Finally Found An Apartment That Takes Pets, But Still Can't Find A Job
By dfinster
@dfinster (3528)
United States
June 8, 2009 4:26pm CST
Last week I posted a discussion telling you all about my divorce and not being able to find an apartment that will let me have my pets. Well, that problem is solved. My sister-in-law and I looked at a place right in town that's on the same street that I grew up on. It's really cute and I felt at home the minute I walked in. The landlord seems very nice and the rent isn't bad. According to the agreement we worked out in court my husband is going to keep the house and I have to be moved out by July 1st. That's all well and good, but I still can't find a job and am a little nervous about being able to pay my bills. My alimony is only $400 a month and my rent is going to be $450/month plus utilities. I'm getting $2,000 tomorrow because my husband sold his motorcycle to his ex-wife for $4,000 and I get half. That will cover my security deposit and like two month's worth of rent, but if I can't find a job I don't know what I'm going to do to support myself. I applied at something like 19 places last week and a lot of them weren't even taking applications. Two places wouldn't even let me fill the applications out. My husband was out all weekend, shopping and going to the bars drinking and going through money like water. But when he's in court he makes it sound like he can't afford anything. I know he's hiding cash and the lawyer is doing everything possible to find it, but in the meantime I don't know what else to do once the money runs out in two months.
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I hope you do find a job somewhere, just keep on filling out as many applications as you can @dfinster (3528)
• United States
8 Jun 09
I wish I could afford someone to follow him because if the court actually saw that I don't think I would have to beg for anything when it comes to money. He's always been that way though. I never got to spend any money because he always said we were broke, but yet he still always came home with new clothes or tools, etc. As for applications, I'll keep going, it's all I can do.
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@GardenGerty (157721)
• United States
9 Jun 09
We would all love to help, and detect the cheater at what he is doing. Does he not have a paycheck that he has to show, a W-4?
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@GardenGerty (157721)
• United States
9 Jun 09
Great news about the apartment, I am sorry about the job. What is it you can do, or want to do? What are you applying for? Maybe we can all brainstorm with you to find something to help out a little. Do you have kids? What about transportation? Let us know more details. We lwill keep some positive thoughts going for you.
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@dfinster (3528)
• United States
9 Jun 09
Hi Gerty, thanks for the questions. No, I don't have kids. I also won't have transportation until I can afford a car and insurance. The town I'm living in is small though so I can walk to work almost anywhere. I'm going to school to finish my paralegal degree, but until I graduate I'll take any kind of work I can get. It can be waitressing, McD's or a grocery store or gas station. I have even applied at the cheese factories in town, but they are both laying off and cutting back the last few months. I still put in the applications though to anyone who will accept them.
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
10 Jun 09
You really need to check with your welfare office. Some will help you with this...they will give you aid and also provide you with help with whatever it is that is keeping you from finding employment that you can support yourself with....this could be education, transportation and many things. You should go in and talk to them about your situation before you are in a spot where your rent is due. There is a lot of paperwork and it is a time-consuming process so you should do it soon as possible.
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@Thoroughrob (11742)
• United States
9 Jun 09
I am glad that you have found an apartment. I hope that the extra money will help to hold you over until you can find a job. Don't give up. You deserve so much more than him. I hope that your lawyer finds that money and takes him to the cleaners. He really should have some respect and willingness to admit that it is his fault and choice that you are getting divorced and have a little remorse. I am so sorry things are not better than they are, but I am happy that you have found an apartment for you and your pets.
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@dfinster (3528)
• United States
9 Jun 09
I'm really happy about finding this place too. He never shows remorse for anything because he thinks he doesn't do anything wrong. He still tries to get me to feel sorry for him by saying he doesn't know how he's gonna afford things now that he has to pay me. He knows that I know about the money he's spending. In fact he's the one that told me he was out at the bars on Saturday night so how twisted is he to think that I should feel bad because he has to pay me monthly maintenence when he's wasting money that way and bragging to me about it.
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
10 Jun 09
He is actually pretty typical. I have a child still at home with my ex. I gave up child support in exchange for him spending time with her while I was at work...ya..I know...dumb move. So now he does not pay child support or spend time with her. He literally does almost nothing to help in anyway in her life. I Just don't even ask anymore. She has called him asking for $ for things that I could not afford and almost always, he says...no...I am hurting too. He is a licensed plumber!!!! It's all dumb. I just do the best I can on my own. I hope you find some work soon of some sort because it is not good for the ego to rely on someone and especially not guys like this. The best way to get even is to not NEED these type of guys for anything at all.
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@abbey19 (3106)
• Gold Coast, Australia
8 Jun 09
I'm so relieved that at last you have found a place to live, and you can have your pets there, because that must have been a BIG worry for you. Now you just have to find a job and I know it's hard these days, so be prepared to take anything that will bring a wage.
When I returned to the workforce after raising my kids, I couldn't get a job doing secretarial work (my line of work), and so I found some cleaning jobs to see me through until I could get an office job. However, I got so much cleaning work, that I started my own cleaning business - it just snowballed! It also gave me a good income to live very comfortably.
What I'm saying is - keep your options open and widen your horizons. Good luck my friend.
@GardenGerty (157721)
• United States
9 Jun 09
Are there any human services/personal care attendant/home companion type jobs where you are? Those always need help. They do not cut back. The other thing is something I will e mail you about and let you decide. I learned about it from someone else here, and it is decent, and legitimate. It is a person who is using freelance writers. You have to be able to research and to put together a good sentence, but I am sure with your background you can do both. Not big pay, but it is legitimate.
