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myLot reputation of 95/100. marguicha (3612)   ranked 86 out of 3,547 in mylots2 months ago

Many times I accept someone who is asking for my friendship. I don´t know who he/she is most of the time, but I think it´s rude to say no. But I firmly believe a PM should follow, stating why the person asked to be my friend. I have lots of "friends" that never got in touch with me. It makes harder to send a PM to one of my real friends.
I´m beginning to delete some of them, especially those that asked me to be my friend a long time ago and they still have a few posts. I suppose they are no longer at mylot.
What do you do in those cases? How do you separate your real friends from the others? Do you use the "notify is on/off" sign?

 
 
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1. myLot reputation of 86/100. tdemex (2235)   ranked 730 out of 3,547 in mylots   2 months ago

I do the same as you, i delete about 6 a day! LOL! I don't use notifications so It doesn't bother me! I only have a few select friends here and you happen to be one of them! Sorry I didn't pm you explaining why I wanted to be your friend!rasp


myLot reputation of 95/100. marguicha (3612)   ranked 86 out of 3,547 in mylots  2 months ago

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myLot reputation of 86/100. tdemex (2235)   ranked 730 out of 3,547 in mylots  2 months ago

Have a great growing season! Wish I could have a garden again!cry T---

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2. myLot reputation of 99/100. catdla1 (2747)   ranked 838 out of 3,547 in mylots   2 months ago

Probably the term 'friendship' is used a bit loosely here, at leat initially. Mostly it is a 'Do you want to see each others posts?' sort of question. Ultimately through discussions and responses a real friendship can develop. I feel sad when I go through my friends list and see the names of people with whom I had enjoyed responding to their discussions, and now it's been months since they've had any activity. Some had unique ideas, though-provoking discussions or a wonderful sense of fun.
Most of the time I leave them on my list, hoping they've taken a 'sabatical' and will be back. They don't do any harm in just sitting there. For the same reason, I leave all of them 'notify on'...that way if and when they come back I will know about it. There's lots of reasons why some one might be gone for a while. Divorces, children, moving, new jobs, etc. I just like to sort of 'leave a light on' for their return.


myLot reputation of 95/100. marguicha (3612)   ranked 86 out of 3,547 in mylots  2 months ago

Yes catdla. But those are your "real" mylot friends. I am asked to approve about 2 to 5 mylotters per day. Most of them remain silent, don´t post more than a few more posts or spam me with a wonderful idea to get rich wthout working.
I know who are my friends here and we share a chat often. I know nothing about the others. sad

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3. myLot reputation of 78/100. mysdianait (12193)   ranked 271 out of 3,547 in mylots   2 months ago

I think it takes two to make a friendship. I have become friends outside myLot with several of the Lotters who were once just 'names on a list'.

I accept most of the requests that I receive and most come from new users who ask for information and help in PMs. However a lot of them give up and I am continually removing them from my list if they disappear and stop being active. I usually go through the earlier pages at the beginning of each month and remove those that no longer have a profile.


myLot reputation of 95/100. marguicha (3612)   ranked 86 out of 3,547 in mylots  2 months ago

Hi dianait,
That´s what I do. But today I´m cleaning up and it´s like putting order to my closetangry. There are lots of people that have 5 posts in months. Yet it is an effort to find them and delete them.
I agree that you develop real friendships here. I have some dear friends. We don´t agree on everything but we have many points in common. And there are other people that I wouldn´t call friends yet, but are SO interesting. happy
Have a nice day!


myLot reputation of 78/100. mysdianait (12193)   ranked 271 out of 3,547 in mylots  2 months ago

I have some friends with opposite ideas from me but I admire them for how they tell it like ie is and stick up for what they believe in. I don't think friends necessarily have to agree on everything happy


myLot reputation of 95/100. marguicha (3612)   ranked 86 out of 3,547 in mylots  2 months ago

Of course not. It would be very dull if your friends were your clones. lol. Here in my home and also in this virtual home I have at mylot, I like to learn and exchange ideas. Every single thing I learn makes my universe a little bigger. happy

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4. myLot reputation of 98/100. msfrancisco9369 (2136)   ranked 2,642 out of 3,547 in mylots   2 months ago

I accepted all the invitations from mylot friends and responded to PMs. I am not choosy as long as they wanted me to be included in their friends list or make friends with me-- i appreciated the effort for inviting me. I am so please when mylot members accepted my invitation too so it's a two-way process. i check on them once in awhile wondering why they are not active but i understand-- they maybe busy or attending to some of their priorities and hoping that soon they will be active again. I never delete any accepted friends in my friends list. i am happy seeing my friends list increasing.

