Teaching Methods  | | | | Moms, teachers, tutors, ANYONE??? Please give me some pointers (or even a reality check) where it comes to teaching my son the letters and numbers! My son is 4 YO, in his second year of preschool, very smart and extremely animated! I have been working with him for the better part of a year, trying to teach him letters and numbers. HE'S NOT GETTING IT and I need help. Here's what happens: we sit down with coloring books, flash cards, puzzles, whatever... ME: "what letter is this?" HIM: "i don't know, tell me" ME: "it's an A" HIM: "OKAY" We do this until we get thru 4 or five letters. I always alternate to remind him, so I'll show him B and C then ask about the A again. He NEVER gets it. It's like 5 or 6 seconds later and he's forgotten it! Now, I can show him a book of objects and tell him what they are; trucks, drill, balloon, fire engine... He gets it after only one or two reminders! He asks "what's that" I tell him and he remembers. WHY can't he remember A,B,C like it's an object? Now, it's very frustrating; maybe I need a reality check... am I pushing too hard? Am I expecting too much? Should I just leave it to the experts (teachers)? Also, he gets things confused... He never gets blue/red straight. All other colors, he's right on - but blue is red and red is blue to him... His teachers all say he's doing fine, he's doing well, but I just don't see it. What to do? Thanks in advance for your help! | | | | | | | | | | Ask a Lawyer: Child Law 12 Family Lawyers Are Online! Ask a Question, Get an Answer ASAP. JustAnswer.com/Law/Child
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| 1. ram_cv (7097)
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3 years ago
| | Hmm... I have a 3 year old son and I had a similar problem with him when it comes to red color. He always used to forget the color red, the other colors he remembers. Initially I thought whether he had a problem seeing the color, then I figured out that he just does not remember the word Red. So I started using that word quite often and stopped helping him with it and we would stop the game till he found the red colored object. Initial two times he could not find and we stopped the game. He would cry a bit, then my wife would gently tell him which is the red object. From the third time onwards though he initially took a lot of time, he managed to find the object. Now he does seem to recognize red objects better, though sometimes he takes a bit longer to recognize. The key to understanding is this that there are something which register easily with kids and some don't. As parents we just need to figure out a mechanism and give him an incentive to learn that. All the best. Cheers! Ram | | | | | | | Raven7317 (374)
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3 years ago
| | Hi Ram, thanks for the response! Well, so the blue/red thing isn't all that uncommon then?! Now I feel better! LOL You're right, though, the key is finding that magic trigger/method that helps him learn what he's told... The hardest part is FINDING that magic... LOL... I swear, I've tried everything. But then again, maybe it's time to give up trying so many methods, find one that's the least painful to us both, and stick to it... Consistancy, you know?? Thanks alot! | | | | ram_cv (7097)
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3 years ago
| | Actually the other thing is these days we try to get too many things into our children so fast. I remember that I learnt ABCD only when I as around 5 odd, but already my wife has started tutoring my son at 3!! I try to keep him more towards physical activities like running, playing, kicking the ball, climbing and may be try his hands at somethings like singing which is more towards making him a bit more healthy and calmer as a person. I think all other things like education will come on with time, unfortunately in today's world there is an unduely high focus on education and less focus on all the other things that make a person into a good being!! Cheers! Ram | | | | | | | Ask a Lawyer: Child Law 12 Family Lawyers Are Online! Ask a Question, Get an Answer ASAP. JustAnswer.com/Law/Child | add comment | | | |
| 2. Anora_Eldorath (3661)
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3 years ago
| | Raven- I am not in pre-school, but I can tell you a few things I picked up from Kindergarten teachers when I did my special education student teaching. Kids that young have very short attention spans to begin with (average adult can only sit still for 15 minutes), so keeping them moving from one thing to another is helpful. Hands on is also very helpful. You may want to try having him draw his letters in sand, dirt, shaving cream (a fun one), or anything else you don't mind cleaning up. You could play games when you are out and about asking him to play the Alphabet game with you. Start with A and ask him if he sees the letter A on anything, then ask him to point it out. Extrinsic rewards are still very much a part of their world at this age (and most of the way through highschool lol), so make a chart that he can put stickers on each day when he's done the work sessions with you. Games work well because then it is not "work" but a game and he'll have fun doing it. There are some counting bears you can purchase at any teacher store that work well for working on counting and color sorting. You can also just buy small objects and keep them in little containers. Throw them all together and then ask him "Find all the red objects". Again, a game, but he'll have fund doing it. If he is still having issues with certain cognitive processes, you can ask his pre-school to test him for special education, but at this point I don't see anything from what you've read that strikes me as a learning disorder (but then again I'd have to observe him). Just remember to have fun! Namaste, Anora | | | | | | | Raven7317 (374)
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3 years ago
