dlemza

@dlemza (47)

South Africa • Age 65

Joined myLot 15 years ago

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do you forget and forgive or you forgive but not forget....

sachiare22 @sachiare22 (50) • Philippines 3 May 11

someone with a "goody good" attitude really good in making up stories and pa-awa effect...someone who had done terrible things to you... shattered your heart into pieces made you cry for months.. you thought she/he was a friend...

grudges

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dlemza One must forgive to be able to moce on in life. But to forget is the most dangerous one. When you meet the same situation next time youwill not be able to identify it because you have forgoten it. It is called experience.

3 May 11

Would you become a step parent of a teenager?

sarahruthbeth22 @sarahruthbeth22 (43143) • United States 2 May 11

I'm seeing A Dr.Phil where A Step Dad Hates his Step daughter.It is a war zone and the mother is in the middle. So I thought I would ask this question. Me? I never wanted children nor do I Ever want to marry so if I fell for a guy...

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dlemza Good spirit, and very considerate indeed. Just hope that doesn't break you up when he feels he really needs you now and find it not hard but missintepretes your good ideas. Honestly, for peace of mind?, I would opt for that now that I have solid reason,...

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Rocky Relationships. Do they stand a chance?

vader88 @vader88 (33) • United States 2 May 11

Ive been in my fair share of bad relationships. And in those relationships I held on to a small belief that maybe things would work out sooner or later and everything would be ok. Well it didnt. Usually if things arent looking...

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dlemza You just have to understand each other well to be together. That can only be be achieved through communication. We cannot live in peace if we fail to accept inevitable changes that come with different backgrounds. And if needs be, the very families that we...

3 May 11

What causes to keep a copy of a book for your personal library.

megamatt @megamatt (14290) • United States 2 May 11

I think that about eighty percent or so of the books that I read, I end up giving away or putting in a garage sale or donate to the library, or whatever. Then there comes a book that is so good, I think that I might want to reread...

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dlemza Good books are hard to let go, whether for entertainment, educational, or inspirational. There is always that book you don't feel like parting ways with it, keep it. It be referal to some apeaaling fact in your life or ideas of interest. One way or or another,...

3 May 11

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Osama Bin Laden is still alive...

smashville14 @smashville14 (278) • Philippines 2 May 11

yeah we all know now that Bin Laden has been declared dead. It's all over the news and NATO nations (specially the Americans) are rejoicing of that given news by President Obama. Now I'm happy with the news but I would more...

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dlemza Amen to that bro. How the body be burried before it is shown to the public that suffered through his hands. They should have shown the body first.

3 May 11

osama bin laden's death: where is the body?

darylcavan @darylcavan (23) 2 May 11

It's easy to claim that Bin Laden has been killed and of course we have to thank the military forces who did the operation. But, as news tell us that body of Bin Laden was buried in the sea leave us doubt. Do they really killed...

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dlemza Yah! Why kill him and then burry him sameday, before letting those who suffered through his attacks could see the body, or his people or families. Strange isnt it? But we shall the next development.

3 May 11

hoping to find somebody who deserves to have me

zaga_cleuth @zaga_cleuth (1407) • Philippines 2 May 11

Well, I have suitors and admirers but, I don't think they deserve to have me. Sorry, it's not that I have so much pride, but, of course if you are in my situation someone whom other people are looking up to (not for boasting), and...

love

relationship

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dlemza Relationship are one strange group of feelings for one another. Sometimes you will think you have done the right thing but along the way end up regretting that very first moment you said hi when he said hallow. Honestly, I don't think it is right that one...

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Osama Bin Laden, dead! Is it a good news or a bad one?

sachii315 @sachii315 (488) • Japan 2 May 11

Hello my fellow mylotters! There's this Osama fever going on today so I would like to bring this up. I know that everyone might think how stupid this question is but I would just like to ask from a different perspective. Knowing...

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dlemza Fine, the ten year long fugitive has been killed. What about his followers, Relatives and friends. Think about those with his ideology, it seems to me they have killed the leader not the organisation. Honestly this is not the end of terrorism. No one can...

2 May 11

is your boyfriend a good listener?

chiyochan @chiyosan (30186) • Philippines 2 May 11

what can you say? what do you think of him / or her? does she or he listen to you whnever you try to talk to him? i wonder why most of the boyfriends i have had are typically not very much concern about me.. or they are just not...

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dlemza Sometimes it is not that he is not very much concern what you say. Honestly there is too much happening in the man's mind that you might find difficult to understand. If he is listening he will respond, and if not say it again he will respond. If you love him...

2 May 11

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Given Task

floiecometa @floiecometa (156) 1 May 11

I am the youngest among seven siblings. My father 5 years before his death left his last Will and Testament and unfortunately I was nominated as administrator and executor of the said testament. I find this not so much of a...

