Maybe everything does happen for a reason, idk...

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So I was in a brief relationship with this guy named Roger. We really hit it off on chat. He was polite and respectful, and seemed to completely understand where I was coming from on things. And we went on one very awesome date, and everything was great. It was a relationship. But there were hints and signs of trouble. He'd get busy at work and disappear for a few days. Then it was a week. I made him promise to drop me a line and just let me know when he was going to be incommunicado. Then he disappeared for two weeks. And when he came back on, he seemed very down. Told me he was having to lay people off, and that he wouldn't have any time until after he was done with that. He was very angry about having to do it too, as they were really good people. And then he disappeared for two more weeks. And when two weeks and a day went by, and I wanted to call, but I didn't want to disturb (I'm stupid that way), and I went on to OK Cupid, the site where we met, and he had just been there. Well I was mad. When you're in a "relationship", you supposedly don't go poking around on dating sites. Long story short, I ended up calling him, and he broke up with me. He had been tremendously stressed, and he needed me there, and because I wasn't (we're two hours apart), he just couldn't handle it. So I licked my wounds, and I went to my skating event (pictures here http://rddcn.multiply.com/photos/album/326/Skating ). And last week I decided to go back on to OKC. And three guys contacted me, one who is closer to home, and seems really awesome (Dennis), and here comes Roger. Yeah, you guessed it, he wants to start over. And I was, and am, so tempted, because we really hit it off pretty well. But doggone it, he dumped me. And he works crazy hours, and I think that would eventually drive me nuts. And then there's the distance. Short term, I could handle a two hour drive (each way) every other weekend, or a one hour drive (meet halfway). But long term? Because what I really want, ultimately, is something permanent. Long term, somebody would have to move, right? So I had a serious talk with him last night. And it is as I thought. Mr. serious career guy workaholic isn't interested in moving. The job market in Sacramento would be career suicide. So if it comes to moving, I'd have to move. And I have 3 little reasons why I shouldn't move. Well, Dearra isn't so little any more. lol But seriously, one 15 year old and two 11 year olds who are dealing with their parents' divorce and moving out of their house, are NOT going to be happy about moving away from their friends. And then there's the legal issue. Can't move the kids away from R (more than 40 miles) without his consent. So anyway, as awesome as Roger is, mostly, I don't think we have a future. Dennis is starting to look a lot more interesting. Maybe Roger dumping me happened for a reason, giving me time to get perspective on things, and find somebody a bit more suitable, I don't know. Meanwhile, the house is on the market, and I'm going to be looking for a smaller place. And packing is a pain in the neck... Sorry I can't get on here very often, I feel bad that I miss so many of your discussions, but I just can't get here most days for more than a few minutes.