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myLot reputation of 90/100. Fulltank (1197)   ranked 1,675 out of 38,374 in life2 months ago

Its not a common question to ask nowadays, but its my first time of having a friend actually diagnosed with HIV. At first most of his friends felt sympathizes for him. But after several months, most of his friends had disappeared. He's living with his family now and from time to time I still visit him. The symptom's and effect of this disease not just affect his body but also his spirit and soul. His few loyal friends are still around the corner and giving comfort for him. His family too, are very supportive on the crisis his been through.

Its my first time to have a friend struck with this disease. I did not abandon him and were still friends. But others have the different point of view and left him. What should I do?

 
 
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1. myLot reputation of 71/100. vonmac (2232)   ranked 5,554 out of 38,374 in life   2 months ago

Just continue doing what you are doing just now. You sound like the type of friend who is a friend worth having.
HIV is a terrible disease, and your friend will need all the real friends he can get.


myLot reputation of 90/100. Fulltank (1197)   ranked 1,675 out of 38,374 in life  2 months ago

thanks man, the first reaction was pity and then felt sorry for him. the next thing is 'do i abandon him or just maintain our friendship. I prefer to choose the second.


myLot reputation of 71/100. vonmac (2232)   ranked 5,554 out of 38,374 in life  2 months ago

You made the right choice,

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2. myLot reputation of 37/100. stee09 (101)   ranked 16,167 out of 38,374 in life   2 months ago

In my opinion your a real mate sticking around for your friend when he needs you. I don't actually no anyone that has the disease but I'd say it's taking an emotional toll on you to.

I'm not sure of your relationship with your friend i.e how close you were as friends but I'm positive it hurts to see your once lively friend fading away.

Theres not much more you can do but be a true friend and see it through to the end when you day comes you can be sure your friend will remember you.

I wish you the best of luck Tank and give your friend my best also, hope he doesn't suffer to much..


myLot reputation of 90/100. Fulltank (1197)   ranked 1,675 out of 38,374 in life  2 months ago

Were not too close actually, but were friends. But now I felt to be need to be more close to him now that he needed all the strength.

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3. myLot reputation of 82/100. Brad2289 (141)   ranked 8,946 out of 38,374 in life   2 months ago

Benig with your friend is the absolute best thing you can do for him. If his other "friends" left him then they arent really friends. You are a true friend and should just try your hardest to ease his suffering. Good luck and i hope you realize how great a friend you are.


myLot reputation of 90/100. Fulltank (1197)   ranked 1,675 out of 38,374 in life  2 months ago

Yeah, most of us who never abandon him felt the same way too. By December, were planning to have a party for him. Hope he'll like it.

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4. myLot reputation of 98/100. larish (1428)   ranked 1,164 out of 38,374 in life   2 months ago

Just don't leave him. I think it is already appreciated by your friend just knowing that you didn't abandon him. Secondly, just pray for him. I think prayer is the best you can also do for him. This is only my opinion. Happy myloting.

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5. myLot reputation of 95/100. ybong007 (1045)   ranked 895 out of 38,374 in life   2 months ago

Its a very difficult situation for both of you, but as they say, you can only find true friends in difficult situations. Your friend needs all the support he can get, keep it up. Cheers!

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6. myLot reputation of 87/100. Baluyadav (1342)   ranked 5,030 out of 38,374 in life   2 months ago

Hi,now a days hiv is a disease which we can't fear or go to depression.As far as we are maintaining virus CD count under control,we can live happily years together than attacking cancer,heart attacks and diabetic...in later stages.Healthy food,no mental tension and dose of ritro viral drugs recommended by doctor are the solutions for this hiv.Even people are living happily with AIDS which is a later stage of hiv.
All this why i am telling you because you do continue the friendship as usual and give moral support by saying all this info.You are doing good to your friend.All the best and have a nice time.


myLot reputation of 90/100. Fulltank (1197)   ranked 1,675 out of 38,374 in life  2 months ago

thanks for encouragement. I think the best thing to do for me now is to stick to him, while others don't. thanks again.

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7. myLot reputation of 80/100. junmae (593)   ranked 9,285 out of 38,374 in life   2 months ago

You're friend is so lucky to have you. Dont listen to anybody they just didnt understand the feeling of being sick. Your friend needs all the support that he can get so that he will have courage to survive and accept what happened to him. Understand him but always use safety precautions but make it sure that he will doesnt notice it.


myLot reputation of 97/100. agv0419 (2348)   ranked 2,753 out of 38,374 in life  2 months ago

You are a true friend I hope I can find a friend like you. I'm feel sad about your friend, giving support and sympathy to him is a great help to surpass his depression right now. What he is going through now would affect his life, to her family and especially the people around him. The stigma of the disease is still there, discrimation and the judgment of other people are the most difficult to handle and to face. You need to understand him and be a good friend to him always. Abandonment of your friends when you are in crisis makes you depressed and you feel hopeless.


myLot reputation of 90/100. Fulltank (1197)   ranked 1,675 out of 38,374 in life  2 months ago

thanks for the encouragement. really need them.

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8. jt8900 (11)   ranked 19,988 out of 38,374 in life   2 months ago

From what I've seen, sympathy just makes people cave in on themselves. What happened to your friend is horrible, but if I were in your position, I'd do my best to treat him as though he were perfectly healthy. If he wants to feel sorry for himself, make him snap out of it. He'll be much happier if he lives life not as an HIV patient, but as a perfectly normal person. Sure, he will never be able to live completely normally, but don't let him slip into self-pity.


myLot reputation of 90/100. Fulltank (1197)   ranked 1,675 out of 38,374 in life  2 months ago

i really don't know if its sympathy or pity that sticks me to him. But whatever it is, hes still my friend no matter what happens.

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9. myLot reputation of 95/100. buping (551)   ranked 5,542 out of 38,374 in life   2 months ago

hi fulltank, sorry to hear your friend's situation. i think at this moment he needs your comfort and careness to him. a friend indeed is a friend in need. the people left him seem to be a little bit selfish. you would not effected by hiv when you visit him. you may visit him sometime but with necessary protection to yourself. hope your friend getting well.

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10. adinata (68)   ranked 7,302 out of 38,374 in life   2 months ago

Keep contact with your friend and never leave him alone. Imagine if you in his position and all your lovely people leave you and don't want to make a friendship with you. It is very sad, right? You should be always be his best friend. Keep supporting him and never let him down. I think its okay near with the HIV person. You only need to do is take care of yourself when around him.

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