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myLot reputation of 83/100. Jhaszy (109)   ranked 2,084 out of 23,203 in relationships3 months ago

Had a chat one time with an american he told me that i should stop saying sorry for it shows i am weak..i told him saying sorry doesnt mean that way its shows that i know how to accept my mistake or i just dont want to argue or arguments..do u think i was right guys??how about you?do u agree????

 
 
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tags:  sorry, weak, weakness, apology, saying sorry
 
1. myLot reputation of 84/100. biman_s (583)   ranked 930 out of 23,203 in relationships   3 months ago

Accepting the truth and saying sorry doesn't mean you are weak it means that you are brave enough to admit your fault. Its takes a lot of courage to do something like that. No everyone has that much in them. Its good to say sorry sometimes. thumbup


myLot reputation of 83/100. Jhaszy (109)   ranked 2,084 out of 23,203 in relationships  3 months ago

wow!thanks for the response!!very well said!!!


myLot reputation of 84/100. biman_s (583)   ranked 930 out of 23,203 in relationships  3 months ago

I forgot to say Welcome to Mylot happy


myLot reputation of 83/100. Jhaszy (109)   ranked 2,084 out of 23,203 in relationships  3 months ago

Namaste!!same to you too..you are very much welcome to my lot also!!!


jkshan (38)  3 months ago

absolute right. acknowledging the fault is one brave thing to do.


myLot reputation of 80/100. valentinesdiner (386)   ranked 1,709 out of 23,203 in relationships  3 months ago

Isn't that something, that bravery in telling the truth is mistaken by some for weakness.


myLot reputation of 95/100. BlueAngelRS (585)   ranked 728 out of 23,203 in relationships  3 months ago

I agree with you biam not many people can truly say it and mean it....


myLot reputation of 99/100. aixshaonline (290)  3 months ago

Perfect. Nicely said, can't comment much further than what you posted:) Admitting you are at fault takes a lot of courage and not many people possess such a trait:) But taking on another person's mistake is a different story if you ask me:)


emseth (18)   ranked 14,101 out of 23,203 in relationships  3 months ago

saying sorry is good its make other people feel relieve over the issue behind it. it takes away anxiety after you've said something bad or done wrong big or small rather than turning away and avoiding the people that hurt you or the other way around.

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2. myLot reputation of 65/100. DiamondDogs (366)   ranked 10,727 out of 23,203 in relationships   3 months ago

I think it depends on the context in which it's being used.
Some people use it as a polite word and it doesn't mean that they really feel sorry.
The weakness part comes into it when you say sorry for your own opinion that may be disagreeable to others. Nobody should feel that their opinion is worth saying sorry for.


myLot reputation of 83/100. Jhaszy (109)   ranked 2,084 out of 23,203 in relationships  3 months ago

yes..you also got a point..thank you very much!!!

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3. myLot reputation of 95/100. malamar (442)   ranked 4,509 out of 23,203 in relationships   3 months ago

Saying you are sorry means you are strong enough, and brave enough, to take responsibility for your behaviours and your actions. That is a very good thing.

However, saying sorry as a preface to a conversation can indicate you are not comfortable being who you are, or having faith in your convictions and beliefs.

As long as the "sorry" you are using is sincere, you can rarely go wrong by saying it.


myLot reputation of 83/100. Jhaszy (109)   ranked 2,084 out of 23,203 in relationships  3 months ago

you also have a point..thank to you too..this is very nice hearing lots of different points..i did told him that im just brave enough to accept my faults..

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4. myLot reputation of 94/100. 1anurag1 (718)   ranked 4,367 out of 23,203 in relationships   3 months ago

exactly
if you say sorry it really does not mean you are weak. it means you are polite and more courageous that you can accept that you have committed a wrong thing. i think this is a very good sign. and when ever you say this you also feel that you have done wrong.

and it is good to be flexible rather than a hard stem.
it is said in hindu mythology that the trees which are flexible can stay in storm and which are not are thrown by this.


myLot reputation of 83/100. Jhaszy (109)   ranked 2,084 out of 23,203 in relationships  3 months ago

yep!you got it right too!!namaste!!!

