Jan. 1st and there must be something in the air. Whew!!!!!!
@Hatley (163781)
Garden Grove, California
January 1, 2012 7:37pm CST
I expected today to be rather quiet but peaceful.But while I was
still finishing my breakfast some male resident began screaming
at someone. I could tell he was so angry he was not even making
too good sense. A crowd had gathered and I d ecided as I used the small elevator, I had no reason to join the onlookers. I admit I was
curious as who was so angry they had completely lost it. So I did
not know who was blowing their top. I just thought odd way to start the first day of a new year. I heard the word bigot screamed over
and over. well I went to my room, glad of the peace. Just now I was sitting waiting for our dinners when Phyllis who has a short fuss
lost it with rocky.Rocky is a dunderhead but he works hard, but his
blowing up was inexcusable. nOw he knows Phyliss has emotional problems and could have soft pedaled the whole thing. but being Rocky he yelled back and refused to give her the beverage she had asked for,She wanted her coffee with some milk in it, simple to do but he evidently refused . He is not a particularly thoughtful person at all. So they screamed at each other.,then George who was the resident's ex- president for four years screamed at her. He knew better too. so she really went at it telling him to butt the hell out. He yelled" I will if you will" then Rose one of the false medical staff came over and talked in a low voice to Phyliss and all was peaceful again. This day has really startled me as most of the time its peaceful here and even boring., But truthfully aI hate confrontations like that where someone is so angry that they are no longer even making sense. I had a feeling the morning screamer had had a point in his anger but lost it when he began just raging.Your take fellow mylotters. sorry this is so long but I needed to put the details in. a a
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@GardenGerty (157917)
• United States
3 Jan 12
I suppose in a way I am a false medical staff then. A good part of my training was on the proper administration of medication to my clients. I have also done the job in the nursing homes I have worked in. I will learn to administer insulin for this company this week, although I already do know how, as I have done it before. Ideally, in a residential setting, staff know their clients well enough, even though they do not have medical licenses, that they can make sure the medicine is given correctly. If they get all "uppity" and expert, though, I know the "false medical people" can be a pain. When you were a CNA, Hatley, did you consider yourself to be a "false medical person"?
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
2 Jan 12
hi savak oh thats easily explained . they are lay people acting as pill pushers and nursing help without being RNs or medical people at all. I like my coffee with milk in it too. myGod he could have just given her a glass of milk and let her put the milk in her own coffee. He knew she had a quick tem per and rode right over her
asking him for milk in her coffee. You would think that was coming out of his own money. lol I just ask for coffee and a glass of milk.He has always given me each.
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@savak03 (6684)
• United States
2 Jan 12
I have had a lot of experience with people that are hired to dispense money or aid that our tax dollars have paid for acting like they were taking it out of their own pockets. It is sooo frustrating. I say if they don't like their jobs, if they don't want to work in a position where they have to serve others, especially others they think is beneath them because they are poor or sick or old, then they should get a job digging ditches or something.
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@MaryLynn321 (2680)
• United States
2 Jan 12
I wonder if Rocky went out on New Year Eve and might have had a hang over when he came this morning. That could definitely cause him to have a short fuse.
It doesn't sound like there should have been a problem. The lady wanted some milk with her coffee.
Sounds like a few people might have celebrated a bit to much last night. I don't think there was a full moon, so have no idea why these people got so out of line.
Have a nice evening.
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
2 Jan 12
hi marylyn I was wondering the same thing as he was off new years eve He was uncharacteristically belligerent to night so he might still be having a hang over. the one this morning I am afraid has some things that are being passed over. we have a mixture of people from different races here and also different physical problems and maybe emotional problems too.I thought about the full moon but there was no full moon last night.
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@MaryLynn321 (2680)
• United States
2 Jan 12
ahhhh, so it is possible he might have gone out. I suppose maybe the lady did not ask nicely for the milk and more or less demanded it, thus setting off the fuse.
It takes a mixture of people and personalities to make the world go around.
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@ravisivan (14079)
• India
2 Jan 12
Yes. all of us are different. I get angry over certain things on which others may not get angry. Similarly I do not get any over certain experiences on which others frown. That is life. Much depends on our health and other problems we are facing at the moment.
