TWO on the street at Cristmas time
By bonnie
@bunnybon7 (50970)
Holiday, Florida
December 22, 2009 10:26am CST
T his is so sad and nothing I can do except offer them to come here. I have my middle son that called me yesterday to appeal to his wife to find out why she made him get out. its in Ohio and im in AZ. well shes never answered my calls. He said everythings alright as long as hes makeing money but then she got upset cause he got laid off. Hes a painter and makes good money during summer but not much in winter. I told him he should have not given her everything and saved back some. now he doesnt know how long he can sleep on his buddies couch
Then in Florida my daughter couldnt pay her rent and is sleeping in the car I left her. Havent heard from her since last Wednesday when she got evicted. So, here Iam one worried mom. Once they are grown you cant always protect them
We offered her to come here also, even said Id scrape up the money, but her kids are there and she wont leave yet.At this point, I say Kudos to those smart enough not to have kids.
Then in Florida my daughter couldnt pay her rent and is sleeping in the car I left her. Havent heard from her since last Wednesday when she got evicted. So, here Iam one worried mom. Once they are grown you cant always protect them We offered her to come here also, even said Id scrape up the money, but her kids are there and she wont leave yet.At this point, I say Kudos to those smart enough not to have kids.7 people like this
19 responses
@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
23 Dec 09
Good morning Bon, i don't believe u mean that. If u are like me i thought when i got my sons raised my days of worrying about them was over but i found out different. I will worry about them to my dying day. The old saying is so true. 'They step on your toes when they are little & your heart when they are grown. I hope everything works out for them. hugs.
@bunnybon7 (50970)
• Holiday, Florida
30 Dec 09
thanks sweetie. thats the same my granny used to say and she was so right.
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@EvrWonder (3571)
• Canada
23 Dec 09
Hi Bunny; This is heartwrenching.
I have not had children so I can not imagine what you must be feeling. i would be worried also. I hope that you hear from your daughter soon.
It would be nice if they both, your son and daughter got to get home before Christmas day.
This is a hard time of year to begin with, never mind the recession. Thank goodness that your daughter has a car. That must be of some help.
I hope for both, that they find some employment soon so to keep them busy but able to get food and hopefully lodging. maybe your son and daughter should hook up and get a place together. share the rent.
May everything work itself out for the better.
@EvrWonder (3571)
• Canada
8 Jan 10
Hi Bunny, How are things working out? Hopefully your daughter has found a place by now and that your son is in a better position as well.
May 2010 be good to you and your family and always. Cheers.
@bunnybon7 (50970)
• Holiday, Florida
30 Dec 09
that really is a thought. i dont know why they dont. but my son has learned in the past not to leave ohio where he lives because he has a lot of old friends there and dont seem to survive well any where but columbus. if i could just talk my daughter into leaving long enough to set up a place of survival for her and her kids.
@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
22 Dec 09
Oh Bunny I am so sorry to read this and I know what you are going through as this happened to mine 2 years ago but all got sorted
If I where your Son I would not go back to her, she is using him, my Son is a Painter and Decorator, so he is like your Son, in the Summer plenty of work but in the Winter laid of
Lucky he has a Night Time Job though and he is not married
As for your poor Daughter she can't stay in her Car
Why can't she get her Kids and bring them with her
I was always told that Children are more worry when they are Adults then when they where Children and it is true, the reason is though as you said when they are Adults we can not protect them from everything like we did when they where Children
I really hope this gets sorted, my Heart is with you
@bunnybon7 (50970)
• Holiday, Florida
29 Dec 09
thanks so much gabs. my daughters kids are teen agers. that is 2 of them they will not leave their dad even though he was so abusive to their mom and now she has no place for them either. her ex has fought her all the way over the kids and have managed to keep them there. one of her kids though is eight years and she had to leave him till she found a place and a job, so he ended up being awarded to his dad its a long story. men can get away with so much when you have no family there.
its a long story. men can get away with so much when you have no family there.1 person likes this
@winterose (39887)
• Canada
23 Dec 09
this is absolutely awful, my son is 33 and never left home. In a way it is good because neither he or I can really run a house without each other. We just can't afford it. It is just too much. I don't understand that wife, how heartless.