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dlemza Relax bro. They must have been shocked to realise you will administrate thier share from the will. Ignore them as long as you let them have their prescribed share they have nothing against you. They never expected this to happen the way it did. They thought...

1 May 11

Computer running slow and pc problems. Can anyone help?

jenrl17 @jenrl17 (420) • United States 1 May 11

Not too long ago, my pc was running decently. It wasnt slow really, or anything like that, but I was lacking a registry cleaner, so I decided to get one. I dont even know if I truly NEED a registry cleaner. I went through a few...

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dlemza You should have started with checking your disk space, maybe you needed to defragment your pc, sort your files into folders, or even wipe out temp files. After you removed the programmes you need to restore your pc everything will be fine. Try to understand...

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Why I must fogive those who hurt me?

mallu30 @mallu30 (461) • India 1 May 11

I did not forget the people those who hurt me in the past and forgive them also. I don't how to forgive them also. Forgiveness may be giving up, letting go. I don't have any willing to fogive them also. Whenever I think about...

forgive

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dlemza Forgiving is the firts step to self healing. When someone hurts you it is not pleasant until she or he apologizes. If that does not happen you have to relieve yourself from that pain by forgiving the perpetrater. Surely you cannot forget someone who has hurt...

1 May 11

it's hard to move on..

anjiel052707 @anjiel052707 (410) • Philippines 14 Apr 11

the problem when give your everything for love is "moving on"! especially when you gave it to the wrong person. you loved someone and thought that he/she is gonna be the one but sadly, is not! how will you move on if he/she still...

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dlemza Take a deep breath and move on. It will surely be painful and hard at the beginning. But one gets over any situation. We get used to loosing our love ones who pass away. Just forgive her / him even if you feel guilty, and wish her/him all the luck. Don't rush...

15 Apr 11

A call in the morning hit me like a lightning

Gothicana @Gothicana (458) • United States 8 Apr 11

Here is the situation:My cellphone rings i pick it up and say "Hello" the voice only said "Is Mike there?" Mike is my hubby and he is working hard for us staying above the water ,and so this day,so I said "No he is not here he is...

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dlemza You must have nearly fainted. Good it was a mistake. You should love him more and really never let him go, so stay in love mylotter.

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Gadhafi agrees to ceasefire!

DPRCFOUNDER @DPRCFOUNDER (61) • China 10 Apr 11

The African Union said on Sunday that Gadhafi has agreed to ceasefire. Do you believe him or not?

gadhfi

international affrairs

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dlemza Believe him. Do the delegates believe him? Does the nation believe him? I personally don't. Won't he be using Mugabe techtics. How long will the ceasefire last anyway. That raised a lot questions without answers.

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all dreamers are not fool,but some fools see dreams.

ranjanamishra @ranjanamishra (22) • India 18 Mar 11

every person in this world have some dreams but thing is that how he make efferts to fullfil his dreams,some persons dreams like fool they are not live in real life.

dreamer

dreams

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dlemza What you conceive you achieve right? So dreaming may be termed as subconcsious thinking, planning and visualising things. If you stick to the path of achieving what you so much yearn for nothing can easily stop you. Yes it takes hard work to realise your...

11 Apr 11

Nigerian scam emails two of them in one day

lindaharding627 @lindaharding627 (1442) • United States 11 Apr 11

The Nigerian scam emails are getting bad. I had two of them in one day. One claimed that I was the sole heir to a person who died in a plane crash and it even had the link to a story about it. It claimed that I would inherit one...

scams

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dlemza Others come up with the story that they in some refudee camp in northen Africa, and nned to transefer money inheruted from their fathers so they can escape to South Africa. I was save by asking for a certified copy of the ID before I could send four hundred...

11 Apr 11

i gave up smoking,today completed six months

ritzz07 @ritzz07 (788) • India 11 Apr 11

six months back same day one friend of mine to whom i respect a lot said why dont u quite smoking, i simply said nobody ask me to give up,he said i m telling you just quite it.i also gave him a promise,"from today onward i will...

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dlemza That is great bro. Million of people are still struggling to quit from years of torturing their lungs with smoke like me, and always fail. I envy your friend trust in you, and your strength up to now. You will never smoke again, I believe you too. Smoke free...

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Not allowed to feed your children

laglen @laglen (19759) • United States 11 Apr 11

Not because you cant, but because the school said so??? As a mother who has been packing lunch for her daughter for twelve years (I dont trust school lunches), This made me livid. Little Village Academy a public school in...

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dlemza That is scary really. If I don't know what to feed my children, no one knows better. First they are my children and the principal is not some kind of domineering god to decide over our childrens' health. I am the first to make that decision, she comes next,...

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