Criticism is often motivated by the discomfort some people feel when others succ

Hi kala, I agree with that.i guess we all are envious of other people doing better han us, but, how we handle this feekling is different depending on our personalitis. Some may want to better themselves so that they too can be like those they envy, but in some it leads to jealousy and negative feelings. They start looking for some small loop hole in the other person's persona and keep harping on it.It is a basic insecurity about oneself...I have a cousin , who has no good words to say about anyone exceot her own sisters and her children.She is criticising the food when she goes to have dinner at other relative's homes and generally has a negative outlook.I feel that it is because of some insecurity that she is behaving in that manner...All the best kala and have a great weekend

This is very common behavior. First is because people are jealous, second because many believe that they are way better. They want to discuss the subject they don't know and prove that they are better than someone who is famous. Constructive criticism is always good, but lately our society is full of daily criticism. Media are leading in the crowd.

I totally agree with this statement .It happens in all fields .Such people who criticize are not at all well wishers .They can only find mistakes .They can never bring themselves to praise generously.Passing negative remarks to the core is their passion.I am a bsolutely sure that with a little bit of admiration from others will shoot up the spirit of the doer and he will certainly try to reach towering heights. Always showering praises whenever necessary will help every person in what ever field it may be .

I have met some people during my life that, instead of being happy for you when you succeed they will shoot you down in flames and get critical and nasty. I think this behaviour is based on insecurity and jealousy. It happens in all age groups. My daughter is eight years old and she has a friend of the same age who treats her like that, she is very jealous and scoffs whenever my child does anything well which upsets my little one a great deal. I believe that low self esteem in some individuals can create this insecure behaviour.

This concept I understand quite well.. I grew up with my mom and my sister, I was older so there was more pressure on me to be "perfect"... I would do something really well and even may got praise from others... My mother would be the first person to point out my imperfections... and tell me how I could have done better... Didn't matter how many times I did the same thing over and over, she would still find something... Why? Your thinking she wanted the best right? Wrong!! I had a learning disablement, and my mother didnt want me to have confidence in my ability to do things on my own... So then I would always rely on her for the rest of her life.. My sister and I were growing up fast, and soon my mother would be alone... So if I didnt think I could do anything without her then I would never "leave the nest".. Well her plan back fired...lol The other reason my mother was like this is because she didnt want anyone else to be better then her...she knows best and the rest of the world should listen... no i am not making this up...

"A Man is more known by the number of enemies he has", so goes a famous saying which is very similliar to the broader subject of your discussion here today. The human mind has a twisted thought process in most cases which actually cannot digest the success of others. Those who can stand it are those who are confident of themselves and are generally born leaders or pioneers in their own field of activity. All of us cannot be leaders and therefore, the only alternative we have is to pull down a successful person by criticising his or her reasons for success. But then we may ask, is this normal behavior ? Of course it is not, but then how do you decide what is normal or not ? The masses decide that of course but again, they are the ones who do not have the ability to succeed and decide to criticise anything under the sun as long as they catch attention of others and get a false pride out of it. Therefore, whatever may be the reason for criticism but be rest assured that the person who is criticising is a failure and the one that is being criticised is a success in life already. So, care a hoot for those who criticise.

Most of the people are brought up here without being taught to appreciate the good things in life.They grow up emulating their parents who gossip and bicker about anything and everything.The rivalry and jealousy are mistaken for the competitive spirit.And as one is warped in his own failures he ultimately become the typical cynic who hates everything.They always compare them with others and simmer in self pity.But they pose as a know all and criticize the winners.Poor things they have to work towards attaining some wisdom lest they want to drown themselves into their cesspool of bitterness..

LOL Kala, this brings to my mind the very recent criticism of some critics to Sachin’s mind-blowing double ton at Gwalior…the critics were saying that the field was small and very fast as if that was some explanation of Sachin’s extra-ordinary performance…but they were just doing their job I guess. In our everyday life however, jealousy is the prime reason why we always try to find faults in achievers. I see them with mothers…if somebody’s child has come first, other mothers would always try to find fault with the child or maybe some signs of partiality from the teacher. We see that in office… if somebody is close to the boss by dint of hard work, others will try and find out sycophancy…actually most of us don’t like to admit that there others who are better than us in some ways. It also means admitting that we are not perfect and that hurts our ego.

It is people's general nature not to accept and digest success of others. So they try to make the person mentally weak for which they criticise and demotivate him. This is in a way global sickness of the mankind. If they read good books on self-analysis and spend time in good company, their mentality will change. Otherwise we have to put up with it.

That is so very true, because when we really think about it, there really is no reason to criticize others except in line with taking action. An example would be when the police officer pulls someone over and says "You were driving too fast; I have to give you a ticket." It is even worse when others criticize people for NOT succeeding. Once in college I was required to take a certain physical education class and I was a gangly 19-year old and the teacher was lazy and did not really teach us anything, but expected us to already know how to perform certain tasks. With me, she quickly became impatient and said in front of all the other students "Well! there are some people who just cannot do this." Of course I was embarrassed, but I also thought "If this is something some people cannot do, then why are all people required to take the class?" Later that same week I was driving home from school and saw her run a red light and wondered how she ever got her driver's license. But she, I still remember that silly woman.

We very often experience this at our place of work. Everyone who does their work well is criticized and called arrogant. This happens in every field. I think it is just the jealosy that people feel because they themselves have not achieved that kind of success. Nothing else.

kalav58 What do I think, I think right some people will criticize anyone who has succeeded in something because they are jealous. they cannot bring themselves up to the level of their success so they must tear down the others success with criticism instead. Myself, I will not do that, I admire other's successes and wish I had the moxie to achieve that for my self. But it is not jealousy at all. I just wish I had the skill that some people do.

Hi Kalav, In my country we call this "crab mentality", comparing the behavior to crabs placed in a container. Crabs tend to pull down those that manage to go or reach the upper part of the container. Similarly, people have the tendency to pull down those who are on the way to the top, or who are already there. The very obvious reasons are insecurity, envy and jealousy.

I agree with that statement 100 percent kala. :) I experienced the resentment throughout my service life. People are jealous of everything. :( So now, when I work from home, I feel a whole lot safer - away from such jealousies. :)