@winterose (39887)
• Canada
30 Dec 09
actually he is very hard to get along with that is why I was very surprised.
@bunnybon7 (50970)
• Holiday, Florida
29 Dec 09
Oh you are so lucky as to not have to worry about him. you and your son must be very easy to get along with. i know i've always gotten along with all but one of my kids. i can live alone with them but it seems they always get these dominating, hard to live with mates. that is the only time i have any problems with living with them. families really need to pull together right now.
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@dawnald (85137)
• Shingle Springs, California
23 Dec 09
That sucks. I guess things are crappy all over. I hope they manage to get back on their feet soon...
@dawnald (85137)
• Shingle Springs, California
30 Dec 09
Sure it does. It's what being a parent's all about!
@bunnybon7 (50970)
• Holiday, Florida
29 Dec 09
i sure do also. sometimes i think i suffer more worrying about them suffering then they do
if that makes any sense1 person likes this
@celticeagle (189838)
• Boise, Idaho
23 Dec 09
Oh, Bunny! You poor kid! That would be tough! Real tough! I would be sending care packages. $$$$ But hey! I can honestly say that I have very rarely ever felt like I never wanted to have had my daughter. Her kids drive me to drink but she is a jewel. If it wasn't your kids it would be a guy or a friend or someone else driving you crazy and worrying you sick! It is the method of the beast! We care! We can't help it! And life would be a cold, dark, horrible place without those little dickens too!
@celticeagle (189838)
• Boise, Idaho
31 Dec 09
Well,you can only do what you can do. Happy New Year!! Hope it is better than last.
@bunnybon7 (50970)
• Holiday, Florida
30 Dec 09
yes i know. i probably shouldnt say things like wish i hadnt had them, but i'll tell you the worry just gets to much sometimes and i think if i hadnt had them i wouldnt love them so much. yes, i've sent money and care packages so much that im nearly flat busted. living from check to check.
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@mtdewgurl74 (18151)
• United States
22 Dec 09
I am sorry to hear such bad news. This is a time for families to draw closer together and appreciate what they have..not what they want and can't have. My husband paints and is a general carpenter so I know how it is to not have work in the winter months except for the occasional and far between job thing. People are under alot of stress this time of the year. Sorry to hear about your daughter, but since she wants to remain close to her kids maybe she can stay with each a little till she gets back on her feet. I do hope that things will work out okay.
@mtdewgurl74 (18151)
• United States
26 Dec 09
Well, my parents and my little 8 year old sister and one of my hubby's niece was here today at my house. Most of my family are out of state right now.
@bunnybon7 (50970)
• Holiday, Florida
24 Dec 09
thanks sweetie you are a dear one. i bet you are going to have a great time with those neice and nephew. or is it little sister? anyway, at least you can send them home and know theres others to help take care of them yes, you are a great wife to stick by your hubby when he is not working through no fault of his own.
yes, you are a great wife to stick by your hubby when he is not working through no fault of his own.
@rogue13xmen13 (14402)
• United States
22 Dec 09
Well, it is just my mother and I, my brother passed away three years ago. I cannot have kids and do not want children right now because I know how costly they can be. I hope that your children do get off of the streets and get home. They should not be on the street at Christmas Time. Everyone should be with the ones they love and should be in a safe place this time of the year.
@bunnybon7 (50970)
• Holiday, Florida
23 Dec 09
im so glad you are with your mother at this time and im sure you are a great comfort to her after your brother passed.its so nice when your kids are safe with you. believe me its agood thing not to worry about having your own kids. when they are someone elses you can enjoy talking to them. teaching them, and playing games. then have them go home and you have peace
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@bunnybon7 (50970)
• Holiday, Florida
30 Dec 09
i've surely tried every way. sorry this response is so late. i just havent had the heart.