It is better not to involve in these problems personally but only watch and keep oneself busy to forget the worries of staying away from children/
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@GardenGerty (157917)
• United States
2 Jan 12
It sounds as if a lot of people stayed up too late to see the New Year in, or were kept up by their neighbors. I would have just hidden in my room to get away from all the nonsense and yelling. I sure hope they got it all out of their system today and can be civil to one another tomorrow.
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@GardenGerty (157917)
• United States
2 Jan 12
Isn't it great to have places to go to be happy and safe?
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
4 Jan 12
hi you know as a kid I grew up on a large farm and the upper orchard was my safe happy place that and my dear grandpa's cabin. nothing
upset him except meanness , that got his goat. lol He was a gentle
man and also a gentleman only in overalls not in a suit. lol.
upset him except meanness , that got his goat. lol He was a gentle
man and also a gentleman only in overalls not in a suit. lol.@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
2 Jan 12
hi gardengerty thats just what I did as hearing someone screaming
and out of control reallygets to me. I think thats becuse every'day for years while I was growing up I had to listen to my parents'screaming at each other. for a little kid that is so
frightening as I wondered if they would divorce. so in my adultyear I avoid confrontations as much as I can.Today everything seems to
be back to normal. quiet and serene. my room is my haven away from others fights and mylot is my go to place. lol
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@celticeagle (160064)
• Boise, Idaho
2 Jan 12
Had they all been holding this anger in during the holidays and just let it rip now that it is all over? I would wonder. It is sad that some people are in certain jobs that they just are not good at all in. I wish you could get out of there but it doesn't look like it does it?
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
1 Feb 12
hi celtic eagle not yet as my son is working morehours but s till not making enough to get u s into a two bedroom apartment. but its
okay for now,.I just avoid such confrontations as much as possible
as I am not one for fighting at all.
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@celticeagle (160064)
• Boise, Idaho
1 Feb 12
I am not one to fight either. I do see red on certain issues though and then I speak my mind.
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
2 Jan 12
hi jenintn nope my son is now down with a virus but h e said he would call me if he feels up to comeing to see me. nOw
my roomie has what sounds like the flu.I cannot w in. so'I myloted New Year 's eve. but thats okay as he felt coming here with a
cold while I am just recovered from the flu was not too]hot an idea. I do hope people can get along today here.I am still curious as to who was doing the s creaming but as I did not have to use the far elevator to get to my room, and a large crowd was gathering'I choose not to join them. why people will gather around two people who are having a verbal fight is beyond me. Its 6:41 am here and so dark outsie yet.wow.
around two people who are having a verbal fight is beyond me. Its 6:41 am here and so dark outsie yet.wow.@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
2 Jan 12
I am always up early but since I am off today..I might have a nap..lol.
I don't know why people gather to watch the altercations. Children do it when there is a fight at school too. It must be in human nature to see who the "alpha" is...lol...that was just a random thought..I have those sometimes in the wee morning hours. It is a little later now though..no excuse for the random thing..lol.
I hope everyone gets along the rest of the day.
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
2 Jan 12
hi I just got up from trying to have a morning nap. my roomie's clock is on the fritz so ever fifteen minutes she wakes me."Whjat time is it Patsie" so now I just gave u p and put my shoes on '
and am on my lot. lol.,I guess its human nature as they gathered]to watch me when I fell badly on the sidewalk next to
my favorite restaurant. oNe couple cared and they phoned the
paramedics. I did need them as I had smashed my shoulder. the rest were just gawkers, at least today so far all has been calm, thank goodness for that.
@deodavid (4150)
• Philippines
2 Jan 12
Wow all of that because of coffee, dang she must have had a terrible sleep or maybe didn't sleep at all because she was out of it, and that must had been one hell of a coffee that rocky make's for Phyllis to get angry not having it but anyway. I think people should just be understanding of each other since it's a brand new year and bad practices should be left behind with the new year that passed. Well anyway hatley thanks for sharing this. It's very entertaining Happy Peaceful and quite New Year to you...
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
2 Jan 12
hi deodavid at least that screaming match was over in a few minutes'the other one bothered me as the mand was getting incoherent in his screaming. He yelled bigot over and over. we do have a number of different races here but most all the time'nobody shows any racism either.anyway today its been peaqceful and
quiet. thank Goodness
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
4 Jan 12
typo I missed should be as the man was gettin incoherent in his
screaming.
