"Yesterday ended last night"
By zandi458
@zandi458 (28102)
Malaysia
September 21, 2009 5:35am CST
It is more valuable to look ahead and prepare than to look back and regret. Many people dwell deeply of what happened to their past lives. Once an issue has been settled there is no need to put further words across to reinforce what has transpired in the battle of words. There is no gain in blaming who is in the right or wrong. And to pull others to be the judge or witness is only rubbing more salt to the wound.
This is sad that it happened to people who I consider friends in mylot. But this is mylot where we uncover mysteries daily, the unknown meet the unknown which led to many happy and sad endings, like happiness in meeting of the hearts in mylot which would likely ends like the love story of Barbara Cartland many romantic novels. But there are no less sad endings when friendships die a natural death when the gate to mylot world is shut to those who disregard the iron rules of mylot. By resurrecting in another identity is fine but there is no need to stir the hornets nest as it would only mean you have not learned your bitter lesson. Don't let the past mistakes become memorials. They should be cremated, not embalmed. Subscribe to the life of your new self. Yesterday has passed forever and is beyond our control. What lies behind is insignificant compared to what lies ahead. Do you let go of all your past problems, mistakes, regrets and match forward in confidence?
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@offlimits (596)
• Philippines
22 Sep 09
Some people could not just accept the fact that yesterday is gone, that they can't take back things that they wish they can. They are attached to the past when they could actually look forward for a new tomorrow. I understand that some things are just so hard to let go easily, but for me, I always try to forget anything that is already finished and is too late to brag about. I know that I can do better next time, so why bother to dwell in the past? Past mistakes should be learned from to avoid commiting the same mistake again.
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@offlimits (596)
• Philippines
23 Sep 09
True enough. Even history repeats itself, though.
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@mysdianait (66005)
• Italy
21 Sep 09
Hi Zandi!
If we want to then we can learn from our past both from the good and the bad experiences that we have been through. However when mistakes are made, no amount of crying over spilt milk will put them right. Once an error has occurred we must move on and learn from it.
If we make a mistake here we can return and move on trying not to repeat the same error learning from it. We have two choices. We can pretend we are 'new' and deny any past history here at all. What base is that though for future friendships and what kind of respect would we be showing for those who accompanied us on our travels in our previous life here? 
We can start again admitting our mistake(s) and informing our friends of what happened. They might understand and they might not. We cannot know but we can be honest and lay the foundations for a new journey with no lies.
The choice is ours. I know which I would prefer as the truth is the foundation of every true friendship. I know it is possible to be honest and move on and learn from past mistakes paving the way for a new journey, closing the door behind us and learning from that journey not to take the wrong turnings on the next one 
We can start again admitting our mistake(s) and informing our friends of what happened. They might understand and they might not. We cannot know but we can be honest and lay the foundations for a new journey with no lies.
The choice is ours. I know which I would prefer as the truth is the foundation of every true friendship. I know it is possible to be honest and move on and learn from past mistakes paving the way for a new journey, closing the door behind us and learning from that journey not to take the wrong turnings on the next one
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@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
21 Sep 09
Hi diana, your words hold true for the continuity of friendships. To succeed we must be willing to shed part of our previous life. It is more valuable to look where we are going than to see where we've been. Those to whom yesterday still looks big aren't doing much today. We can't have a better future if we are thinking about yesterday today. 
@mysdianait (66005)
• Italy
21 Sep 09
We cannot hold on to ghosts from the past either
if we want a better future
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@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
22 Sep 09
There is no point regretting the past, it is futile, the point is to take whatever is valuable from yesterday and move on. You may have happy memories or bitter lessons from the past but the idea is to hold on onto only what is important and letting the rest go. Guilt and regret are futile emotions; if you’ve made a mistake make amends and let if go. What is most precious is NOW and once you become aware of that you will not want for anything, you have everything you need right now.
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@maygodblessu44 (7336)
• India
19 Oct 09
Hello my friend zandi458 Ji,
What you said with your experience holds very true under all conditions. But remember History ha ssomething got to do, it will always keep reminding you, your wrong ways, so taht you do not have to again and again commit, it means one should not forget, but remember by heart. Thos elessons atre learnt for ever. Let's wait for day to break and welcome new way of myLotting.
May God bless You and have great time.
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@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
20 Oct 09
It should be the way we structure ourselves here. We are people with right thinking mind and to dwell on past issues does not make any better out of us. It is only right that we march on and uncover each new day with a fresh start. Let bygones be bygones. I view this place as a pleasant place to interact and foster great friendships in the international arena and not to take matters too personal which only make us depress.
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@maygodblessu44 (7336)
• India
21 Oct 09
Hello my friend zandi458 Ji,
So nice of you for those positive comments. I count every next moment my life experience. I always remmebr our good-days and dump all those bad days in dust-bin. In fact, I always enjoy this company here. It is simply great feelings. Only few days back I met my neighbour, who had chance to stay China and Philipines for 2-3 yrs, as her hubby was in Job their. I wanted to know more about your culture and traditions, never to compare tehm as less importance, but just to know them that how do you take them into life.
May god bless You and have a great time.
@artistry (4151)
• United States
22 Sep 09
...Hi zandi458, Some people do not seem to be able to move forward, they like to roll around in what has ended a long time ago, if they thought they were wronged. I have a friend that I try to be a listener for when they have a problem, but they seriously get on my nerves when they start talking about what their aunt, who is not alive, did to them 10 years ago. I tell him to move on, what can you do now to change things, basically nothing. What are you going to do tomorrow to move your life ahead? Wasting time is non-productive, it would be good if people would learn. Take care.
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@ahgong (10064)
• Singapore
9 Nov 09
Yeah... yesterday has pass and beyond our control. Tomorrow is where we still have a choice.
Look back. Don't forget the past. But learn from it and become wiser when making a decision for tomorrow.
@derek_a (10873)
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21 Sep 09
I agree that blame and guilt are very destructive emotions. Once something is said or been done, it cannot be unsaid, or undone. Blaming and judging others is only going to cause problems for the person who makes such blame and judgement.
If everybody could forgive what a difference there would be in this world. - Derek
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@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
21 Sep 09
Thinking & worrying about the past is wasted time for sure altho at times i am guilty of doing that not alot but just at times. There is nothing we can do about what has happened in the past. what's done is done & of course we wish we could change some things but we can't so it's best to look toward the future. Live one day at the time & enjoy it, we want ever be able to get it back.
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@kawalnarang (1095)
• Trinidad And Tobago
21 Sep 09
There was never a need to cry over spilt milk as they say,, clean up,, put a glass of FRESH milk,, drink it enjoy and see about NOW,,Life is short ,,better to plan on the future,,not to waste any time over the past,,
