Ive been cheated, I feel so lost now!!!!

Remember that regardless the situation, we will always forget and move on.

Yes, it seems difficult now, but it isn't permanent.

Her having to dump you like that is not an easy thing for your part, but just remember how she could just let go of you at first sign of something better. This shows you that she's not really true and is selfish. You should praise right now because she's gone and you won't have to get through this all when you're older, uglier and with kids. Get it?

You're a man. You have nothing to lose. If you keep on putting her in your head and in your heart, you'd regret wasting time instead of making her sorry for leaving you in the first place.

My brother used to tell me, whenever a bad thing happens and relationships fail, he doesn't think of the 'good' days, instead he thinks of the bad. The mere fact that you keep on remembering the good times together means that you're stuck with something you should do about.

Stop thinking of the good. Think of how low she is. How bad that she could just send you a message and not really talk to you about breaking up face-to-face.

Motivate yourself to be better. Earn more, have more friends. Show her that she's the one with the problem.

Stop moping. Stop pitying yourself. You're a man for crying out loud!

Destroy anything that belongs to her. Change routines if you have to. Just do everything to remind yourself she's no good and she just proved she isn't.

Remember, you can do this.

Pick yourself up by your boot straps and get back into the scene and let her know that your not going to sit around and wait till she figures out she left a great guy. Don't let her bring you down hon there are many women out there looking for a great guy like you. Pray about it I know that works. Because I seen someone I really wanted to be in my life as I drove home that day I asked God if I have ever done anything right in my life please give me that person. And three months later we were married and have been together for over 2 years now and boy am I happy.

hello John,

No wonder I haven't seen you around lately. I don't know what to say, must have been terrible to get cheated that and have this girl tell you to forget her. i agree with laydee, you didn't deserve that, you needed at least an explanation or a final conversation to end the relationship, she kinda like threw you off like a used towel.

i guess it's easy for me to say to seek revenge but i know it's not your way. no matter how hard it is it's better to do your best to forget her and do other things that keep you occupied, i believe there's a will, there's a way. you have to find that your self my friend. unfortunately, this is ONE reason why i can't afford to have one since i know, i might experience the same thing that happened to you.

It sounds like you love her so much! I think it's important for you to accept what she told you. She was fair enough to tell you that she has someone else in her life. I hate to say this but, she probably did because she fall out of love but that doesn't mean she doesn't love you as a friend and that doesn't mean that she found somebody better. It may mean that you will meet somebody else in the future who will be deserving your love.

I can understand that you can't be friends with her yet, but as soon as you are able to move on. You will. Everybody does. Find someone, a close friend, somebody you trust the most besides her, someone whom you can tell what you are feeling. Do not be afraid to say to anybody how sad and lonely you are. It's part of starting to move on.

Time heals all wounds!, Remember that!

I am sorry to hear what has happened to you, it's not fair for someone to cheat on another. It is best to break off the relationship first. But, don't get depress about it, the good that CAME OUT OF IT IS, you found out before you married her. Someone special is out there for you, don't give up. Pray for strength and God will deliver you from saddnes and you will have joy again. Let her go because what goes around must come back around.

Hi John4Christ! It's good to see you back after being away so long! I wondered what happened but I remember one time you said you had gotten a job so I figured it was keeping you busy and you didn't have time to mylot. Anyway, about your girlfriend, I'm sorry she has done you this way, after all the thick and thin you went through with her. I happen to agree with your friends, though. I know it's hard but the best thing to do is just forget her and get a life of your own. Like they said, it's just part of life. I wish I could tell you how to forget her. The only thing I can suggest is get busy with hobbies. This should help you get your mind off of her. Remember, too, that it will pass and maybe someday the right one will come along that you will want to spend the rest of your life with. I hope I was able to help. Hugs! Kathy.

Hi John. Don't worry, it will pass. It's just one experience from a chain of many others called life. If it helps with anything... everybody is encountering this situation. Plus... if she left... she was not meant for you, so... why are you suffering? Say thanks and go on with your life. The one who's waiting for you is outhere, why do you waste your time? Cheer up!

Dude, I kinda know how you feel. Me and a long time friend/ girlfriend were talking about marriage. She just had broken up with a guy that she was dating but lost interest. She said she was in love with this other guy when she was dating the first guy. And finally she said that she realized that she only loved the other guy because he reminded her of me. I told her that we needed to slow down some and she sent me a very nasty, disrespecting Email full of hateful and hurtful comments. I did feel like there were three guys that had been cheated and I did kinda get depressed that I lost what I thought was my best friend. But in the end I decided to pray about it and realized that at this moment in life I amuch netter off without a girlfriend. I wish you the best and hope that you will make a decision that benefits you in the long run. You are not alone.

Hello John, I am sorry to hear what has happened to you strong and face the bar

You deserve better in my opinion. She just ups and dumps you, out of the blue, for someone who she thinks is better. I've had this done to me too. The only difference was, that I wanted to break up, but he ended up marrying this girl and now they're having a baby. I'm not going to say that its going to be easy for forget her, as matter of fact, you probably never will. Give yourself time to grow and to experience time alone. You have to get used to being alone before you can get used to being with someone else. This way, you won't be comparing everyone else to her, and your heart will have time to heal. Honestly, I think its okay to think about her, to wonder what she's doing and how she's doing, but don't let it go any further. Fill your time and your thoughts up with things that you really enjoy doing. If you feel a tinge of sadness remember that Jesus loves you and that He has someone special in mind. "For I know the thoughts and plans I have for you says the Lord, thoughts of good and not evil, to give you an expected end." Jer 29:11 (I hope I quoted that right). Let Him find you someone, in the meantime, just love your family and friends and be there for them in every situation. Just like you shared every thought and emotion with her, I'm sure there's someone in your circle of friends or in your family that will listen.

Jesus and my family are two big things that help me through this situation with my ex. We were together for 6 yrs, and no we weren't perfect, but we did make alot of plans for the future. I found out the hard way that no one can plan my future, except the One who knows me better than I know myself, and has my best interest at heart. Maybe all of this is happening for a reason, I know that's something you've probably already heard, but who honestly knows? Just hold tight, there's someone out there for you.

Keep your eyes on Jesus;)
God bless you.