How far will you go to deny your age?
By dloveli
@dloveli (4366)
United States
December 31, 2010 8:46am CST
As much as I hate to admit it, we all get older. Its inevitable. There are some ways in which we can slow down the process both medically and naturally. We all know about Botox, plastic surgery, vitamins, excercise, and many other rememdies. When is it enough? When is it time to throw in the towel. I went out with my dad the other day and he was saying how my aunt is in her 60's and her hair is without one grey. She also puts in this purplish coloring to it. Its not flattering. She looks like a 60 year old woman trying to act 20. Silly! I know a woman who is same age as me but if she were to tell it she was 25. She is off the hook! She has tanned daily for years. Her skin is like leather! Its so unnatural looking. You can clearly see that she is addicted to tanning. Her nails are so long they curl. Long nails are ok its the fact that they are so yellow from tanning and whatever else she is doing. They look so dirty and disgusting. Lastly the way she dresses. I have a wild style myself so clothes are not a big deal. Nothing shocks me. What bothers me with her is that she is a 40 year old woman trying to be 25 and its not working. Its okay to dress provocative and/or sexy but come on she has kids. She is a cute woman without all the extras. Truth be told everyone that sees her thinks she looks ridiculous. Shes not the only person either. I have a friend who was born male but live as a woman. If you look at her she looks like a drag queen. All of my friends tell her that she tries to hard. Thats why people can really tell she's a man. My male friends are the same way. It's not just women. I try to look my best no matter what my age. That's all I can do. I have children and my youngest daughter would be mortified if I tried hanging with her and dressing exactly like them. Do you have people like that? How far will you go to deny your age?
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@natnickeep (2336)
• United States
31 Dec 10
I think this is fairly common..your friends not realizing how crazy they look. We perceive ourselves differently than others may. I would think it would be nice to mention this to them that their style just isn't hip. With the one woman it may help...she may become more natural looking if you give her advice. The other one..a man who has become a woman. The only way they feel more womanly is to add that stuff on. You might have much more trouble convincing her. But I don't think you would be a bad friend to nicely say something. I will never deny my age. To me no matter how you look age comes with wisdom. I am only going to be 27 next year. I know that isn't too old but I appreciate my age and that I am getting older. I do try to stay healthy for the most part. But to me looks aren't everything. I have the love of my life. We will love each other old and gray so that's all that matters.
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@rockydam83 (846)
• Italy
3 Jan 11
Well life is like that and no one can reverse the aging process. I think we dont need to hide our age. I never hide my age if anyone asks i only speak true to them. The main thing we need to concentrate is that to live a healthy life no matter in which age group we are we always should try to adopt a healthy lifestyle.
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@soulist (2985)
• United States
31 Jan 12
I honestly do not deny my age. I don't see a reason to deny it. I am proud to be 30 years old and to have accomplished the things that I have in life. And I think the older I get the more I will accomplish. Age is just a number it isn't who we are there is no point in denying it.
@shaggin (74988)
• United States
31 Dec 10
I know some people who refuse to admit their real age. To me its silly. I am 27 and I'm not going to deny it. It doesnt matter how old you are its more about how old you look for your age. If we are older and say we are younger then people might think wow she looks old for a 20 year old etc. I have no problem at all telling people how old I am. I know that when I am 50 I will still have no problem telling the truth about my age.
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@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
3 Jan 11
I actually don't think that there is any reason at all to deny my age. Therefore for me, I'm not doing anything at all to hide my age and yes I will admit that I am young, but I've watched my mother do the same thing and I still think that she looks good for her age. It is because of the example that my mother set forth that is making me behave the way that I'm doing with aging. I really don't see the point in trying to hide my age.
@toniganzon (77119)
• Philippines
31 Dec 10
I am 32 and sometimes dresses like a teenager with jeans and just a shirt. I wear flat ballet shoes as they are comfortable to wear and i don't wear any corporate attire look. They said i really look younger my age but i never denied to anyone my real age.
I am always mistaken as a single woman but i always declare that i am married with a 6 year old son!
However, i see to it that i act my age and never try something that would make me look like i'm 13 or something lol! That would be too harsh. I want to age gracefully and never be ashamed to show how old i am!
@Lakota12 (42600)
• United States
2 Jan 11
I dye my hair have since I was 17 oh yeah the grey is thre now for about the last 4 years.
and I sure dont ike it neither does my daughter she sometimes picks my color SHe would really like it to be real black but I do like the red casts in it If I can find it I like the Burgandy the best.
I wear the same clothes I always do getting tho where I cant find them as the trend is going to HAnnah MOntana and that just dont work.
and I wear mostly JEans and t-shirts
@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
1 Jan 11
YES, I DO & i think they are very silly to act that way. I don't ever deny my age & i am proud i have lived to be 68 because i like not to have so every day is a blessing to me. HAPPY NEW YEAR.
@eurekafemme (5874)
• Philippines
1 Jan 11
Hi, Dloveli.
You are not the only one in this planet who appreciates the real age and who, on the other side feels disgusted with those who are trying to hide it even if it is so obvious that they are older than what they pretend they are.
I have known a lot of people like that and though I hven't said a thing to them (I don't want to offend them . Besides, they wouldn't listen anyway.)I silently feel mortified by their sight.. The mother of my ex for example who was 70 years old but she still wears mini skirts made of denim materials. Whoa! I was too ashamed accompanying her to the mall.
