My friend left a website because someone was nasty

in an open forum,there is bound to be differences of opinion.there may be some nasty comments but one should learn to ignore them.explain to your friend and ask him to come back and if the person gets nasty again,let him report to the administrator.

if i were your friend, i would report that nasty person to the webmaster immediately.. you know, quitting isn't a solution so the best thing he can do is to fight for his right.. don't let other people put you down..

yes I have. It went so far and continued for so long that I left the site. I felt it was not possible for me to support a site where the admin let people talk to eachother in such a nasty way. The admin joined in as well. Even though the site was very important to me, and i have lots of friends there, I felt it important to take a stand and not be party to the kind of behaviour

I have seen it here and I have a couple of friends that won't be back because of it. Fortunately I talk to them by E mail. I have had it once or twice but I try to ignore it. I know who my friends are and I also know that if I step out of line intentionally they will be down on me like a ton of bricks. I'd say take a weeks or so as a break and then come back. Perhaps quietly at first. He may well be surprised at how many people say how pleased they are to see him again.

I think your friend should have complained to the website owner rather than just leaving. I hate to see someone act like that toward another. Your friend has the right to his opinions just as the other person does. People seem not to respect others like people used to do. And that is sad.

Well... this isn't uncommon on forums. It's called "Flaming" and it happens all the time. I've been visiting a certain forum since 2003, and a lot of terrible things have been said to and by me. You sometimes feel as though a certain board or forum is your "turf" after a white. You get to know the regulars and tend to share personal jokes and memes from the site, and you gang up on people when they're acting like a newb. It's not right, but it happens. It's just like real life. Do you run and tell your mommy or your boss or your teacher every time someone says something nasty to you? I call that tattling. You kind of have to let it slide off of you like water from a duck.

I think your friend should be more mature to shrug of such silly comments. What will happen if someone says this word in real at your place of work? Will he leave his job because a person calls him a fool. I do think that he has to be more tough in such situations and not let such people influence his life.

It's too bad that your friend decided to leave b/c of one person. I would have reported the person then went on with my day and ignored the problem person. I'm sure that most ppl here at MyLot have had a time or two that they thought of leaving b/c someone else was being a pain in the butt...I know I have. But if you leave you are only letting that person win and they'll just move on to do it to someone else as well. I hope your friend doesn't let it get to them and can go back to enjoying the site. [b]MERRY CHRISTMAS!!! ~~AT PEACE WITHIN~~ **STAND STRONG AND TRUST IN GOD**[/b]

I am so sorry that your friend was insulted by a nasty person. I think these people use the relative anonymity of the internet as an pitiful excuse for dragging someone down in some lame attempt to make themselves seem more important. I don't blame your friend for leaving the forum. I believe it was a loss to the forum. The only one who can really do anything are the moderators. It seems your friend should email them and lodge a real complaint. Also he should look to see if others are experiencing the same thing from this person. If so, it could be a bully and definitely needs to be brought to a higher up's attention. Enough complaints and that guy can be kicked out. I am sorry your friend had to go through that. I hope he finds an even better forum.

Why not get him to join mylot instead of the other site. Also I think since he doesn't know these people personally he shouldn't take it to heart when or if someone is nasty to him. Now that he isn't working that site the other person won. He got rid of your friend, from the site. I have been called a few names here in mylot but I just report it to mylot when it happens. I won't quit the site because of some idiot. I won't let them win by me quitting. So I would tell your friend to not let that person win by him quitting the site. Alrighty then, talk to you later my friend, Have a good mylotting day,

I have been in that situation myself and I usually just ignore the people who choose to harass me. I can't help feeling a little sorry for them. It is hard to describe but sometimes when I read their rude or insulting comments, it is just so obvious that they are very unhappy. Their comments give them away.

I can understand how your friend felt because I tend to be very sensitive as well. However I know that there are always going to be some in any group that feel it is their right to be abusive. I try to let comments that hurt just roll off my back. My mother would say to consider the source. I know that not everyone is going to agree with everything I have to say so I expect some controversy. I think that's what makes sites like this one great. We can share ideas from all over the world and this alone will bring us closer together. You're friend should have reported the abuse to the moderators especially if it had been going on for some time. But he should not have left the site, for by doing so he did exactly what the abuser wanted him to do.

nope, but i do can imagine that ur friend must be nice, coz if not so then at least if he would have fought back against that nasty person, but anyway i think your friend's silence goes high above that nasty person's immorality..

This world is full of goods and bads so we cannot live our life thing about these nasty comments or bad persons behaver or even there is no way to change them. Its better to neglate them.

Yes I left one question and answer site because the discussions became personal attacks rather than proper discussions. That's when my daughter found MyLot and recommended it. I know there are one or two on here who may make personal attacks but the majority seem to be the sort of people who just want to express their point of view and have fun. Sometimes the people running the websites aren't really bothered what's going on as long as they make money from it.

I had just been through the same thing on other site myself. Someone upset me on a personal level and was very hurtful. It can be very upsetting and play on your mind, but you have to wake up to another day and think to yourself i'm just going to ignore it. Some of my friends on the site told the person involved how nasty he was and I also reported him. So now i have gone back on and all is okay again, so tell your friend to do the same.

Well, I don't think you really have to worry. I'm sure your friend will have worked out that he could have complained if he had wanted, but just felt, with limited time, that he was better off leaving the website. Sometimes of course, these 'nasty' comments, can seem to "spice" things up for other people... but, of course, not for the subject of those comments. Yes, it can be annoying to read 'nasty' comments, especially if they are ill informed and/ or nonsensical. But, hey ho, we get to live for another day.

i had some nasty comments but i dont bothered i just ignore and keep smiling.

I've felt annoyed but I didn't leave. Those people are just trolls and you either turn their game around on them or block/ignore. They aren't important enough to be upset over.

Your friend shouldn't worry, after all there insulting his screenname his online persona, not the thing that matters, himself in real-life so tell your friend to remember that.