Mylot Oldies/Veteran should act as role model and not "What ever I want"
@LetranKnight25 (33117)
Philippines
January 20, 2011 7:52am CST
Hello Lotters,
You know i feel really comfortable talking with you all since every one seemed to be nice and accommodating. people here had been mature in handling issues and mostly avoid being rude to every one since it can be talked in the right way with out hurting each others feelings except in the political or religious topics which you can't be helped since there are views that are so deep that people get to their throats before reaching an understanding or worse.
I am doing my best to be role model for the newbies since it's unfair they are new here and they aren't getting a good impression on people who have so many post. I feel a lot of newbies are intimidated with the users giving link to the guidelines and it's for their own good too. of course, i apologized if there are times i can be bad mood for some aggressive but not entirely offensive response.
But if there is one thing i am sad about is that some who "claim to have been here longer" doesn't adhere to the rules and do what ever they want or imitate others as they think it's the clique. this is not tolerated, YOU ARE EMBARRASSING US 
(HELO!) being here longer you should prove it but when you start flaming, that's when you're being so called seniority deceases. there are more veterans today who are more like matured oldies than this people that others had encountered.
Like for an example, it's not fair for lotters like us to think hard of a topic when some one "claims to be here longer" doesn't give a damn and "Do what ever they want" and copy paste and when gets busted, just defend itself to the point of flaming every one trying to "talk smart"
Have a nice day.6 people like this
14 responses
@mysdianait (66005)
• Italy
20 Jan 11
AMEN! 
I am finding it extremely difficulty to remain calm when trying to talk to that... 
They continue to come back to that topic spouting out even more ridiculous phrases and haven't got a clue that they have got it all wrong!
Fortunately we have an admin who is here daily and those that are watching what is being said over there will soon be able to see that those who care for myLot and its rules will be proven right
I am finding it extremely difficulty to remain calm when trying to talk to that... They continue to come back to that topic spouting out even more ridiculous phrases and haven't got a clue that they have got it all wrong!
Fortunately we have an admin who is here daily and those that are watching what is being said over there will soon be able to see that those who care for myLot and its rules will be proven right 2 people like this
@mysdianait (66005)
• Italy
20 Jan 11
That is not where the problem is 
PM on its way...
PM on its way...1 person likes this
Can you share the method to remain calm?
@eileenleyva (27555)
• Philippines
21 Jan 11
This deserves best response, Knight!
Otta girl, dawnald!
@LetranKnight25 (33117)
• Philippines
21 Jan 11
oh, I know how you behave dawn. the ones fooling around are probably those who just came back and start over.
but well, eh ok
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@carmelanirel (20942)
• United States
20 Jan 11
I know and understand what you are saying Letran, but I do want to offer something. Though I know this person in question has probably been active here for a while, there are some mylotters that have signed up over a year ago, but haven't been able to be active or read what is going on, either due to no computer or life gets in the way. I don't know if you remember, but I was without a computer for 15 months and when I came back, if it wasn't for MD, I wouldn't have found that they were getting so strict about the guidelines. Not that I am complaining, I agree, we should follow the rules, but being away for so long, I couldn't remember and I just jumped right in because I was happy to be back full time.
I say this because in the last week or two, I have seen at least 2-4 people who are back after not being here for a while. I took the opportunity to tell them they need to reread the guidelines and they were grateful, because though they have signed up a long time ago, they were out of touch..
Just something I wanted to point out..:)
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@carmelanirel (20942)
• United States
20 Jan 11
Yeah, that was bad, they should have just learned and moved on.
Plus, back when my computer crashed, there were so many posts that went against the guidelines that didn't get deleted, that I thought maybe they were not. But now that I think about it, they were, and yet without it being enforced, when I came back, I had to reread the guidelines as I saw MD posting and then lamby posting about reading them again.