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5. myLot reputation of 86/100. Baluyadav (1342)   ranked 132 out of 3,547 in mylots   2 months ago

Hi,marguicha,so you are cleaning your mylot house.I think we can't judge or expect them while they send friend request,whether they are true or pretending true...After few days,we slowly understand who is what,and by the time you recognise,you seniors like mysdianait..tdmex...stephcjh..know what to do.
I strongly believe that i will be one of your real friend's list definitely after your cleaning process.
Have a clean and fine mylot house.bye.


myLot reputation of 95/100. marguicha (3612)   ranked 86 out of 3,547 in mylots  2 months ago

I know that, friend. But if they never say anything, how can I posibly learn to know them?confused. You are my friend, baluyadav. How would I have known the jatropha existed without you? You have taught me something wich is what a true friend does.
I know many people come here just to earn money. Many come from countries like ours, where cents are important. But they soon get tired of posting: they want easy money and nothing else.
So here I am. Deleting instead of posting. I do that at my own house too and it´s boring too. lol
Have a nice day!

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6. myLot reputation of 86/100. Hatley (21501)   ranked 92 out of 3,547 in mylots   2 months ago

hi marguicha I am picky in that if the person only wants to use me for referrals to those miserable ptc sites,no,she or he is not a friend, if they ask for friendship because they and I have been responding to each other for some time I accept at once. I am keeping most on as I know from my own experience that they may be away,having family difficulties or what have you, so they may come back and are always welcome back. they are all my friends unless they prove otherwise.


myLot reputation of 95/100. marguicha (3612)   ranked 86 out of 3,547 in mylots  2 months ago

I have accepted people that only wanted to spam me with their sites. I don´t have time to sign on sites for free and I tell anybody who wants to hear. angry. I trade sites or do my promoting elsewhere. This site is like my living room. I talk with my friends, exchange ideas, recipes, cultures. happy

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7. myLot reputation of 98/100. maximax8 (10739)   ranked 701 out of 3,547 in mylots   2 months ago

Hi my friend. I have some friends on My Lot that are my favorites. I know what their first name is, which country thy live in and a few things about them. I have 'notify on' signs for those people. I like to get some pm from my friends. Some friends I had are no longer active on My Lot. Some of my old friends have left My Lot. I have a few friends on My Lot that have written thousands of posts. I read, with much interest what they have written. I think your idea of a pm to a new friend is an excellent idea. Hug. Maxine

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myLot reputation of 95/100. marguicha (3612)   ranked 86 out of 3,547 in mylots  2 months ago

Hi Maxine,
I, too, have that kind of friends. You are one of them, as you know. It doesn´t matter if we don´t always think the same but we can talk to each other. But those other friends are like ghots: they are there using my space and they are absolutly silent. sad. I approve all people that ask for friendship. I don´t want to be rude and I could be missing a lot if I guided myself for one trait.
But now I´m cleaning house am I have deleted some of them.
Hug!happy


myLot reputation of 98/100. maximax8 (10739)   ranked 701 out of 3,547 in mylots  2 months ago

Hi my friend Margarita. You are one of the friends that mean the most to me. I really like discussing things on My Lot. Sometimes people have differing opinions on some topic and that is fine. I really love traveling overseas and you do too. I loved hearing about your sea trip to the San Blas Islands. You have a dog and I have two dogs. Yes, we have much in common. Hug. Maxine

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8. myLot reputation of 99/100. ladym33 (5565)   ranked 69 out of 3,547 in mylots   2 months ago

I used to read some of their discussions and answer them before accepting their friend requests, but I don't really have time to do that any more. I usually just approve them now, mostly just for time's sake. But sometimes if I see someone reading my stuff a lot I will just approve them right away, or I will request from them, I normally don't request unless I see them on my stuff a lot.


myLot reputation of 95/100. marguicha (3612)   ranked 86 out of 3,547 in mylots  2 months ago

Of course you get to know the people by their answers to your posts. I have many nice friends that started that way. What I dont like is the silent onessad

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9. myLot reputation of 93/100. ANTIQUELADY (11490)   ranked 436 out of 3,547 in mylots   2 months ago

HI MY FRIEND, I am the same way. I wonder why they ask to be your friend & then u never hear from them. They do the same on facebook. I think it really wierd.I like talking to my friends. Have a great weekend.


myLot reputation of 95/100. marguicha (3612)   ranked 86 out of 3,547 in mylots  2 months ago

I tired of facebook almost as soon as I got there. angry. It is true that some friends were there. But then perfect strangers clamed to be my soul friends. And they could see my posts, my pictures, my intimacy. So now I just don´t open facebook anymore.
As for mylot, while it is true that I have not SEEN my true friends here (like you) I can imagine how you are and have a good hunch about what you think. And I love to talk to you and answer you posts. It´s like havinmg a coffee together (or a cigarrette when I smokedcry).
I WILL have a great weekend. We are going to the beach with my eldest daughter and her youngest son. Diego is 8 so I hope he behaves. lol
Hug!

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10. myLot reputation of 96/100. chookie1971 (1550)   2 months ago

Hello my dear friend.

Yes friendship does mean alot to me. You are an inspiration to me. I enjoy when I see you around mylot, I always like to say hello and make a cooment on your discussions.

Your mylot friendship means alot to me.


myLot reputation of 95/100. marguicha (3612)   ranked 86 out of 3,547 in mylots  2 months ago

Thanks so much, friend! I know you from another incarnationlol

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