Why are we congenial and good?

It's driven from within us primarly and then societal influences play it's role. It starts from the our upbringing. The religious minded train thier children imbibing the fear of punishment in doing bad. At some stage we start to feel and distinguish ourselves between good and bad and then then the societal influences start.
Some want the recognition of being called and the others on the other hand do not want to be called bad. Those who don't really care about what others think get in ways shunned from society.
In a nutshell Mimpi, it's because we are and at the same time do get affected by what others think.
Have i confused you more?

When people do good, do they do it just for the sake of it or for the good name and blessing that others would shower on him as a consequence of it?
The beauty of being human is able to shift, either be in 'got state' or 'devil state'. Whatever, both states done by human with comment interests completely with self resolution and confident. Which results the differences in meanings between human and people.

Am I confusing you?
No and not at all, in fact, a great new point and a kind of nature nurture learning for all to mirror ourselves for which zone of life for an individual to select.

What makes us congenial?
System, a life system when both behemoth or enormous energy runs in both different parties. Making the definition of we be us and us be all.

Is it because we are just so or are we affected with what others going to think, if we are not?
Caring by tantamount supports of telling and sharing values between both parties by means of consensus decision making is a great human team building and will never split.

Finally, a life a system.

Humans are selfish and hence they find interest in other humans to get their work done. When they get bored they seek others help or support or need. We all need each others help to survive. We just are being with people for the sake of survival and to get work done else there is no need of people to form society and religions and many other social things.

We are selfish and fantasy people so we form environment around us to be comfortable. So this is the reason we are congenial and good.

Hi dear!
It is nice to see you back on board after a pretty long absence. I think being congenial comes natural to most of us. I believe, if we are good at heart, it would reflect in our actions and efforts and we just cannot pretend to be good all the times. Also, I feel that we just cannot be good to others just to please them or what others might think about us. Being good to others gives us a kind of inner pleasure and satisfaction and we love doing it, irrespective of the fact what others might interpret about our actions. If a person is not good from the core, social pressure can affect him/her to behave properly for a temporary period.
Have a great evening.

I think when people do something good just for personal gain it shows. People who are genuine and like to do good for others do not need to be praised and made a big deal out of. They do it because they want to and it's part of who they are. When I do something for someone I do not care if they know that it was me that did it or not. I am just happy that I put a smile on their face or that I could help them.

Hi Mimpi! Well, I just think it is common sense. Why would anyone want to go around bragging how bad they are? We should not be decent just in order to avoid shame, but because decency is...I cannot resist saying this...BETTER than badness. Because it is GOOD, lol.

Part of the reason I don't like to go out and "socialize" is because of all that B.S. I want to just open up to people..but I'm a very quiet and personal individual. That's why the internet is such a great thing! You can get right down to the basics and say to someone, "Hey, I'm an Agnostic (or whatever) and here's why..". You can come out and say, I love Metallica! Or I hate [whatever]. People spend so much time small talking..without actually inviting that person to get a chance to actually know the REAL them. Also, if you go to something as trivial as a grocery store and don't reply with a courteous answer when the cashier says "thank you" or something, you're supposed to feel like sh*t. It's all on the surface..and it's as shallow as Paris hilton. When someone says, how's your day going? and other small talk, I want to ask if they'll let me sit down with them and talk about things that matter. I want to get to KNOW you if you're going to keep talking to me.?. Am I the only one who feels like this? It's all or nothing for me when it comes to people.

I think it depends on the person. Ideally, it is so that the person you are being nice to gets some benefit. Of course, you'd also hope that you'd be treated nicely.

It's more towards what others will think of us or what the result of it will be.For example,have you ever met someone who is very religious or goes to church often yet don't practice what they preach?Like old ladies in church who sing the loudest yet are mean.If you're going to do something good it should be because YOU feel it is not society.Also "bad human of society" is just a perspective from the viewpoint of others.

mimipi that was good blabber,so there. I think it all depends
on how we were brought up as to how we become what we are.
I grew up among medical people who were dedicated to helping
the sick. I was also taught it is better to give then receive
also my mom showed me that if you do good you do not go around
pounding your chest and asking for kudos,you will be appreciated
and that should be enough. I do not agree that the dogooders who do this just to get applause are all that great, as there is a lot of insincerity there and sort of a looking down your nose at the ones you do good for. I would much rather see someone do good because they wanted to.I have never much worried about what others think as much as about what I think of myself. Can I
look at myself in the mirror and not be ashamed? If I can that is great.