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@dfinster (3528)
• United States
9 Jun 09
I've been applying for everything. I'm not picky when it comes to earning a paycheck. I even applied at McDonalds and the gas stations around here. Last Sunday I walked 25 acres of field and picked stones for 4 hours to make $30. There's just so much unemployment here like everywhere else.
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@sid556 (30960)
• United States
10 Jun 09
Don't focus on what your ex is doing...let the lawyer do that and in the end you still may not be able to prove anything so don't even count on that. This is a really tough time to be without a job. Check with your local and state welfare and housing and see what you may qualify for as far as help. Even if you get into a place, there are other costs....lights, fuel, food, gas etc. You may need some help until you are able to find work. I would apply now for any and all help that you qualify for as the paper work often takes time to go thru. I've been out of work before and there are ways to earn money. I used to clean apts. when people moved out so they could get their sec. dep. back....elderly people were excellent for this as often they did not want to be bothered and were moving to different climates or elderly housing. I've cooked meals and delivered them to the elderly ....done mending, ironing etc. babysitting is also another means of bringing in some cash. Now there is e-bay. I dated a man who went to yard sales, thrift shopts etc and bought things dirt cheap and re-sold them on e-bay. He hardly ever worked other than to do this...he had an eye and knowledge of antiques which helped but still...you can pull in some cash there. Good luck...I hope this all works out for you. I know it is tough but you can't rely on your ex ....he obviously isn't very reliable!
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@thisisrightnow (537)
• United States
9 Jun 09
The economy is extremely rough right now. Only advice I can truly give is to just keep on at it and don't give up. I graduated with my degree in veterinary technology back in December and up until recently, I didn't have any good leads on jobs. I think I am finally going to be getting a job, though I have to move 2 hours away. Which I am fine with cause I wanted to get out of this city anyhow. Just keep on looking and I am sure something will come up for you. Like I tell people, something has gotta give eventually.
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@sudiptacallingu (10879)
• India
9 Jun 09
Don’t worry yourself out…whether you believe it or not, its my firm belief that just before we reach breakpoint HE catches us…it has happened to me many times before but I have always been rescued right from the edge of the precipice… so keep faith.
Practically speaking I would be worried too if I were in your place…I know very well the sinking feeling having limited cash with no job in sight but I’m sure something will work out. Keep smiling 
and keep us posted
and keep us posted
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@sudalunts (5523)
• United States
9 Jun 09
Since, your husband is working and you were not, it seems the courts should have given your more money monthly. Your husband should have been responsibile for your transitional money. It makes no sense, you have no job, but am expected to find and pay for an apartment without first securing a job. It would make more sense to me, if your ex husband was responsible for your housing until you found a job. Unfortunately, jobs are really hard to find these days, especially jobs that can keep you up with your bills. You are lucky that you found an apartment for only $450.00, becase where I live rent is really expensive, I pay $975.00 a month, anyway, I hope you are able to find a job soon.
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• United States
9 Jun 09
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@janyen (623)
• Netherlands
9 Jun 09
hi dfinster, from what country are you in? i am also having hard times in looking for a job here in netherlands coz of the language barrier. i only speak english and american companies to where my husband work don't acknowledge couples. so, i am staying at home and try to do things online. i also understand that economic crisis affected unemployed people like us to find jobs coz companies are cutting down labor. the help from the government that i get is not enough to cover our expenses, bills and everything.
@dfinster (3528)
• United States
11 Jun 09
I'm in the U.S. and unemployment where I live is horrible. There are so many people without jobs because they have been laid off or their positions have been eliminated. Those people then went and are now working at the jobs I'm applying for. That's why there isn't too much I can do about it except continue to apply at places. We all have to work it's just a matter of who gets to the jobs first.
@flzmlady (418)
• China
9 Jun 09
i give you my full pity.
don't be depressed,i believe that you will find a good job in two months.
as for your husband,i think you should get more legal support to defend yourself.agree with the first floor, i think you should hire some private detective to be after your husband and try to get some evidence.
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@dfinster (3528)
• United States
9 Jun 09
My lawyer is good. She said he's one of the dumbest people she's ever seen when it comes to trying to hide things and said she would catch him, it may just take a little bit of time and she hasn't had too much time. She has been working very hard though since she's taken my case and I have seen a lot of progress.
@Polly1 (12645)
• United States
9 Jun 09
I know I said it before, just have faith-its all going to work out. It sounds like you found a perfect place for you and your fur babies. The rent sounds good too. Your going to find a job too, say your prayers and follow your heart. It won't be long and you will be telling me that you got a job and your feeling good. Shouldn't you be able to get some money for your share of the house, that doesn't seem fair to me. Good luck with everything.
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@irishmist (3814)
• United States
16 Jun 09
Thats great that you have found an apartment that excepts pets. Have you tried looking on craigs list for a job? Also are there any temp services in your area, or perhaps even a babysitting job, sorry these are all the things I can think of at the moment.
@reckon21 (3479)
• Philippines
27 Jun 09
Don't lost hope in finding a job.
Keep on trying because you are alone now and
you have a responsibility to yourself. I know
finding work now is very hard. I just wish your
husband will be much kinder to you and not hide
his real money. I don't understand why he keep on
wasting money for all the wrong reason.