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5. myLot reputation of 76/100. mesuaky (252)   ranked 5,149 out of 23,203 in relationships   3 months ago

No, i would first guess your an asian, cause saying sorry most of the time is an asian culture. this is not a sign that you are weak, it is an acknowledgement of your error or mistake. this is a culture difference that we and americans have. Western people are proud people as most told me so themselves. That is why most of them don't say sorry even if its just a small mistake or error, they will only say sorry when they did things that are terribly wrong. For us Asian we are raised differently, we are mostly in the gently side specially women. Thats why the next time you encounter an american, tell him this information. so he will get the idea. And FYI him/her that we Asians may be gentle but we are not weak thats for sure.


myLot reputation of 83/100. Jhaszy (109)   ranked 2,084 out of 23,203 in relationships  3 months ago

ah yes exactly!i did noticed that..but u also know we asians have long patience we dont normally say that in face unless we are really are offendedand for the sake of having no argument we tend to just keep our mouth shut..but woh!when were mad we are really mad right?thanks for your response!


myLot reputation of 65/100. DiamondDogs (366)   ranked 10,727 out of 23,203 in relationships  3 months ago

In this instance, then I would think that not saying sorry is a weakness.
Sticking by what you honestly think is right is a strength, but avoiding acknowledgment of your mistakes is weakness IMO.
I don't think that trying to convince yourself or others that you are right when you know that you may be mistaken is a good option. I do see this attitude all the time here and it's very annoying.
Unfortunately, this kind of attitude seems to succeed - for the short term anyway.
After visiting a few Asian countries, I have found that I would be much happier living there.


myLot reputation of 83/100. Jhaszy (109)   ranked 2,084 out of 23,203 in relationships  3 months ago

yes!ill take it as a compliment you feel your happier living here..thats why most european and even american wants to marry an asian bcos of this attitude...

 
6. myLot reputation of 80/100. luv_my_life (744)   ranked 8,154 out of 23,203 in relationships   3 months ago

Sorry could in a way show that you are weak, but that's good that you are able to say it so easily...as least you don't have any pride. I say sorry "once-in-a-blue" but to do that means I have to admit that I was wrong in the first place, and honestly I don't like being wrong. It's ok to say sorry, here and there, but don't say it all the time. I would hate for a person to tell me sorry a lot, because why do you keep on doing the same stuff over and over, and then to keep saying sorry...its like are you really sorry then.


myLot reputation of 83/100. Jhaszy (109)   ranked 2,084 out of 23,203 in relationships  3 months ago

yes i agree!!

 
7. myLot reputation of 99/100. much2say (651)   ranked 2,760 out of 23,203 in relationships   3 months ago

A teacher once told us to just say sorry ONCE. If you apologized and the message was received, you only need to say it once. I don't think saying sorry shows that you're weak . . . I think it's good to apologize when you feel it is necessary - to live up to a mistake that was made. However, saying it too many times can get an opposite reaction from the person you're apologizing to because then it can get annoying. Like once my friend was extremely late for a party, and she kept saying sorry over and over to everyone . . . ok - ok - we heard you the first time! So, saying sorry is just fine - just once! happy


myLot reputation of 83/100. Jhaszy (109)   ranked 2,084 out of 23,203 in relationships  3 months ago

well for me once is enough too for bad thing you have done..it could be annoying if saying many times which has been already forgiven right?

 
8. myLot reputation of 97/100. LetranKnight25 (4286)   ranked 1,075 out of 23,203 in relationships   3 months ago

happyhello jhaszy,

Well, for me sometimes it is. but apologizing is a way to make some one felt better that you realize your mistake. it doesn't make you weak but makes your realize your own faults and learn from those mistakes. but there are times now a days where i don't apologize anymore. i felt guilty about it too but probably i would some daycrycry...


myLot reputation of 83/100. Jhaszy (109)   ranked 2,084 out of 23,203 in relationships  3 months ago

hahhahahah...

 
9. myLot reputation of 90/100. sudiptacallingu (7112)   ranked 1,247 out of 23,203 in relationships   3 months ago

It depends really on a lot of factors. One thing could be how you say it…saying it too meekly might mean you are sorry while saying it confidently means you accept your mistake but you are not weak.
Secondly, depends on the situation…saying sorry to your friends is one thing, to your parents is something different and among office colleagues or to the boss, its another situation altogether.
Thirdly, in many situations, saying sorry is a small casual thing but it prevents situations from flaring up unnecessarily. Saying sorry in such circumstances, does not mean you are weak, it merely means you are foolish enough not to read things clearly.


myLot reputation of 83/100. Jhaszy (109)   ranked 2,084 out of 23,203 in relationships  3 months ago

hahahha yes your right!

 
10. myLot reputation of 76/100. edxcast (429)   ranked 12,697 out of 23,203 in relationships   3 months ago

i agree with you, i think the person you talk is very stubborn. If you are wrong you should say sorry and i dont think there´s nothing wrong about it. If i do something wrong i always say im sorry and dont feel im weak by saying that


myLot reputation of 83/100. Jhaszy (109)   ranked 2,084 out of 23,203 in relationships  3 months ago

yes think he is stubborn and super egoistic american which is already mentioned by one of the response here..but i already give him my answer why i did say that..thanks!!!

 
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