How to Live With Needful Aging Parents?

I have been in that situation and still is. My mother died nine years ago. My dad is with me. He is already old and stricken in years but he can still walk and do some chores. I am responsible to him in his old age because I think and believe that I will be someday grow old as him and if I want that my kids will take care of me, I need to show my kids how to take care of their aging father.

Just think about your childhood. Your Father provided everything for you, food, education, clothes, toys, medicines, outings and what not? If he saved all that money, he would have made fortunes. We do not want to see our own excretia. But your mother cleaned your excretia, urine, lost her sleep to feed you in the night, make you sleep. Though she was working, after coming home she did not sit before TV. She prepared food and snacks for you. She celebrated your birthday. Foregoing her sleep, she took care of you when you were sick. Should we hesitate and ponder on taking care of them? The person who puts aged parents in care homes without any proper reason, will definitely go to hell. Do not take the curse of parents. It is not good for any one.

My parents are in their 80s already. I have stayed home most of the time and do my money making scheme online. Most of the time, I would postpone my errands and will only do so if I am only sure that there is someone who would take care of them. It is just that I feel that being a daughter, I feel responsible to make sure that they are well and ok.

I'd say on rotation. Siblings need to cooperate and take care of parents in their homes. But if they are super busy, perhaps they can hire a maid to assist when they are working, but to try and interact with their parents whenever they get back home from work. But some really dire situations, I have seen some cases whereby they put their parents in a home. If possible, try to avoid that unless there is really2x no other solutions, which I think anything can be solved. If the parent is bedridden, there can always be a nurse or caretaker in the home of the daughters/parents, stationed on a rotation. This is my take on this..

I chose to live near with my parents since my brothers and sisters lives far away from us. i have to take care of them even when they are not yet old, i am just so glad that my brother's family would soon transfer here near my parents and so they are here to help taking care of my parents too.

Yap, i will live with my aging parents, i will take care of them with all that i can. I will never be here if it was not for my loving parents.

Hi getbrowser, My wife and I helped care for my father during the last few years of his life, he lived to be 95 years of age but was healthy up to around 91 or 92. After that it became difficult as he developed a form of dementia. After that my mother lived with us for nine years until her death at the age of 86. There were very few problems as she was able to care for herself up until she suffered a stroke and had to be taken to hospital. She passed away in her sleep about two weeks later. Today I have a brother who is 83 and lives with his daughter and son-in-law and they have been having some big problems lately because he also has a form of dementia and just recently become quite violent. His daughter wants to continue caring for him but it's becoming more and more difficult for her. She has just one sister living nearby and she has had some sickness herself. I have been helping care for him whenever I can, in fact I've agreed to take care of him for a few hours later today. Blessings.

My mother took care of her parents. My grandfather and grandmother stayed in our house in the twilight of their lives. It took a lot of patience but it is actually alright because even us kids cannot think of a better place for them to stay than our house. My grandparents did not ask for much, just time and patience.

I helped take care of my dad for his final months of late-stage cancer, and years later was the main care giver for my mom in her final months. I could not even think of putting them in a nursing home. With limited time remaining, I wanted to share in as much of it as possible. As difficult as it was at the time, I'd give anything to have another day, week or month of their company. They took care of me when I was an infant and helpless, the least I could do is the same for them when they were in need.

However, I know that there are elders who benefit to be in more structured nursing facilities because of the nature of their needs, or whose children all work outside the home an just cannot do it. These sons and daughters do as much as they can and they feel the same anguish that any child feels with the immenent loss of a parent. I cannot fault anyone who is doing as much as they can.

I am a girl, and now single. I live in a relatively affluent city. If later I got married, I am willing to work with my husband's parents live, as long as their ideas open. However, in my point of view, I don't think the elderly are not sent home for the elderly living filial piety. If sent home for the elderly living filial piety. If I'm old, while my husband passed away earlier than me, then I prefer to go to homes for life. Because there is a considerable age with my friends, we have a common a topic.