@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
13 Jan 12
Wow, you never know where a little confrontation will go sometimes when approached from the wrong way. It definately sounds like this did not make for a good day and probably something that was quite inappropriate as well. I do hope that something good was able to come from this resolve, as this is not the way for a staff member to really act. But at least it finally quieted down for you which was quite good.
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
1 Feb 12
hi tina I was a bit amused at all the people crowding out of the dining room like they were going to see something wonderful
instead of a man screaming like he had lost his marbles. people can be so odd to me at times. why add to the upset man and his antagonist? what good is watching this like its a side show?
I did not join the crowd as I was closest to the small elevator
I got the h eck out of there. I hate confrontations myself.
@dragon54u (31636)
• United States
2 Jan 12
I think that when a large group of people live together they tend to keep quiet about the little things that irritate them until something finally lights the fuse and explodes the whole mess of stuff they've repressed in order to get along with everybody. This might be the case there in your little community.
I hope everyone who has had to keep stuff to themselves and is frustrated has had the opportunity to blow off some steam. That will make for a peaceful couple of months! It's best to say something when the situation occurs, not let it build up to the boiling point.
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
2 Jan 12
hi dragon54u thats so true and we do have a mix of races here as our country the U S is a melting pot. I guess the man whoever he was had got to the point he had to explode. There are several large me who are rather homily but also have the nicest personalities. Also there is one little creep Glen Mayberry who is schizophrenic and
will goad anyone who is different,. I myself just ignore him as he
lives in a world of his own.,He may have triggered that but I just
did not want to watch and be in the way. I dislike confrontations so
much.
@elitess (5070)
• Ipswich, England
3 Jan 12
Hello Hatley.
Being 1st of January at the time you wrote this it made me wonder if the persons in questions were totally sober during these events.
It is a shame to hear you had such a "loud" start on the new Year. We slept most of the 1st of January (went to sleep at about 3a.m. then woke at about 12 only to sleep again at 15 or something up to 18 :) (and later on slept at about 23 I think).
With the new year I know there are some things I have to solve and consider, but I will only reach my home place tomorrow, so not stressing about stuff just yet (just thought I mentioned this as well although not directly related )
Take care !
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
2 Jan 12
hi shibham yes indeed and why do people do that and thus anger'the furious person even more? I was glad to take the far elevator'avoiding the angry man and the onlookers. It was
disturbing to me that he was screaming you bigot. we have
a mix of races here.but most of the time everyone seems
to get along fun,no bigotry or racism here.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
6 Jan 12
I think that there really must have been something in the air on New Year's Day because my husband went off on me as well.
So, I had to take my mother's car back to the mechanic (a long time male friend of mine) to check the radiator that he had just put in on Friday and I went by myself instead of with his sister because she'd fallen back asleep. I told Tom that I was down there by myself and he started accusing me of cheating on him. It really hurt me bad, but I guess it was just something that was in the air.
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
1 Feb 12
hi dorannmwin sometimes I wonder about men. I had made friends with an elderly patient of mine and he sent me a lovely C hristmas card. myhubby got all out of joint."what is he to you? why is he sending you a card? who is this guy?" well he made me hurt and angry so I got his arm and we walked to the hospital and down the wards to the elderly mans room. I introduced him to my husband who turned red and told him he had accused me of cheating on him with this man. the old man laughed and told him" she is like the daughte I never had Mr hatley nothing more and I am really glad to meet you.y our wife is always talking about how wonderful you are." My husband never again accused me of cheating. . men can be so obtuse at times.I hope your husband apologized for those silly thoughts.
she is like the daughte I never had Mr hatley nothing more and I am really glad to meet you.y our wife is always talking about how wonderful you are." My husband never again accused me of cheating. . men can be so obtuse at times.I hope your husband apologized for those silly thoughts.
@yspmyl (3435)
• Malaysia
3 Jan 12
Hi Hatley,
I believe this must have been happen many time to them and one of them must have over their tolerance level and thus cause the anger explosion. When we staying with someone else with different background will definitely have some different opinion and will probably dislike someone in the community or group, when these people met and even there are small matter, it will became a big matter for them especially people who cannot control their emotion or with low EQ. This cannot be avoid but can be prevented if the person who take care of the place take notes on everyone emotion or relationship, if he found something not right, he should step up to solve the problem as soon as possible or else it might be too late.
