Tooth Fairy

There probably is no real answer to that depending on where one stands antiquelady. Kids are getting smarter now than they were about 40 years ago. In my opinion, I would tell my kid the same thing. But only if he really wants to. There are different kinds of children today. Those who wish to dream like a real child would (part of learning) and those who want the real deal. Was once a kid and was a dreamer, but I wanted to separate reality from fantasy young as I was at 5 years old. I hated being lied to specially about Santa Claus or the tooth fairy. I never tried to lie lamely to my kids, I let them believe there was a Santa or the tooth fairy, but when I felt there was that same nudge from them as I had about learning the truth about things, I told them anyway and they praise me for my honesty and not treating them like lame children. I owe it to them because they had so much to learn from the world, there was no sense in letting them dwell on something that wasn't really there. Now they are grown up and very smart kids to the bone. They know how to live amongst the toughest on the streets and stride with intellectuals at one time to another. I have to say I did a pretty good job with them and I say you did too. There's a time for kid fantasy and there's a time for reality. You can just look at your kid's eyes and you can tell when they need to know the truth without taking the fun out of it. Cheers!

I dont know think I will tell grand daughter that fairiesare good peole just little with wings she love TInker bell with the firys so dont think she will be scared at all.

Bless his heart. I don't know if I would have told him since it was his parents job to do it. Hopefully, your son and daughter in law won't be mad at you for doing that. As a parent, I actually dread the time of playing the tooth fairy. You don't know when the tooth would fall out and if you had extra money laying around to cover the tooth. I think if I were in your shoes, I would explain to him that he gets money for the tooth he places under a pillow. The pillow doesn't have to be in his room. Since the tooth fairy isn't looking for him, but the tooth. That way he didn't have to fear a fairy having to come into his room.

Of course I would have. The child was in fear of the tooth fairy, he needed to be told the truth to calm his fears. I think you did the right thing for "him". After all that's what doing anything for him is about. Why let him think the fairy is real when he had such a fear? It is cruel to do so for him.

It is fear of the unknown. Not knowing what the tooth fairy is going to do when in his room. I would walk him through what the TF's going to do and then go from there. If he doesn't want the TF coming in his room then just forget it and move on. I would keep on him about it. Maybe he will change his mind or outlook later on.

His worry is probably why he hasn't lost his teeth. Keeping on thinking to himself, I am going to keep all my teeth so that creepy fairy doesn't visit me, and the mind is a very powerful thing. Especially for children, they haven't had as many limitations placed on what they can have faith in. I would have told him the truth as well. Sincerely and With Appreciation.

I would have talked to his parents first. To me it is no big a deal. Telling the truth is a good option, but so is fixing a little door hanger to put the tooth in, so the Tooth Fairy never comes in his room. I bet he has seen some stupid commercial with a strange tooth fairy that scared him.

Definitely! When it is no longer fun for the child, then the charade needs to end. If his parents have a problem with that, then something would be off. You saved the poor child some bad dreams.

I hope the little boy is more confident to have grandma around and fear no more about tooth fairy. I remembered mom use to tie a string around my tooth and pull it once without much pain. She will then put the tooth in between the walls of my room making me believe that my new tooth will grow as straight as the wall.

Hm, maybe. But as a parent, I don't see myself holding it against you.

I believe that you did the right thing.

Of course I would have!

If he was afraid....oh yes...I would have come clean too...lol. Sometimes it's scary for little ones to think about some freaky stranger sneaking in their room to steal a tooth...it is rather odd if you think about it..LOL...he's a smart boy and it probably threw out a red flad when you start talking about a sparkling stranger that is going to have her hand under his pillow. I think you did the right thing.

The parents may be mad, i probably would be. My husband had a tooth fairy pillow that hung on the door knob. My hubby was a very light sleeper, so his parent's going into the room would have woken him up.

Good morning, dear friend! I think two things children need; are to know they are loved...and to know they are SAFE! He felt unsafe, so he turned to the one he knows loves him dearly, and he trusts the most..he is six, and he wanted his fears allayed...so he turned to BOBO! YES..you had to tell him the truth..and dang the consequences (not really)! I guess the only thing that you can do now, is tell his parents that you had to tell him the truth, and they should re-inforce it now, by being honest with him, TOO! A child should feel safe/secure in their bed/bedroom, and he obviously felt differently....and that was at the whim of his elders that "told him fairy tales!" Be proud...he trusted you, to allay his fears....WAY TO GO, BOBO!!!!!!! LUV & HUGZ!!!!!

I probably wouldn't...my DIL would have my hide if I did! LOL...I also have other fears about my little Ali being with me...like she has long hair...and if she were to cut it on my time well there would be consequesnces!.....and sometimes when we were playing, I take my cell phone and call her on my house phone..well one night she yells at me to call her as she was upstairs and I was down...I jokingly asked her what her number was and she promptly said.....911.....I ran up the stairs to make sure she was not dialing it! LOL...they would be sooooooo embarassed if she called 911 when she was with me. Since that night I have taught her how to call her mom on my cell phone in case of emergencies....like if something happened to me!

It took my daughter a long time to lose her first tooth too. I think it's because she's a thumb sucker. I wonder if your grandson is worried about Santa Claus too. I don't think I would have told him the truth. I would have asked the parents first if it was alright. Otherwise he may not believe other things either.

good job. you have done the right thing. but you should have done it earlier if in case you have known that he had some fear. i for one don't believe giving children some irrational fear. this kind of fear tactics does children more harm than good. they may carry this fear even when they grew up. even if they know it was only a lie when they grew up but they won't realize that they had develop some kind of fear that they had problem any more to get rid of. may be this kind of fear that relates to his too many not give some big problem when he grew up, but letting that child live in fear for now is not good. we should be totally concerned with the emotion of children. and i would not want to see my child if in case i had one to live in fear and ignorance, i would want a child to know what is true or not even in his very young age.

I wouldn't stress it too much. Most kids figure it out after the first or second tooth. Mom is really stressed that the tooth is put under the pillow. It doesn't take a genius to figure it out. You might tell him to play along because it makes mom happy to save all his baby teeth.

I can see why you told him although I am not sure I would have done it without mentioning it to his parents first which would have probably agreed to fess up anyway because having a little boy be scared of the tooth fairy does take the magic away that’s for sure! I hope the parents were okay with it...