In a few hours i will have to put on the fake smile for everyone  

Are you okay?...

I've had to do this before, and I hate it. But, if you're really unhappy you should talk to somebody about it. Even though sometimes it seems like you can handle it all on your own, it might help you just to vent to somebody.

But, I definitely know how it feels, when you have to put on that fake smile. WHen I was younger, my parents wouldn't care if something was wrong or not, they would just get mad and tell me to act like I'm happy. So, for a long time, I would put on the fake smile and act like everything is okay, even though I was not happy.

hi jugsjugs why do you have to do that, why not be yourself,if you have real friends they will care that you are hurting,dont pretend, it doesnt work anyway and people will still ask are you okay? if you are like I am, your face shows your emotions even
when you do not want it to. its better to be honest with people, if they are pushing you you tell them so. I am a wuss dont you be one too? a wuss is a person who puts on a fake smile when she is hurting and it never works. YOu can cry on my shoulder if you wish,its broad. hugs from hatley

Wow I really feel it for you ,I have been in situations like that .Mostly it was in relationship crisis for example there was a time when I liked this girl who didnt like me and instead liked a friend of mine.I had to grin and bear it when she eventually marched with him at our high school graduation ,but it almost killed me lol

It is really a difficult situation to put a fake smile for all when your heart is crying. It happens most of the time that we have to pretend to be happy when the fact is reverse. It is always better to meet some true friends in this situation so that you can vent out your compressed feelings. this will really gave way to a healthy and happy mind. Do not pretend to be happy if you are not.

Hang in there jugs...Im sure it will be over as soon as it started. I think that you will be fine. I know this time of year it seems that the world is against us. But really it isn't. We just need to raise our head and keep going on. I have been there and yes it is hard to do but I did it.
Keep smiling.

sorry you have to do this, if I'm out of sorts, I let them have it, but I don't have to protect my children, just my cats

Hi Jugs, you seem to be the most honest person here on mylot. No offense to others, but watching over your discussions is just like watching a soap opera unfolding. You just share your thoughts to us and I can't help but relate to some of it. To me, it's just like watching a real life drama and you're the star in it. I'm sure it takes away some of the stress. Cheers!

Jugsjugs, its hellish awful when we know we have to pretend everything in the garden is rosie.

I for one have no hesitation in saying I know you aint exactly happy, this post tells me that, and a few others.
Maybe its time that you made sure that you were happy, your kids and your man are happy, and really, if everyone else isnt happy thats tuff sh1t.
I know you have a lot on your plate, and something has to give.
You sound like you need some time for you, just for a change with no one poking their noses in and no school phoning for the daftest of things like they do.

I used to try and keep everyone happy and it didnt do me any good, and I simply started to resent the fact I always seemed to put a brave face on even when I was down in the dumps
Even after my boy died I tried to do the fake smile thing but didnt manage, and hardly anyone asked if I was ok, because they were used to seeing me smile not knowing it was fake.

I hope the school dont phone, I hope your friends maybe have other things to do and maybe if we both wish hard enough, your mothers boyfriend will stay with her for the entire day and you will get some peace and quiet just to get on with all the stuff you need to do.
I sure hope so, coz I know what its like,

You can only fake it for so long and then one day you will explode. Besides its exhausting keep a smile on your face when you want to frown so somebody will notice what's really going on. I wouldn't fake it anymore and start taking control, it won't be easy but you'll feel better when you start to work on the problem.