of 97/100. lynnemg (3585)   ranked 1,007 out of 23,272 in relationships   4 months ago

God first and foremost, then, I normally call my Mom. She always has an ear to listen to me and does what she can to help me out. My Dad is the same way, so if Mom is not available or isn't the one to answer the phone, I talk to Dad. I would like to say that it is my husband to whom I turn to first, but he is notmally too busy to really listen and has a horrible habit of walking away in the middle of a conversation. I tell him everything, just not always right away; a lot of the time, it is after I have already spoken to Mom and/or Dad.


myLot reputation of 99/100. PeacefulWmn9 (2773)   ranked 289 out of 23,272 in relationships  4 months ago

happy Hi Lynne:) I like how you have arranged your priorities. What would we do without God and moms and dads anyway?

I get how that might feel, as I had a husband like that, too. Perhaps he didn't mean it to hurt and was simply pre-occupied, but...it made me feel rather unimportant anyway. sad

Have a fun and relaxing weekend and thank you for your input here. thumbup

Karen

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5. myLot reputation of 95/100. weasel81 (1189)   ranked 849 out of 23,272 in relationships   4 months ago

all depends on what it's in relation to. i don't go to my mum, i know shes there for me but i just don't. i'd most likely turn to my boss or work mate, my boss is really understanding and can help. my work mate ends up being the one i vent it out to, he can change things to make a bit more sense at times.


myLot reputation of 99/100. PeacefulWmn9 (2773)   ranked 289 out of 23,272 in relationships  4 months ago

happy Hello to you:) I think it's not so much who we go to, as that we have someone we can trust and who welcomes us when we need to talk. It's great that you have an understanding boss, and also that your work mate can help in adding a new perspective to whatever you might be going through. happy

Thank you for sharing that. thumbup

Karen

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6. myLot reputation of 90/100. madugulagopi (664)   ranked 7,779 out of 23,272 in relationships   4 months ago

As already said it depends on the need i have but so far i have turned to my father for advise on every problem i faced because he is not only a father but he is my mentor and most importantly he thinks in a more practical way and that impresses me a lot and thats why i turn to him in every need and if he doesn't know about what to do in a particular problem, he takes me to the right person who can help me out.So far all his advises helped me a lot and iam very grateful to my dad....


myLot reputation of 99/100. PeacefulWmn9 (2773)   ranked 289 out of 23,272 in relationships  4 months ago

happy Hello to you:) Yes, the nature of what we need to discuss often helps us know who to go to. I think it's wonderful that your father is not only your confidant, but also your mentor. That is a nice combination for a parent to be!thumbup And I am sure your gratitude to him matters a great deal to your father.

Have a happy weekend and thank you for sharing a bit of yourself here. happy

Karen

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7. myLot reputation of 86/100. doglady112 (316)   ranked 1,500 out of 23,272 in relationships   4 months ago

I would have to say that my sister is the person I turn to most for guidance. I think that 's it's because her and I are so much alike. I tend to think that we're too much a like. Either her or my step mom because she doesn't have a vested interest in my life and only wants me to be happy


myLot reputation of 99/100. PeacefulWmn9 (2773)   ranked 289 out of 23,272 in relationships  4 months ago

happy Hello Doglady. Sisters can be wonderful...not only a relative, but a great friend. I have a couple of sisters with whom I have been extra close since we were children.

I am glad you can go to your sister or your stepmom...both a blessing to you, I'm sure. happy

Enjoy your weekendthumbup

Karen

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8. myLot reputation of 99/100. ybonjoc (930)   ranked 909 out of 23,272 in relationships   4 months ago

I am glad and kind of jealous about the relationship you had with your mother Karen. happy.It is really different if you had your own family to turn to in times of needs.Well, for me, when I am in trouble, I prefer to look for my 2 best friends.Well so sad now that they are working abroad.I cannot just run to them if i need to.


myLot reputation of 99/100. PeacefulWmn9 (2773)   ranked 289 out of 23,272 in relationships  4 months ago

happy Hi Yvon. I do feel so very fortunate that my mom and I have remained close. I wish you had that, but since you don't, I am happy for you that you had those friends to turn to, but I know it must now be difficult with them living so far away. I wish someone wonderful to come into your life...someone to whom you can always turn. confused

Bless you, and I hope this weekend is a happy one for you. thumbup

Karen


myLot reputation of 99/100. ybonjoc (930)   ranked 909 out of 23,272 in relationships  4 months ago

It is really hard now I must admit.When me and hubby had some fights, I can't find someone to turn to and share my thoughts.So it made gives no option that I need to talk to my hubby though I hate him when we had fights.How I wish I have someone to sometimes teach me how to handle things, but no, I haven't had any.I must say I grew up independently.


myLot reputation of 99/100. PeacefulWmn9 (2773)   ranked 289 out of 23,272 in relationships  4 months ago

confused I can only imagine how difficult that must have been.

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9. myLot reputation of 95/100. dreamr802 (779)   ranked 2,711 out of 23,272 in relationships   4 months ago

I tend to turn to my boyfriend because we live together...also it depends on how serious the situation is. There really isn't much that anyone in my family can do because they live 1200 miles away from me and my boyfriend and his family lives far away from us as well.


myLot reputation of 99/100. PeacefulWmn9 (2773)   ranked 289 out of 23,272 in relationships  4 months ago

happy Hi Dreamr. I think in many ways it is good, preferable even, to be that close with the person you live with, with your partner. And even moreso when the families of each of you live a distance away. happy

May the two of you always know that closeness. thumbup

Karen

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10. myLot reputation of 98/100. tattylashes (4295)   ranked 47 out of 23,272 in relationships   4 months ago

i have a terribly hard time trusting people, only because i have been hurt so many times by the people who i trusted, so if i need to talk to someone and confide then it has to be my ex, he's the only person ever that's been loyal to me, i know he's my ex but he is the only one that i can trust more than anyone else, even close family members have hurt me in the past and have betrayed me so i do not even trust them, my ex lisens to me and will give me good advice, he's like a friend to me now, better than he was a boyfriend when we were together, so it would be him i would turn to if i needed someone to confide in.


myLot reputation of 99/100. PeacefulWmn9 (2773)   ranked 289 out of 23,272 in relationships  4 months ago

happy Hi Tatty. I have similar trust issues, sweetie, and for similiar reasons. So thank God for my mom, and for your ex. It's beautiful that you are friends, even though it didn't work out being a couple. happy

I am happy that you have at least him. Do take care and I hope the weekend is a happy one for you. thumbup

Karen


myLot reputation of 98/100. tattylashes (4295)   ranked 47 out of 23,272 in relationships  4 months ago

the funny thing is, we didn't get on that well when we were together but now it's like were best friends, i love him for the person he is but not ctually in love with him any more, we have a strong bond, i keep telling him to meet a nice woman but he said he's touching 60 now and doesn't feel the need to start dating again, he's 14 years older than me and we were together for 13 years, but our friendship is precious, infact he is still friends with his ex wives too and i am also friends with one of them, the other ex doesn't like me for some reason but that doesn't bother me, the relationship i have with my ex is special and i all always be friends with him, he's a good man. i trust him more than i do my own family.


myLot reputation of 99/100. PeacefulWmn9 (2773)   ranked 289 out of 23,272 in relationships  4 months ago

happy That is a very unique and special relationship, Tatty, one to be cherished. I am glad for you and for him that you are friends. happy

Karen

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