| | Hi Anora, thank you for your response. I should have mentioned, he is in school under an IEP - he went in because he had a speech delay, which caused him to have further delays in other areas... The school is great as far as testing and evaluating him, but they have never been able to give me an exact, straight answer... Is he learning impaired or not? They say he's not, but that he is delayed... and they can't specify WHAT the delay is... For the most part, I'm not overly concerned because i did have an independant evaluation done and with the exception of 1 or 2 areas, delays were only evident by 2 or 3 months. So I have some reasonable believe that the school is erring on the side of error and that's fine with me. It's not going to hurt him to be in school this early, it will only help prepare him for Kindergarden. My concern is mainly that I can't get a handle on helping him find the focus to learn certain things (ABC/123) as well as he can eat up and learn other things (animals/trucks/objects). I can SEE he's very smart; I just want to also SEE that he's learning what he needs to... Like I said, the teachers say he's doing well... I hate the thought of just taking their word for it - I'm his mom, they are not. It's my job to be able to SEE that he's learning the skills he needs. Anyway, thank you very much for your suggestions... I will try some of them and build on that. I also found a few websites that are dedicated to helping moms home school, so maybe there will be some extra pointers there too. | | | | | | | Family Lawyers Find Custody & Family Lawyers & yellowpages.com | add comment | | | |
| 3. carrillo_zeny (465)
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3 years ago
| | when my kid was still young i used to buy some books with different colors. shapes numbers different flowers and animals. she loves it because she was attracted to the colors and big pics that she see's. i also bought her cd's that has songs for nursery that are also helping her to be familiar with the songs and also on tv's we have a lot of shows about education it will help the child a lot. what we do is just a follow up | | | | | | | starsailover (5702)
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3 years ago
| | Hi carrillo zeny: when i was a kid i loved them too, i else love to watch some of these educational programs, they were simply great. I think that the point is it's sometimes it's difficult for the parents to capt their children attention and how make learning as funny as this process could be to make them learn all these things. Thanks for your answer. Have a nice day. | | | | Raven7317 (374)
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3 years ago
| | Good morninig, Thank you both for your responses! I'm sincerely sorry for the delay in acknowledging your participation! I started buying my son books very young, and he loves books - he's starting to 'read' to me, which at his age, it's really only making up a story to go with the pictures, but that's okay, it's a start and it's a good one - at least he's showing interest in the reading process. Music is also a great learning tool - I've discovered that they use songs for just about everything - the days of the weeks, the months, the seasons... everything, not just the ABC's ! | | | | | | | Local Coupons Ridiculously huge deals every day. Like doing your city at 90% off! www.Groupon.com | add comment | | | |
| 4. starsailover (5702)
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3 years ago
| | Hi Raven: I think that, if the teachers don't see anything wrong on your little child, there's nothing to worry about it. Learning is a process that takes it's time. I think you can help your boy on these areas but never lose patient and stop teaching him if he feels bored. Try to look a way to play with him these subjects so he'll fine more confident and he'll learn better. Have a nice day. | | | | | | | Raven7317 (374)
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3 years ago
| | Good morning, Star - yes, you are right - I have to learn to put trust in the teachers... they will not hesitate to tell me if there's a problem with his learning... His teachers keep telling me that 4 is still very young and he's doing 'fine.' You're also right in that playing at this point in his life is more of a learning process than sitting down 'studying' in any fashion. Thank you for your response. | | | | | | | Employee Incentives Quickly Find Employee Incentive Program Providers for Your Business www.business.com | add comment | | | |
| | 5. celestialbloom (91)
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3 years ago
| | Hello, Raven. :) I was an English tutor for several years, though most of my students were 7th grade through college. Here's my advice, for what it is worth. First, you talked about flashcards. Maybe flashcards just aren't the best way for him to learn. I know that as a student, flashcards alone never got me anywhere. Many students need more interaction with concepts in order to grasp them. I agree with the other commentor who recommended doing letter and color hunts. Try punching a hole in one corner of the flashcards and putting them on a clasped ring, so he can have them as a reference when he's letter hunting. Since 4 or 5 letters hasn't been working for him, have him do 1 or 2 at a time. Give him a couple of letters to look at and tell them what they are, if he can't identify them. Then tell him, "Let's see if we can find __ and __!" If you're not seeing the letters you need, ask him if they are the right letters and have him figure out what letters they are. There are letters everywhere around us - just look at the all labels in your pantry, bookshelves, street signs, stores! The same goes with colors, of course. Later, when he starts to read, you can continue this game. He'll probably have much more of an interest in learning to understand the world around him than he will some writing on a page. Also, try having him identify the colors of things he likes or wants throughout the day, especially if they are red or blue. Make it a game. For example, if he asks for apples in the grocery store, have him tell you what color they are in order to get them. If he wants to wear a blue shirt, ask him what color it is. If there is a particular game or activity he wants to do, have him name three colors related to it before he can or as you set it up for him. Such positive reinforcement can work wonders. It may also help him to think of red and blue in a sensory way - for example, red is hot, and blue is cold. Many faucets are marked this way, but if yours isn't you can do it with a sticker or permanent marker (comes off with alcohol). Finally, try pointing out the colors in conversation, "Wow, look at that big, red ___! Isn't that a beautiful, blue ___?" There are infinite free online resources to help with learning abc's and colors. Many of them are games geared toward making the learning process fun and interactive. Try searching for "learning abc" and "learning colors." Also, just to be sure, maybe try having your son do a color-blindness test, because it is fairly common among boys (I have several male friends with some form of it). If he has trouble with naming shapes, he could just trace them with his finger, and it should only take a few minutes. Good luck, and be patient, Raven! He will learn in his own time, and there is nothing wrong with that. :) | | | | | | | Raven7317 (374)