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@LetranKnight25 (33117)
• Philippines
20 Jan 11
my last post of my old account didn't but I WAS deleted
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@LetranKnight25 (33117)
• Philippines
20 Jan 11
Hello Carmel,
I didn't have computer for almost five months but i guess the difference is that you had work and tend to forget what mylot is about. as for me, i maintained it when i go to internet shops.of course, that situation happened when a lotter start scrutinizing her about the violation, and it went bad because the other didn't acknowledge that mistake. as for me, i would probably copy paste the guidelines and put it in the word so that I would remember it by the time i disappear and comes back.
but i do see you're point. i just didn't like the persons idea of flaming.
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I didn't have computer for almost five months but i guess the difference is that you had work and tend to forget what mylot is about. as for me, i maintained it when i go to internet shops.of course, that situation happened when a lotter start scrutinizing her about the violation, and it went bad because the other didn't acknowledge that mistake. as for me, i would probably copy paste the guidelines and put it in the word so that I would remember it by the time i disappear and comes back. but i do see you're point. i just didn't like the persons idea of flaming.2 people like this
@rberon1985 (5359)
• Philippines
20 Jan 11
Very well said!!
As a veteran /and oldies in the site, our role here is to assist all newbies and other
members on their concern and queries about the site.This site is just like an organization
wherein there are leaders,officers and members.As one of the officers,it is your duty to
look into the peacefullness and betterment of the site.It is your responsibility to assist
members on their problems with the site.But as what i have notice,there are some oldies here who initiate or who started the violation.and the newbie thought that it will not harm them so they follow what the old members has done.
in an ordnary company setting,just like in a call center industry,if a newbie has done
something wrong with the process,his boss will ask him "where did you learn that process"?the newbie will answer: from the senior agent.so with this example,it can also be applied
here.as aN OLD MEMBER,be careful on your acts,on your moves.do not just post just
for your own benefit.an organization or group will be successful if members has
cooperation adnd unity.happy mylotting!!
As a veteran /and oldies in the site, our role here is to assist all newbies and other
members on their concern and queries about the site.This site is just like an organization
wherein there are leaders,officers and members.As one of the officers,it is your duty to
look into the peacefullness and betterment of the site.It is your responsibility to assist
members on their problems with the site.But as what i have notice,there are some oldies here who initiate or who started the violation.and the newbie thought that it will not harm them so they follow what the old members has done.
in an ordnary company setting,just like in a call center industry,if a newbie has done
something wrong with the process,his boss will ask him "where did you learn that process"?the newbie will answer: from the senior agent.so with this example,it can also be applied
here.as aN OLD MEMBER,be careful on your acts,on your moves.do not just post just
for your own benefit.an organization or group will be successful if members has
cooperation adnd unity.happy mylotting!!
@LetranKnight25 (33117)
• Philippines
20 Jan 11
Hello Rberon,
There was a coordination and i felt so bad that the person didn't stand a chance. not because she kinda lost the argument but she could have just apologize for that mistake but of course, the argument was a bit long. I think in the CSR, it's really is important to be a role model there. I am lucky enough to have old members standing out for the guidelines even though i was so upset at first. well, despite being a slow learner i finally got it right for a change
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There was a coordination and i felt so bad that the person didn't stand a chance. not because she kinda lost the argument but she could have just apologize for that mistake but of course, the argument was a bit long. I think in the CSR, it's really is important to be a role model there. I am lucky enough to have old members standing out for the guidelines even though i was so upset at first. well, despite being a slow learner i finally got it right for a change1 person likes this
@Anora_Eldorath (6028)
• United States
20 Jan 11
Letran-
I have no clue as to which thread this was over, or what started it but I do agree with you. We do not all have to agree but we can at least remain civil with one another. Just keep trying to focus on those conversations that offer for discussion, and help others.
Namaste-Anora
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@Anora_Eldorath (6028)
• United States
21 Jan 11
Dawn-
Thanks. The hubby and I started Atkins a week and a day ago, and that picture was taken at 7 days and 7 pounds lighter. Got a long way to go but I'm happy!
Letran-
You'll have to send me a mail on what is going on. I'm doing well enough to just keep up these days and post a few helpful things now and then. Thanks for the compliments, no spell-all my hard work.
Namaste-Anora
Thanks for the compliments, no spell-all my hard work.
