I have just discovered that my husband has a jealous side to him,  

What i think has happened is some of the things on facebook are missing for some reason and it was when it was my friends birthday as we all met up for a drink and we had let everyone know where we were going like our friends so there would be alot of people out that night so as alot of our friends are no longer on facebook or have changed their account all the bits inbetween the message are not there and it reads like it do not make sense anyway.I just think it is time he should look at his own facebook as well as who has tried to split our marriage up.Yes it do make me think that perhaps either he has been up to no good or that he has said something to the step sister that he is worried that either i already know about or that i may get to find out.I sleep with him every night as well as we are here as a married couple so as far as i am concerned when would either of us have time.When i did go out for birthday drinks i was always with my friends never on my own.

hi again jugsjugs I was just reading what fjaril said and as I do
really trust fjaril's judgment I think you should really listen to him. all of us here on mylot for example do a lot of kidding around buts its all in fun, not to be taken seriously by any of us. friends yes, but lovers never, ever, no way. Forone thing when I am kidded or I kidd around here, I think everyone knows i am a senior citzen not someone trying to break up anyone's relationship.

Hatley!! Yes you beautiful bold 'say it like it is' lady!! I like you alot and I hope you and I stay friends here and can talk like this.. because it feels good. ..like a family.. good friends and sisters and brothers..our support team. We mean what we say but it is absolutely understood to be fun as well. You and I know that..
THANK GOODNESS! hugs!!

aah jugs..it rather sounds like a misinterpretation if he has been looking at YOUR Facebook account.. it is obvious you are looking at each other’s, so there shouldn’t be anything to worry about,, How stupid would you need to be??? maybe he doesn’t realize how it works.. the deletion of comments when people leave,, Even I would find that confusing if I was there.. Can you actually delete things yourself??

Anyway,, if he has a worry about the step-sister business, then he better fix THAT and not try to pin something else on you, yes?

Maybe it is time for a chat..dum di dumdum DUUUMMMMM!

Thing is, there's no trust in jealousy, period. It's his being suspicious that makes him jealous, not what you do. There is also something wrong if he won't protect you from his mean sister and is flirting with other women on FB or wherever. It seems to me that he has very little consideration for your feelings.

Thanks , jugs , for best response, I wish it was best advice, though, becuase I know this road quite well,, and ,, guess what? it wasn't I who was the problem, it was she, and she left me for him too and left my infant daughter in my lap to raise!

I was the big winner, though, but winning hurts pretty badly soometimes, doesn't it?
Good luck with your situation. I sure hope that things get better.. will they, do you think?

I think he is sweet for being jealous as this is the only time,but not trusting me is taking the mickey as i go out for birthday drinks with friends.I have had people tell me my husband is seeing a bird whilst he was at work from an old friend of ours on my facebook and there were alot of people that did not know my husband or that my husband was a county court bailiff so i blocked my wall to stop all of this as to be honest i did not want an argument.I saw my dad have affairs as well as how it made her feel and that it really made her ill.I would never do this to anyone.I must admit i nearly ended my marriage a few years ago,but i stuck at it even though alot of people were on about alot of women he was seeing or what ever,so for him to say this to me about someone in their 20s is not nice.

I do understand and good about blocking your wall.

I would never go with anyone let alone a person that young as my daughter is nearly 18 and i would not do anything with anyone let alone a big child in my eyes.Perhaps i should have said he is a very good close friend,but no even if the 20 year old was older he would never be my type as he is a drinker from what i can make out.I have not been out with friends for weeks as i wanted to save some money as well as stay in and try to earn some as well.

The age of the other man isn't That important. It's that Hubby Thinks you would be with someone else is the problem.It is worse if the guy is a friend! That means he doesn't trust either one of you ! That's bad. I hope you two can find someone to talk to , together. That may help.

I think the reason he is like this is because he has had an old girlfriend that was sleeping around and she was the type of person that used to go to the pub all the time and that is where she met the bloke she was sleeping with.I used to go to the pub once a week,but i have not been out now for about 3 months as it is soo cold as well as i can stay at home and have just as much fun.To be honest i am not interested in any blokes other than the one i am married to.So i think this is the reason why he is so insecure.

I have tried talking to him and i did tell him i thought he was funny as that type of person i would not even look at even if i was the same age as wellas i am getting too old for all the stigma as well.I think the reason why he feels like this is because his ex was a person that slept around and he thinks that she is like that so therefore we all must be.

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I know that his ex girl friend used to sleep around behind his back all the time and this may be the reason why he do not trust me,but just because she was like that do not mean that all the women are like her as well.I had this ex that also slep with one of my friends but i would never point the finger at him as not every man is the same.

The thing that i think is a bit strange is that all this stuff on face book was done over a year ago on my friends wall as well as there must have been other people that had written on there as well as the few that had written on the wall and with bits missing i had a problem working it all out as well as i know he had a problem.I think that it is strange when he shows he is jealous as i was supposed to be ok over his step sister who has stirred more up a month ago as well as he saw her a month ago,where as i have not seen a few of the people that are on my facebook or my friends face book for months as well as i do not and have not been out for a few months as i prefer to be at home.

Take your husband by the ear, go sit him down somewhere and the two of you talk this out, once and for all. And no, the stepsister, is not invited to this little party. I can only wish you luck to try and get this over and done with. If you want, try to keep me up to date.

I think that if a person do not trust the person they are with after they have been together for well over 13 years as well as they have 6 children.I think it is funny how all the years i have been married that he only now shows that he can be jealous.Alot of things have happened over the years that has put a strain on our marriage but he do not know the person who he has married anymore either that or he has never trusted me.

I know what you are saying as i think that the step sister must be a bit ill to even say the things that she has said as well as the things they she said had gone on between then.The best bit was that i was the last to know and my husband told me to leave it.I was angry for along time as to me i could not see why he wanted her to get away with the things she was saying.

Hello Jugs,
I feel what you are going through with you and im sorry you are through this.
You said it all 'where there is no TRUST, there is no LOVE'.
Trust and love are two things that cant ever be separated in Relationships, one cant stand without the other.
I think you really need to sit your husband down and discuss all these (in your mind) with him.
As for the step sister, i think 'SILENCE' is the best answer she deserves. That will always hurt her to the bones.