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3 years ago
| | Good morning, thank you so much for your response... I am so sorry for the delay in acknowledging your help! Well, you're right about the flashcards... I had a meeting with his teacher and she said she could already tell that he is NOT a visual learner, but a tactile one! He needs things that he can touch, feel, put together... like puzzles and matching games. It just figures that within the last few months, I got rid of a few of his puzzles that he mastered and no longer showed interest in. They were alphabet, numbers, shapes and color puzzles - but he had already gotten so good at them that he was bored with them, so I gave them away... I do always try to 'play' with him while teaching him at the same time... He's learned green, yellow and red from the traffic signals. He has a v-tech game that is great with shapes and colors - he always seems to get them right... He loves to have great big long conversations with us and we always find ways to teach him one thing or another... So - it's really just a matter now of figuring out the BEST way to teach him - the BEST way for him to learn... His teacher seems on top of it and told me not to worry - so I guess I'll try not to. Thanks again for your response! | | | | | | | Find Local Child Care Find Safe Care for Your Child. Search Local Listings Today. www.Care.com/childcare | add comment | | | |
| | 6. JayShay82 (63)
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3 years ago
| | My son is the same way and he is 4 s well. He can count to 20 and say his ABC's but if they are put in front of him...he couldn't tell you a thing. I think it just takes a little while for them to start remembering those things. Now shapes and colors is a breeze. He remembers it all. But letters, I get the same thing..."I don't know, what?". A thing I noticed is that he does remember his numbers and letters if he is working with his teacher on them. She could hold up an A flash card and he would get it. Then I could walk in as she is walking out, show him the same card and he wouldn't know it. All I have heard is that it is normal at that age. They told me not to worry until the end of his kindergarten year. At that time they see it as an issue and then can do tests to find out what is going on. For now, just keep doing the flash cards and other activities with him. Just keep it fun and if he doesn't get it, just keep telling him what it is. He will catch on sooner or later. My son now knows what x, k , and w are. It isn't a lot, but it's a start! If you get any useful information, please let me know. | | | | | | | Raven7317 (374)
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3 years ago
| | Good morning, thank you for the response - sorry for the delay in getting back to you! So you see my confusion - my son knows the ABC, can count to 20, actually CAN count items - not just saying 1,2,3... - but he can't id the cards! I think you're right too, about the child knowing with the teacher, but not with the parent... his teachers tell me he CAN name a few letters on sight - but he never can with me. They also told me it's too early to be really worried about it - he's the youngest in his class and will continue to be the youngest - his BD is in Aug so he'll always be 'just 4', 'just 5' at the start of the school years... Plus there's the whole 'boys learn slower' thing that they keep reminding me of... I don't particularly think this is a good excuse, but it's a general rule that they consider....thanks again for your response. | | | | | | | Family Attorneys We've Got Your Neighborhood Family Attorneys. Customer Reviews! Local.com | add comment | | | |
| | | Raven7317 (374)
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3 years ago
| | Good morning, thank you for the response - I'm sorry for the delay in getting back to you.... After meeting with his teacher, she shared with me what she does in class... She uses the Wilson method with the flashcards... Apparently, all it is is holding up the card, getting the kids to say "A, apple, ah", then "B, bat, ba" and so on.... it sounds like this is the method you are talking about... His teacher said they do it every day, it's like a special game, the kids love it and she's completely and utterly 100% confident that this method works wonders! So I'm happy that she gave me another way to work with my son - we have a few sets of cards... But she also shared that his 'learning method' is not 100% there yet, but she suspects that visual is not his strongest, but that tactile (hands on) methods will work best for him... So in the long run, I guess I'm worrying too much, too soon! Sometimes, he comes out with things that I never taught him so he MUST be learning in school.... The other day I caught him singing, and it was the days of the week song... It wasn't complete, so I don't know it yet, but this is obviously a clear example of the fact that he IS learning, he IS getting it, and I need to relax! LOL Thanks for your response! | | | | | | | Lineages, Inc. Hire our expert research team and get professional results. www.lineages.com | add comment | | | |
| 8. mommyfied (216)
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3 years ago
| | before my daughter enrolled in preschool i used to teach her the Alphabet Song and would count to her in a sing song fashion. I also put up posters of Alphabet, Colors, Shapes etc all over the house so she can look at them and be able to recall what she saw. When I enrolled her in a toddler's class the teacher was amazed at how much she knows already. The key here is to make learning fun for your child. My child is already 4 and she's getting better at reading. She learned how to read when she was 3. I think your little boy will perk up if you make the concepts more interesting. sometimes my child is very lazy so i let her be and when she tells me she wants me to read her a story, i never fail to do what she requested. | | | | | | | | | | Build Your Family Tree Invite Relatives. No Subscription Fee. 100% Free. Sign up Now www.genebase.com | add comment | | | |
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