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@scarlet_woman (23463)
• United States
22 Dec 09
haven't had any of those calls as of yet-i'm surprised with all the foreclosures around here..only 3 more cats.although cats don't use as much as people.
@scarlet_woman (23463)
• United States
23 Dec 09
i hope so too.i'm kind of half expecting one from a friend of the family,but we'll see how it turns out..
@bunnybon7 (50970)
• Holiday, Florida
23 Dec 09
yes thats true. well i hope you dont get any calls like that from yours
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@gitfiddleplayer (10362)
• United States
23 Dec 09
I'm sorry that you can't help your kids but they are grown and you taught them how to be independent I'm sure. The holidays are a hard time for everybody but they should be more about family than gifts and discord because there aren't any. I would help your kids as much as you can but they have to do it on their own as well.
@bunnybon7 (50970)
• Holiday, Florida
30 Dec 09
well i've done the best i can do and you are right but it dont keep me from worrying
@catdla1 (6005)
• United States
23 Dec 09
That's a shame about your Ohio son. His wife should know that painting is seasonal. If he's working and she's home, then it sounds like she isn't managing money very well. Is there anything your son can do during his off season? Even temp agencies may be able to find him some short-term assignments. From here though, it sounds like she loves money more than him.
For your daughter in Florida, things sound worse. The job market there is horrible right now. She should consider going to AZ and working until the job market in Florida improves. Yes, she would miss her kids, but it would only be for a while. Hard situation. Doesn't she have friends that she could stay with?
A lot of stress for you at Christmas? Did you ask Santa for that, or what? I hope that the new year brings better prospects for both of them.
@bunnybon7 (50970)
• Holiday, Florida
29 Dec 09
thanks friend. as you can see i havent had much heart lately till now to answer my discussions here. yes, my daughter has a few friends in florida but not sure why she prefers the car. i think its because shes saving up from her new job to get another apt. as for my son in ohio, his wife does work also. but she has a demanding teen daughter that she thinks has to have everything. so, i think she may be planning on a new man? who knows. my son there has been staying with a buddy. so hope he gets back on his feet soon. and dont go back to her.
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@good2go2001 (915)
• United States
23 Dec 09
I agree with you it is much harder to be a parent to an adult child than it is to parent them when they are a toddler. When they adults you really cant do anything if they dont want to take your advice. This leaves you stuck worrying and only thing you can do is pray for their safety. I feel for you because im going threw this with my adult children that live at home still. I know they are making wrong choices and nothing i can do to stop it from happening. Venting here on lylots does help me sometimes, talking with a real life friend, or going to do something even just for an hour to take your mind off the worrying helps too.
@bunnybon7 (50970)
• Holiday, Florida
29 Dec 09
thanks good2go. i can see you know just how i feel. yes, im afraid i do come to my mylot friends to often with problems. but they always help and many has helped me an awful lot. most people here have beautiful hearts
@hoodwinks (157)
• United States
23 Dec 09
I have to agree with you, I am a father of three and my kids are not old, (2,3,7) but I could imagine how you are feeling. know that your kids are homeless and not being able to live good, life can be rough at times. what should always be good is sticking with your family during hard times. with the recession not help matters any better at all for most people and that is sad. hope that your son and daughter decided to come to you and work things out one day at a time. hope them luck.
@bunnybon7 (50970)
• Holiday, Florida
29 Dec 09
Thank you so much Hoodwinks. you sound like a great father. yes, i wish my kids would be willing to listen to me and let me help.
@dragon54u (31633)
• United States
22 Dec 09
They certainly give us a worrisome life, don't they? I'm sorry your children don't have anywhere to stay. I was out on the street a few times but didn't tell my family. Your son is better off without someone like his wife if that's really what the problem is! I'll say a prayer for them both and for you, you must be worried sick!
