The things people do

I completely agree with you! Everything you said here is true. It's the lady's fault for putting herself in that situation and the guy was totally in the right. Im surprised he was willing to still be with her.

I was surprised that he still wanted to be with her as well.
But as he did want to be with her, and she was scared of losing him, then he held all the cards and lets face it, who could blame him for not wanting a living reminder of his wifes infidelity, that would be hard for any man to live with
There marriage would have no chance of surviving, and every time there was a row the baby would have been like ammunition, for both of them in a way
Bad enough living with a cheat, never mind a baby fathered by the person she turned to when she got bored!!!

In my opinion the lady did two things very wrong: have an affair when she was married and abort her innocent baby. Thanks for your superb response.

Of course, if she hadnt had the affair, or at least taken precautions to ensure she didnt get pregnant then she might have been able to carry on relieving the boredom in the manner she was doing
So, for all concerned the moral of the story is
Put the rubber coat on, even when its not raining.

I love that quote vonmac! Morally, it is very wrong. And it's totally not acceptable in our society especially if a women gets pregrant from another man. Don't try to correct the mistake with another. I never heard of the same situation here in our country though. Yeah, the girl is lucky that her husband didn't notice it and was clueless about the affair her wife made.

And this mean that the guy is responsible and guilty?

Is him to be blame because SHE was a butterfly going from flower to flower?

However, you pointed out very clear: SHE decided to COVER the lie and shame .. liars and cheaters end like this. I have no simpathy for her. Yet in this particual case I also don't have anything good for him too. He should have know that;love by force is not possible and that a blackmail will end up bad for one of them or even both ..

I agree with you. It's a shame how some people end up though. I would like to think that in situations like this that the people involved learn their lesson. For life is too short to have it filled with secrets and lies. I would rather laughter and love.

Unfortunately some (50% of them?) never learn ..

Hello Rachael. Yes, I think the lady in my discussion was wrong for having the affair. The bay was an innocent one that got aborted because he or she's father was the lady's lover and not her husband.

Thanks for telling me about your friend that got pregnant in a relationship she had when she was on the rebound after her three year relationship. I think that she regretted getting back with her ex-boyfriend and perhaps she wished she hadn't had the abortion.

Thanks for your excellent response.

Please, no offense .. can you read now what you writed as if was not you who writed and still agree?

Because to me seems at least a nonsense .. the lover is the one who have the right to decide for or against abortion while the child will belong (legal, time invested, money, education, love and care) to ... legal husband?
If you say yes, please would you be so kind to take 7 of the 12 puppies my female dog have with your male dog and please raise them until they die ..

Technicaly is the same as what you writed above ..

...wmraul, the child, if the father of the child is the woman's lover, would go to the biological father, if he didn't want the woman to have an abortion. Why would I expect the husband to raise the child, if he didn't want it to be born in the first place, please. He didn't want it, why would he raise it. No offense, but ask me if you don't understand my premise. And no, you keep your dogs.:o). I like cats.

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Hi there Artistry. Thanks for your very interesting response. Sometimes birth control can fail and it is does it can mean a lady gets pregnant when she didn't intend to. The lady had the choice of what she did with the baby she got pregnant with and she knew her lover was the father.

The lady was wrong and the man acted in response to her wrong doings. But was it really right for her innocent baby?

If they both had hearts?? The poor guy just had his ripped out of him and then to make it worse shes pregnant? If she really wanted the child she could face the consequences of her actions and leave her husband. But he should in no way be expected to 'accept' this baby into his own life. He was not wrong at all only the woman was.

@ phoenix

If she left him, for her mistake, where would that leave her other childrem?

She left him .. who? Husband?

lol

Isn't obviously that once she got pregnant, the lover vanish? So that she had to try to see if her husband would ... shoot her or dump her or forgive her ... She got a forgive-like husband who loved her enough to forgive, yet THAT child would have been a poisoning item in them future life as a couple ..

Hi my friend Mipen. I really think your excellent suggestion that the lady should kept the baby and then adopted him or her if they had thought it didn't feel right. Sometimes a pregnancy might be scary but to see a gorgeous new born baby is lovely.

Hi max, others are not in agreement with us, but I huess what really matters is where your heart lies in this matter, and for me it is with the unborn child. I think if I could deal with that situation, and the father of the family, then other members should be able to also. Mike.

Hi my friend Mike. Yes, the idea that other family members might help is a wonderful idea. Yes, quite a few people do not think that baby is an innocent one. Maxine.

Jeez .. what life had lost?

NONE of the 3 involved didn't want a child, yet 2 of them proved to be STUPID - the lover and the adulter woman.

Big hurray and a pint of beer from me for the husband he accepted her back, but in no way he to be agree with having to raise up a child made by someone elses DNA .. nor to stand next to his wife and not enjoy her presence because she is pregnant and need lot of stuff and medicine and can't go in a vacation together .. nor be a "wife" in bed for him .. Why would he suffer for her stupidity? Enough and to much he forgive her ...

And trust me, there was no "life lost" in this story. A life is lost if someone DIE. An embrio is not a life form. MAY become, but is not yet.

Or much simple I tell you this: You ask for dinner for a beef steak with fried potatoes and salad. I will bring you this: A cow, a knife, some potatoes, a fry pan, some vegetavle stright from the garden, a bit of coocking oil. There is your steak with fried potatoes and salad.
Oh, yes .. is not YET .. maybe will be .. could become, maybe .. but not yet.
NOT YET== IS NOT.

Period.

Hi there Ayenacsi. Yes, I also think of the baby as being the innocent victim in all of this. One of my friends thinks a baby chooses his or her parents. I think adoption or fostering is much better than abortion. Abortion is wrong and so is having an affair. Thanks for your wonderful response.

Hello raul! We all have our opinions on that and I respect your opinion and understand what you want to say and that is your opinion.

I think this is the most ellegant ballanced answer this disscusion can get.

Banzai, miamilady!

I have given you the best response Miami Lady. Many thanks for your comprehensive and excellent response. I also hope that the couple will get past all that pain. It will be great if neither of them make anymore serious mistakes. I don't like to judge but discussing is valuable.

She deserved it! Have a great day!

Thanks for your wonderful response. I also think that the worst outcome is the abortion which killed the innocent baby.

Hi Irene. Thanks for your excellent response. I feel so sorry for the innocent baby. What you say about commitment and marriage is very true.

Hi Archie. I imagine that the husband was very angry when he heard his wife admit she had been having an affair with another man. He must have felt even more devastated when she found out she was pregnant with her lovers baby. I have three children and I wouldn't ever have an abortion.