Namaste-Anora@LetranKnight25 (33117)
• Philippines
21 Jan 11
Hello Anora,
I'd say, this is one of best seducing avatar i've ever seen(unless there's a spell in it
). yeah, with regards to this, there's some one who came after being out and then start doing what she thinks is just ok. we just let her know the hard way that mylot is a lot stricter now than ever.1 person likes this
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
21 Jan 11
Hi LetranKnight,
I havent seen the discussion (and dont want to either after going through this discussion) but yes, I would like to input my thoughts here - The discussion or response that any one puts on must be researched to avoid duplication.
People should be thinking about this - MyLot is a social site and whetever they put on the board is public... which does help them in making an image for themselves... You should see yourself as a Brand here and realize that any mistake committed - maybe a dupe content or use of hurting words or anything (negative) - will only ruin your brandname/identity here - Being New or Old doesnt matter.
Being old/senior has at times a plus point that people know you and if it is just a bad day people would understand and move on (but this too only with some special people and not all)
Regards,
theSids.
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@LetranKnight25 (33117)
• Philippines
21 Jan 11
Hello thesids,
researching the file of the discussion is very much important so it won't have a similar one since that is actually being detected by the admin.if they show something ugly then it's their fault, unfortunately these people doesn't care until they realized it in the future date. unless they remain anonymous in previous discussions.
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researching the file of the discussion is very much important so it won't have a similar one since that is actually being detected by the admin.if they show something ugly then it's their fault, unfortunately these people doesn't care until they realized it in the future date. unless they remain anonymous in previous discussions. 
@rsa101 (40976)
• Philippines
21 Jan 11
Well anyway just curious who are you referring to? Anyway we cannot really stopped a veteran from becoming who he wants to be here. Everyone has mood swings here and there and we have to contend or understand them every now and then when dealing with responders. I for one just happen to choose to be responder than topic starter here and nothing else.
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@LetranKnight25 (33117)
• Philippines
21 Jan 11
Hello rsa101,
Some old lotter who had a long standing 5 yr old account, mood swings are fine but when you violate the rule that is no exceptions. when mylotters are not in the mood i won't engage a conversation with them until they are a lot better than they used to. I used to respond a lot but things change for me and it's hard for me to post now. i will try to be responding discussions again.
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Some old lotter who had a long standing 5 yr old account, mood swings are fine but when you violate the rule that is no exceptions. when mylotters are not in the mood i won't engage a conversation with them until they are a lot better than they used to. I used to respond a lot but things change for me and it's hard for me to post now. i will try to be responding discussions again.
@hora_fugit (5859)
• India
24 Jan 11
I didn't think this discussion was started due to some conflict here but I see it was. Anyway, I would have liked to read that one too....
If someone thinks they know better just because they joined earlier than it's quite stupid. I've been here for a long time if you see still I can't claim that. That too when no important change has actually skipped my eyes. I was here when GAA came, rules were added etc. etc. But I was away as well too. Maybe I missed something, and if someone points that out, I'll accept it. Seems the veteran you refer didn't like being 'humiliated'.
And well, I'm not a veteran. Am I?
And well, I'm not a veteran. Am I?
@skysuccess (8857)
• Singapore
27 Jan 11
LetranKnight25,
I suppose that's the ugly side of some members here.
Having said that, I wonder if these individuals are unaware that there are moderators monitoring every posts of threads, responses and comments. Or, some people just do not care a hoot and just want to fire the shots to see where the flocks will fly to.
Again, great effort for this reminder. Kudos!
@Hatley (163772)
• Garden Grove, California
21 Jan 11
hi letran old or new none of us should think we are exempt from mylot rules and break them just because we think as older ones we are untouchable as thats not the case at all. Plagiarism is still plagiarism
no matter how many years someone has been here.Flaming people here
can and should get you in big trouble no matter how long or short a time you have been here
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@LetranKnight25 (33117)
• Philippines
21 Jan 11
Hello Hatley,
that is so true that none of us are exempted from mylot guidelines, any one who breaks them gets to be punished in some way. well, it seems that the recent ones are at it's best though.i think people should realize and give importance to those who is thinking but of course, there are times we get to experience the writers block thing. but that's not an excuse to copy paste our post.