.May her soul rest in heaven.
You are not the only one in this planet who appreciates the real age and who, on the other side feels disgusted with those who are trying to hide it even if it is so obvious that they are older than what they pretend they are.
I have known a lot of people like that and though I hven't said a thing to them (I don't want to offend them . Besides, they wouldn't listen anyway.)I silently feel mortified by their sight.. The mother of my ex for example who was 70 years old but she still wears mini skirts made of denim materials. Whoa! I was too ashamed accompanying her to the mall.
.May her soul rest in heaven.
@sender621 (14889)
• United States
1 Jan 11
My age is my age. There really is no way to get around it. i don't deny my age. It ill not change how i live my life. I am happy with my age and my course in life. My age will not deter it.
@starrose_ara (784)
• Philippines
1 Jan 11
Some people have problems on the issue of aging and this is quite normal. Sometimes admitting that you are a certain age can cause some "violent" reactions from others. I am one of those who is not afraid to admit how old I am. Being given the chance to live another year of one's life is a big blessing for me. I do dress appropriately most of the time but am guilty of dressing up with what is the current trend which is mostly oriented towards the younger generation. There lies the fun. It is more on how you handle your aging and being comfortable in your own skin so to speak.
@spencari (265)
• Indonesia
1 Jan 11
the nature of human is growing old we can not hide it but we just able to keep our selves healthy for someone who make over their selves.. which purpose look younger than their ages is not make a sense n most of fail to perform it well like plastic surgery... just able to stand few years and after it look so weird.. i don't hate it but sad on people who do that.. for me is not make any sense if we stay young forever in this world
@GardenGerty (169453)
• United States
1 Jan 11
I have recently started coloring my hair again, because I was looking older than my husband and he is eight years older than I am. I am coloring close to my own color, maybe a little lighter because it is softer. I look at what others do and I do not do it. What I need to do is exercise and lose some weight. I do take vitamins, they make me feel good from the inside. I am not interested in any procedures, and I do not tan. I do like to be outside but not to be tanning, to be active. I have seen some of those leather people, who also have had their face lifted to the point that their eyes are almost over their ears. For clothes, well, I love color. Right now I dress like an old lady because my clothes are too tight.I have some jeans, and tees and I am supposed to wear good name brand athletic shoes for my feet, per the foot doctor. I do not have many wrinkles if any, it is all in the genes.
@anniepa (27955)
• United States
31 Dec 10
I've always thought it was rather silly for someone to lie about their age. The fact is, due to genetics, lifestyle and other factors some of us look younger than we are, some look older and some simply look our age. Who cares, right? I'd much rather have people think or even say that I look younger than I am if I tell them my actual age than for them to think I look older than the age I claim to be.
I think we should all try to look our best at any age but I don't think the "rules" are the same as they seemed to be back when my mom was my age and younger. It used to be that women beyond a "certain age" never wore jeans and always wore their hair in a short, teased up kind of style. Nothing long and loose. I think it's sad when an older woman tries to dress like a teenager but I have no problem with someone over 40 wearing nice jeans, shorts that actually come above the knee or short skirts. I don't mean shorts or skirts that show their butt cheeks but you know what I mean, they don't have to look like matronly old ladies either if they have the shape for shorter styles.
What I think looks the worst of all is when an older woman piles tons of make-up, especially on her eyes. This is one case where less really IS more!
Annie
@scarlet_woman (23463)
• United States
31 Dec 10
i honestly haven't aged that much-i've never been a sun worshipper,and that has helped.the most i will do is dye my white.not so much for the age factor,but because i don't like the way in comes in all over the place.
i don't believe i look 20,but then i wouldn't want to be 20 again,personally.
@barehugs (8973)
• Canada
1 Jan 11
It s been my experience that once you get to 75 you can begin to brag about your age. The trick is to take good care of yourself (so you don't die young) and then your sure to get to 75. I was 75 two years ago and I'm too proud to deny it. Also I'm still working in the summer months, so life has been good to me. I do not believe in retirement because I think its better for your health to have something useful to do in your old age!
@artistry (4151)
• United States
1 Jan 11
...Hi there, interesting subject. I do a lot of telephone work and if the subject comes up no one believes that I am the age that I am. Now, if they saw me in person I don't really think that they would be far off what they think my age would be. I am the age I am chronologically, physically I think I am older because of my physical condition, back problems, etc., mentally I am younger than my age, but to deny the age that you are is only setting yourself up for a reality shock later on. If you are relatively healthy and keep yourself aware and involved in what is going on in the world you are doing well. As far as plastic surgery, botox and the rest I leave that for others to experiment with. We are all going to age, some age better than others, having better genes and taking better care of themselves. But to fight harder than makes sense, makes no sense. Try to age gracefully is my motto and be as happy and content as you can. Don't be an embarrassment to yourself. Have a Happy New Year.
@infatuatedbby (94909)
• United States
31 Dec 10
A lot of people deny their age. Although I'm still young & 20 ..I just tell people that I do not know I'm in my twenties and I don't be specific but if they're my friends then of course they know my true age. A few years here and there maybe 5 age up or 5 ages down is okay but more than that is way too out of the line. 40 & being 25 seriously. How is she going to pull that off, LOL...
