Do you consider it cheating....?

You haven't caught him with another woman so there is no solid preeof that he's cheating in the full sense of the word. I think it's unreasonable that he continues to make close female friendships online and swaps phone numbers. If I was in a relationship where I thought I had to watch my partner's every move I'd end it, if we cant trust each other now we never will.

Well not really if you don't have any evidence but it kinda is because of the behavior he is having with these females even though if it is just on the internet. Well I have had plenty of experience with this and I told him that if he didn't stop the nonsense that it was over. I think that you should take a break and see what happens and when you back to him see if he is still the same way and if so i would break up with him and tell him that you don't need this and that you deserve better if he has to go to someone else to get it then you are not enough and you don't need it. well i hope that i have helped you out on this.

I would walk away. even if by any chance he is not cheating, your insecurities and his secretiveness (is that a word) will kill the relationship anyway.

Do you really think you need to post this? You know exactly how you feel and what you should do... you just know that its going to be painful and hard and are looking for an easier way out (and I don't mean that meanly... I know exactly how you feel.)

Whether he ever understood your reasoning for not wanting himt o have new female friends... he agreed to it. So that's promise number one broken. As far as social networking sites... my husband (who I haven't even been with as long as you and your boyfriend... but I've been here before) and I both have our own sites, etc... but nothing that we know will hurt one another. And if he would ever post his "member" anywhere... he'd be finding a new home and paying me alamony.

Bottom line tho... if he's sneeking around behind your back, if you feel the need to track him, check his email or anything else... its all ready too late. You lost your trust for him, and it sounds like in good reasoning... but don't continue to be sneaky yourself. I made that mistake a few times with one guy who was running around behind my back with his ex wife. I tapped into his myspace and email and found all this stuff... and I'd even ask about it... but I'd lie as to how I got in. Then one day we were fighting about him boinking the ex and me finding out about everything and I thought "Hmm.. what makes me any better than he is? We're both being sneaky and lieing, etc" So I screamed at the top of my lungs " I KNOW YOU"RE EFFING 'so in so' BECAUSE I KNOW ALL YOUR PASSWORDS AND I'VE BEEN READING EVERYTHING! NOW WHAT DO YOU HAVE TO SAY ABOUT IT? I'M NOT LIEING ANYMORE... ARE YOU GOING TO?" And his crappy response was something like "huh? you have.... f*ck"

Oka (sorry I seem to be ranting a lot tonight). My advice, dump him. As I said... you all ready have all these suspisions and have lost your trust in him. I decided any time a man made me feel the need to snoop to see what he's been up to, its a red flag and I'm not going any further. You've put up with this for al ong time, and for what? To get lied to over and over again. Whether its physical or not, anymore its cheating. If he was talking dirty to girls face to face via text or IMing... would it bother you as much or even more? Its still "going to where he shouldn't be" whether its with his words, his hand or his 'member'. Run now while you still have enough strength... if not, you'll be posting this same exact post for God only knows how long b/c you decided to give him "one more chance".

Good luck sweetie. Its NOT going to be easy. Feel free to email me anytime.

okay. your situation is kinda hard,

first, don't end your relationship right away. remember that you don't have any evidence that he's cheating on you. you just might regret it in the future.


you can try to take a break from your relationship, why don't you try to have a heart to heart conversation with him? explain what you feel to your boyfriend. tell him the truth that you don't really understand that he has female friends and that it is okay with you if he's chatting with other woman but it's different if they exchange phone numbers. tell him that it's painful for you when he's doing those things.
now if he said he will change, then congrats.

but if his reaction was something like he said you're too possesive or insecure, then i think it is the time to end your relationship. . he's not yet ready for commitment and he loves to do what singles often do.



remember that if he really does love you, then he won't do things he knows that can hurt you...

End it now!!! You definitely don't trust him. And you can't be a mature woman enough to accept if he makes female friends after you? WOW!!! Selfish, shallow, insecure, immature and jealous come to mind. Is he allowed to say hello to female co-workers? I don't know how old you are but you need to grow up.

Now I'm not saying this because I think you are completely wrong. He does need to cut back with the outward approaches. However, you need to sit down and have a heart to heart talk with him. If he is going elsewhere for something else, could that mean that he isn't getting it from you? Even if it is little compliments or anything else that might seem trivial to you might seem important to him that he gets from other women. Also, if he is a dog, he won't change.

I won't go on and on with this because I believe there isn't any trust in your relationship. And when there is no trust, there is no truth. Quick example. I went out a few years ago to a gentleman's bar and got this girl's number. I put it in my computer room. My wife found it and asked whose it was. I told her the truth and that was that. She trusts me and I trust her. My life is complete with her and I have absolute trust with her, even if she goes out with guys on her own.

So after you get rid of him, you need to change. if you don't, you will never find the right guy or be in any long term relationship. If you need anymore advice on how my wife and I have done it, just add me as a friend and I'll give you my e-mail. I know and understand both sides of love. I've been there. Maybe that's what you need. Take care.

its not cheating but possesieveness is also not good if it affects your lover..you have to let you lover know that he is free always and that you trust in him a lot

hi natmo, i was in the same situation with you one year ago, first i did not have the proof to prove him cheated on me, later i found one text message that he said to another girl that he loved him, i crashed at that time, so broke up with him. but you do not have his cheating proof, since you love him, and you should talk with him once.

Hello, natmo. I can only sympathize... For me, he is cheating on you. though it has nothing to do with being physical yet,but the fact that you clearly told him you despise that sort of "engagement" and still keeps on doing it behind your back is also a form of cheating. If that guy truly cares about your relationship, he would do his best to lay away from temptations even if it is going to be very difficult for him. This guy cares nothing but himself... If he can't compromise with you in this situation, get out of the relationship and start anew... No point to stay there and waste your time over a guy who couldn't tame that "thing between his legs" and creeping on to his head. Seriously, you'll be finding yourself running in circles. I've been there once.:-) Have a good and happy life.:-)

I think that is normal for a person with a partner who is like your boyfriend. Living a life full of suspicions and lies is very hard and stressful. If i were you i will not allow him to make my life miserable. Life is so precious and living it the way you live would make life a waste. Why dont you leave him and regain your peace of mind. We dont really need men in life. Dont make yourself suffer.