Carpe Diem seize the moment, life is fleeting

These are very good points. Someone yesterday on another site had much the same to say. She was letting her focus on paying down debt stress her out and rob her of her relationships. Guess that is my cue to go spend a little bit of time with my family today while I can.

hi purple and garden i remember my neighbor saying how can you take your two little ones out for a walk when you havent cleaned up your house yet.I told her, they are not going to be little forever and my house will still be there when we return, I never did regret the times I took off from housework to take my children out for a walk, and we all three enjoyed doing it.Children do grow up so fast and those are precious times we spent together.specially as my little daughter did not live beyond her eighth birthday ,so all those times were indeed well spent. so my house was not always spotless, and my husband did not complain as he felt as I did about time spent with the little ones. lol.

You have written this nicely Purple I would rather have my husband home than working to make extra money, because at the end of the day we are going to remember the times that we spent together (or all the time that we were apart)... I'm somehow touched by what you said above because for now me and my girlfriend have few memories of when we are together because we spent most of our time apart. It's hard to maintain a long distance relationship. I know someday we will be spnding our lives together remembering how we struggled together

hexeduser22 I have been the same way lately, I put off three health issues I should have done at time I was given the paperwork so now ti Have those to do yet.Hope my discussion has triggered the resolve to not procrastinate in all of us.

Hex - I go through phases where sometimes I am organized and get everything done and still have time to do the things that I want to do, and other times I get so overwhelmed with everything that is going on that I barely get anything accomplished. The latter times are when it is the most important to remember what really matters in life and focus on those things, because the rest will eventually fall into place or work itself. It is really hard not to get caught up in all the stress, though. Hatley - I understand what you mean about putting off paperwork regarding health issues. I have one paper that I have filled out but haven't sent back yet, and I am not sure whether or not I am going to. If you are putting off doing the paperwork because you are scared that the result is going to be bad, then you should try to do it and get it done, because the faster they can treat the problem the easier it will be. If you are procrastinating because the result might be more stressful knowing than not knowing and you can't change the outcome either way, though, then you need to try to make a decision that will give you the least amount of stress. Good luck. By the way, I really like your new avatar!

Oooh health issues, I can't afford to be distracted by those in this times. Purple, wow you've been away too or maybe my stalking skills are becoming poorer by the minute

hi celticeagle I am really so sorry after the fact, she was so trying to remember who I was and I was trying not to cry and upset her more. my own mom did not recognize me, I knew it was not her fault of course, but it hurt to see her so upset and confused, my heart ached for her.that must have been so frightening for her trying to fit the pieces of a scrambled up puzzle together again.this is not nursing home here but just a retirement center but there are some people here whose adult children do not come to see them. that must really hurt

Ya, I think it is natural to see things in retrospect that we wish we could have done differently or to a better degree. Days go by and kids get busy but still......!!

I took a part-time job when my mom got sick and went into a nursing home. I was there every afternnon after work. There was a little old lady who would grab my arm when I came in. I felt so bad for her. I don't think anyone ever came to see her. I think we all wish we had done more for our parents.

hi vandy that is a wonderful way to look at it.I know I felt so much better after I told him, he did not even attempt to apologize, he only grunted but I still did mean it, after all he was my father, I would never have been here without my father and my mom. I was so proud that my husband understood how I felt and told me that to hate someone did not hurt the someone but only you. So I let that go and felt such a release, light as a feather,no heavy w eight on my shoulders any more.

Oh Hatley, that is so sad! I too have been molested when I was young, but my father has not been like that with me. My father has a million other flaws in so far as I am concerned, except that. So to that extent, he is truly a good man. I too have a lot to forgive. You know what, somebody told me the other day. Dont think of forgiveness as forgiveness. Think of it as a case that you file in god's court. If you keep on opening the file, the file will never reach god, and god will remain undecided on the issue. So just let go of it, and let it reach god. Let god take a decision on it. I thought that sounded great.

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Sorry about your little girl. From what you wrote, I'm sure she had a fun and great life however short it was.

hi riyasam I have heard that song somewhere before and it says volumes too. If one does not grab that moment and say thanks or forgive me,it sometimes will be too late the next time as things can change in an instant.

ayumitakashi hi I am so into putting off doctors appointments and usually its not that big a deal,one is for getting my eyes check for diabetic checkup and to get new glasses, the other is for blood work, so now I have to play catch up. I should have done both of these three weeks back. I never used to procrastinate like that. Now I wish they were all behind me, which they would have been if I had just done them when I first got the paperwork. lol.

good morning toyou Joyceshookery. glad I was an inspiration to you. my best friend called me the other day just as I was thinking of calling her, this economy is getting to the health insurance where she works. they are going to be put on what she said theboss called flextime, she has to take off every other friday, but she will still get paid for it, and she was telling me how glad she was that she would not lose any pay.I was glad to hear from her, and had been just ready to phone her, grab the moment so to speak.

Opal25 you do indeed have my prayers that all will be well with you, and no bone chilling shocks. Nope we sure never know what is round that corner. I never had dreamed sitting peacefully mylotting in my own room at El Dorado Gardens that I would now be sitting here mylotting in a retirement center, never had any desire to go into one, nor any thoughts about it.boy talk about curves that was a drastic one. but on the good side we survived and we are both alive and not wandering homeless on the street. I am now stuck with three medical appts I have to kept in a few days,Iput them off,if I had done them at the time I got the paperwork I could now relax.

hi dorannmwin I let the fact that my mom was deep into alzenheimer disease and did not recognize me keep me from going to see her every day and then suddenly she was gone, and I felt so horrible and still regret that so much, but it hurt so much to see her struggle to remember who I was and she was in tears, and i tried to comfort her. We had always been so close,my dad was a whole different,ugly story. but my mom and I were very close. Now I'm kicking myself as I have three medical things to do that if I had done them at the right time I would not now be worrying about it. ugh.,

hi cher wish I could say I have really been doing that, but it is a great saying, and now I have to finally get my doctor's visits over and done with. I should have done that three weeks back but kept putting it off so now its still all ahead of me. alas.

hi kitty 42 now I have to go see my doctor, then go to have my eyes checked, and have some blood work done, all these things I had put off,now its all ahead of me. it would have nice if I had done them when they were scheduled instead. I never used put off things like that, I really use to seize the day so now I must do it again. for some dumb reason I hate doctor visits and yet I like my doctor and the darned eye exam is not all that bad although I do hate having my eyes dilated.lol