@krajibg (11922)
• Guwahati, India
20 Jan 11
Hi Letran,
Nice idea indeed. But I am sure people here would never come up to our expectation. If two are on the right track four others are on the wrong.
And who is to lead from the front? You said the veterans. But what is the yardstick to measure one's maturity? Is it the number of posts within bracket or the time he/she has passed here?
Say for me. I have been here almost for three years. But if measure with the canon of posting I am not veteran.
Would not it be better if all or most of us bear each other and try to understand the other end which is far alien to us?
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@krajibg (11922)
• Guwahati, India
20 Jan 11
That is good. If I know a person to be like a cantankerous I would better keep off than go and fight a duel.
@LetranKnight25 (33117)
• Philippines
20 Jan 11
Hello Krajibg,
I won't follow those on the wrong path since the people who taught me a lesson the ones on the right path. i think it's not just the number of post but of course, those who maintain being a good example of being a good mylotter. she is not alien but clearly she was living in the past and it wasn't good for the new ones. it's a big deal thing, if not taken action of, then others will imitate that person.
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I won't follow those on the wrong path since the people who taught me a lesson the ones on the right path. i think it's not just the number of post but of course, those who maintain being a good example of being a good mylotter. she is not alien but clearly she was living in the past and it wasn't good for the new ones. it's a big deal thing, if not taken action of, then others will imitate that person.1 person likes this
@eileenleyva (27555)
• Philippines
21 Jan 11
Knight, mylot is a good social website and I agree that we must have a certain level of conduct and decency to go by. But alas, everyone is welcome here, even the dull, the ignorant, the arrogant, and the plagiarist. I suppose we just have to live by with them till they get tired of peeving...
But I do appreciate the vigilance you made in this discussion. Happy there's one less obstacle for me to hurdle when I go mylotting. I leave the combat to you, Knight. After all, I do like to live with the shining armor!
Happy there's one less obstacle for me to hurdle when I go mylotting. I leave the combat to you, Knight. After all, I do like to live with the shining armor!@LetranKnight25 (33117)
• Philippines
21 Jan 11
Hello Eileeneyva
I agree that every one is welcome here.Unfortunately, guidelines are not to be messed and take for granted with. there's one discussions that the admin stated that he was happy that some users are helping out with what their doing. I guess there's a reason why other lotters also remind others about reading the guidelines and behaving in mylot.well, have a nice day to you.
I agree that every one is welcome here.Unfortunately, guidelines are not to be messed and take for granted with. there's one discussions that the admin stated that he was happy that some users are helping out with what their doing. I guess there's a reason why other lotters also remind others about reading the guidelines and behaving in mylot.well, have a nice day to you.1 person likes this
@Memnon (2170)
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29 Jan 11
It makes sense that those with longer site membership should set an example. However, that's not always the case in real life, so perhaps we should be a little tolerant of that?
@louievill (28846)
• Philippines
20 Jan 11
Being an oldie, a newbie or an in between does not all the time translate to being wiser, dumber, a know all or a know nothing
, it has more to do with mental capacity and emotional control
, it has more to do with mental capacity and emotional control@LetranKnight25 (33117)
• Philippines
20 Jan 11
Hello Louievill,
Well, that won't be fair for a bit still youngsters like myself
. oldie in terms of being here in mylot for long and not the age i think. if being mylot for many years and still do you're thing while others follow, it's not good because newbies are going to imitate them. it doesn't need to have mental capacity just to simply follow the guidelines, any one can do it, it isn't like geometry or anything1 person likes this
@LetranKnight25 (33117)
• Philippines
20 Jan 11
(sigh) must be loosing that sense of humor, i feel bad i think am growing older than i think.
must be loosing that sense of humor, i feel bad i think am growing older than i think.1 person likes this
@louievill (28846)
• Philippines
20 Jan 11
oh no knight, I was not referring to biological age or number of years being on mylot or like the number of posts, I was simply referring to mental, intellectual and emotional maturity, if we members can simply follow this irregardless of status, then would be members or those really new will simply just follow suite because it becomes a site culture, so much similar to a company culture
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