@bunnybon7 (50970)
• Holiday, Florida
22 Dec 09
iam but i just have to do all i can to concentrate on other things as much as possible. i've got so many disabilities its not good to worry to much. Im just really hoping that not hearing any more from daughter is good news. also, im telling myself my son wont freeze as long as he has enough friends. or maybe she will take him back till he gets back on his feet. i keep telling him to save money back she dont know about tho just in case if he goes back. my sons are such saps. they let a woman tell them what to do every time.
@Hatley (163772)
• Garden Grove, California
22 Dec 09
hi bunnybon7 this rotten economy has hurt so many of us, now
its your kids too. has been out of work since Sept of 2008
so he is getting pretty discouraged. it broke up our little
family, i am here at Gold Crest, and he is in gov.sponsored apartment.Oh I am also a worried mom, hes grown and I cannot
make it all better as I could when he was a child. we are homeless unless you count an assisted living center a home.
@bunnybon7 (50970)
• Holiday, Florida
22 Dec 09
oh I know Hatley have been reading a lot of your posts about that. I know im definately not the only one. mothers are suffering the most as we feel like its us when they are hurting
And guess what? no surprise, I cant spell today either
I saw it just before i posted this but it wouldnt let me go back and fix it...uuuuggghh!!
And guess what? no surprise, I cant spell today either I saw it just before i posted this but it wouldnt let me go back and fix it...uuuuggghh!!
@tamarafireheart (15384)
•
22 Dec 09
Hi bunnybon7,
The trouble with kids is you can only do so much, you can't protect them all the time, they have to make their own mistakes and no I haven't any children but somethimes wonder if I am the lucky one.
Tamara
@bunnybon7 (50970)
• Holiday, Florida
24 Dec 09
sorry to say, yes, you are the lucky one i used to work for an elderly lady that never had kids. she had this big saphire ring she wore sometimes the saphire was surounded by diamonds
she used to say how lucky she was because she'd see how the kids would worry me and always need money. she'd say, see this ring? that would have been a college education. !!lol! and she wasnt lonely except for missing her hubby that passed away. she had tons of friends, plus could afford help to come in like me.
@cynthiann (18612)
• Jamaica
22 Dec 09
Being a parent never ends does it? I do know a little of what you are going through as now I have 3 out f work. But we are together and we have blow up beds and we pull together too. I am so sorry that your children are so far away and Florida is cold now too. How your heart must be hurting. I am good at praying so I will pray so hard for you and your family. Many blessings and may some person or people be moved to help your children.
@bunnybon7 (50970)
• Holiday, Florida
29 Dec 09
thanks so much. im just so disheartened about all this that i havent even been moved to mylot much here lately. therefore pretty well behind. well, my son has said his buddy is letting him stay as long as its cold there or until he can make other arrangements. i havent heard from my daughter since she had to leave her apartment way before xmas, so im just praying shes ok.
@lovinangelsinstead21 (36847)
• Pamplona, Spain
22 Dec 09
Hiya bunnybon,
Sounds like something that happened to me several years back. I had to have all my Children back home again and they are still here. Things just don´t seem to work out sometimes do they?
However things are slowly turning for the better I hope so.
It´s really distressing to hear about these kind of things going on.
Everyone needs a House of some kind.
In Spain there is an elderly Lady sleeping in the Street while the high Society and their cronies live it up.
Well actually I suspect there would be more than one sleeping in the Street so it´s a miracle she´s still alive.
@bunnybon7 (50970)
• Holiday, Florida
29 Dec 09
its a shame people can not pull together in this hard economy. so many just think of their own comfort or dont trust to be generous. thats very sad about the old lady. I often wish i could win the lottery or something to help people (including my kids) get back on their feet that are willing to do that.
