Kids and Weddings

I know a few people who have done that, maybe because do a lot of running around I don't know but I do know that some parents won't go if their kids are not invited, I don't have to worry about that I only have a cat and he is never invited...:(

I think it is a great idea to set up a sitter to watch all kids under 5 during the ceremony in a seperate area, they are too young to be able to sit still the whole time and can be very disruptive. However, I can see both points of view on having kids at teh reception. If the reception will go late, or have many people drinking, it may be better not to have the kids there; no one needs a childhood memory of some uncle getting drunk and making a long inappropriate toast. Kids also can get pretty board and whiney at a reception. I think the extra expense of feeding the children may cause a problem for those on a tight budget. But having the kids there can also really contribute to the feeling of family and celebration, and gives the adults something to talk about if the conversation lags. I think it has to be evaulated on a case-by-case basis.

It depends on the reception. If I know that this person is having a wedding that will run into the evening and is real fancy then I wouldnt bring my children. On the other hand if you wedding is at noon and it's at the church with all my relatives then I will bring my children. Ultimately it is up the the couple. I have been to weddings where children have disrupted the weddings, made all kinds of noise etc. and I blame the parents. My children are 3 and 5, I know how to get up and take my child for a walk if need be. It is a very boring time for a child and I understand, so I wouldn't have a problem getting up and walking my child out of the ceremony.

My Opinion to this is it is a Family do so why are Kids not invited I would not have gone to a Wedding if they said my Kids can't come I would not be willing to leave my Kids that long I think some People think that Kids will just be in the Way and that is why they say no Kids well I disagree with that

You know, I have always understood the reason for not inviting children until I read some of the responses to this discussion. When you say it's a family affair it made me think of my second wedding. It definitely was a family affair. All of my husband's nieces and nephews were there. Our two children were there two and I kind of wish they hadn't. LOL! My 4 year old cried through the whole ceremony because mommy and daddy were up on the altar and she was sitting with my sisters and parents. I think she was jealous of me and DH as a little kid. My youngest was one and she stayed outside the church with some of her cousins. Neither child went to the reception. I think they can be disruptive and at my own wedding I certainly didn't want to have to be looking after them. I wanted to relax and enjoy myself. At my first wedding my father decided only kids (ie my nieces and nephews) whose ages were in the double digits (10 and up). Frankly, I don't think those kids felt very comfortable at a party with a bunch of adults. Other people pay a lot of money to have such a grandiose formal affair that they don't want anything to blur the perfect image they have of their perfect day. I'm not saying I agree with that crap. But some people do think that way.

I think if you didn't invite the children it would usually be because of the financial end of things. We are going to 2 weddings this year and have been told NO CHILDREN. Both of the couples getting married are childless, I don't mind really as I know some people have little tolerance of kids! But I would of course prefer to be able to bring mine. There is always the problem of who is going to mind the kids when the serious fun gets underway later...

I dont think It should Be done.In Indian Society Childrens are always Invited With their Parents & Parents Bring their Childrens to marriages . It helps for childrens to Learn & KNow about their Religion, Culture, Society & Relatives. It would be a always a Good Oppurtunity to meet all realatives at a same time.

I think it is up to the couple to decide whether or not they want children at their wedding. Personally I would only ask the children of very close relatives and I would never invite young babies. Nothing like a crying child to spoil a nice video of the wedding ceremony.

In my culture it's all about the family. I remember when i was much younger that ppl used to hand out 'open' invites to weddings, meaning the whole family was invited. Nowadays, i think more cos of finances it is impossible. Guess folks try to cut down on expenses and leave the kids out. Sad, but how do you work around it. In the end, that reallys is a good way for families to mingle and for the children to get along..............

I have never been to awedding where kids were not invited but have been to a couple wre I wish a few had not been there! I like the idea of providing a daycare type setting for the younger kids. That way they get to be there, but do not interrupt the cromony. I would also not want to take children to a reception if there will be drinking of any kind. I would take them if it was to be alchohol free, though. I guess it depends on th child and the setting!

Most of the weddings we have around here invite all the children. Children have more fun that adults do,you see more children on the dance floor enjoying themselves.When my daughter got married we invited 400 guests and all there children were invited.We all had a great time.

It's first time that I heard this. I don't know anyone who didn't invite kids to their weddings. I remember that I was on one wedding like a kid with 10 years old. And what will do invited parents? leave a kids alone at home all to find someone to pay to take care of them .

I believe they aren't invited because they might be noisy or annoying and you wouldn't want that at a marriage.

Kids at weddings are great,they liven it up all together,they make it light hearted and fun,they have a great deal to add to the day.I would never dream of saying that kids would not be allowed to my wedding,it is just a daft thing to say.

If the kids are well behaved I don't have a problem with going to a wedding with kids there. But if they are brats I think the parents should show a little respect to the couple that is getting married and all their guest and find a sitter. I feel this way about any function like that. There is a time and a place for noisey kids. But like I said if they are well behaved and can sit through the ceremony more power to them.

to me it their wedding and that how they want it. We have to agree and respect the person wedding. to me i dont see nothing wrong with it maybe it is an adult function. I dont know but if it was mine i would let kids be invited. I never heard of that but hey it thier wedding, they should have it how they want it and people just have to respect it.

I was raised that weddings are a family event & children are part of the family. I love kids at a wedding, they usually have a great time. If my kids were not invited to a wedding in most cases we would just not go to the wedding.

Its really up to the couple involved, some may not wish children at the reception at all, while others have no objections at all, I do know of some people who refused to go because their children were not invited. These days though, some children are absolutely obnoxious, and wouldn't be wanted under any circumstances, and if they are banned then it could seem to be unfair to let other children to attend. I have some relatives who between them have four children - any one of them is adorable, any 2 together are totally obnoxious, any 3 together are impossible, and you NEVER ever want to have all 4 together, under these circumstances, I could understand that some people would never want children at their wedding. It doesn't bother me at all because I got married so long ago ( way back last centuray) when children were still brought up to have manners and do as they were told.

A girl that I used to work with was adamant that there would be no children at her wedding. She had no children in the bridal party either. Her reason? "Kids in the wedding party are so cute that they everyone will be watching THEM, instead of me ... oh, and John (her fiance) of course."

When we got married all the children were invited as I very much like children and two of my own were there . I believe the reason believe don't want to invite children as they believe it to be a drinking event . I don't feel one has to drink to have a good time but most people will tell you that you have to drink at one's wedding out of respect . If you ask me that is just an excuse to get drunk and feel justified for doing it .