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@jaihobalodiji1 (949)
• India
3 Jan 12
for me its success in the air as i am going good toward achieving my dreams, i have talked to many publisher for my book and they are seems to be pleased by reading by book. hoping no one is going down to betray with me
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
1 Feb 12
oh jaihobalodiji I do hope by now you have sold your book for
a large profit to a good publisher. sounds good that they
were pleased by reading it. so one day we can say we
knew jaihobalokiji when he first looked for a pu blisher.
What a thrill to have a mylotter why may have a book publishe
hope it all comes true for you. I am glad someond had success'inb the air instead of a confrontation I am not a person who enjoys
seeing people fight like that.
@nizamkhan1 (131)
• India
2 Jan 12
love is in the air this january in 2012 for me. as this is my love for the first tim in my life and i am feeling ecstatic.
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
2 Jan 12
hi that sounds like a wonderful way to start a new year.
congrats and hold onto that love, as love is so precious.
such a wonderful to meet the love of your life that'it is haref
to explain really to those not in love. good for you.
@bonbon664 (3466)
• Canada
2 Jan 12
I didn't realize it was a full moon, sheesh. I think this sort of thing is unavoidable at times where such different people live in the same environment. I hate confrontation too, I would do like you, and just stay out of it. There are some people who just aren't happy unless they're complaining about something.
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
2 Jan 12
hi bonbon664 I dont think it was a full moon although they
acted odd enough. I g uess in such a large group of people
living here with a number of races someone is going to get'his or her nose out of joint at some slur and make it into a full
fledged confrontation. I hate that and I fled to my room where it
was quiet and peaceful
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
2 Jan 12
hi Ambieapam I think my childhood and teens with mom and day always fighting made me just grow cold when someone makes confrontations. Parents sometimes have no idea what their fighting does to a little kid. I was too young to know why just that they w ere always angry'with each other.You normally love each parent and donot want them to fight., I grew up really hating my father,but hatred just makes the hater ill it does not bother the hated one at all. so
I still hate confrontations and it really gets to me.
@carmelanirel (20942)
• United States
2 Jan 12
Yep, it probably is something in the air, I have been on edge with my husband, (more than usual) all weekend..I hope it calms down there, I am sure it will here, once hubby and son go back to work/school...
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
2 Jan 12
hi carm I always hated it when my hubby got edgy and I would ask him whats wrong, and he always would go"nothing" then bang a chair
against the wall. lol Usually I got him to tell me what was troubling him and it was serious but not earth shaking. My son and he both had this tendency to spare mom from any bad
news. now what did they think when they acted edgy that I would not know something serious was wrong? People grrrrrr. Yes it had to
have been something in the air as today everyone is happy and smiling.
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
2 Jan 12
hi dawn me too. having to listen to my parents quarrel for yeats gave me kids migraines and made me just hate confrontations.'
I did not join the looky lous but just hurried u p to my
roomm. Not a great way to start off 2012.
@vandana7 (99163)
• India
2 Jan 12
I think such things start only when one of the persons is inconsiderate, unwilling to listen to others. In fact, we should all be periodically given scores by others around us about how rational and caring we are. That way, we would feel inclined to better our ranking. But perhaps, that would make the matter too subjective..
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
2 Jan 12
hi vandy yes that is an idea but it ould make the matter
too subjective. it bothered me that the man was screming
bigot. Most of the time we all get along and nobody acts
like a racist. but theres one little mentaqlly off man
]here who loves to goad people of other nationalities.The US is a sort of melting pot of many races here. We here at Gold crest'haqve a mix too and almost all the time everyone is comfortable with]
each other.but just one person can spoil that and thats sad. today
is wonderfully quiet and serene. thank God.
is wonderfully quiet and serene. thank God. @ravisivan (14079)
• India
2 Jan 12
Auty-- you are in a hostel where you have a lot of old age male and female?
True as age advances we also get more anger because we cannot do things the way we were doing in our twenties or thirties or even fifties.
Such incidents make the hostel alive. Enjoy. Take them lightly. keep yourself available for helping others and seek necessary help from others.
Happy 2012
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
2 Jan 12
hi ravei no its a retirement center with people from 40 up to the 90's and a lot of different nationalities. I just did not know what the problem was or who the man was. But screaming bigot over and over 'I felt someone one had disrespected him, and he just blew his top.
I feel for anyone ravi that is being tormented or picked on because of his or her race. This is 2012 and surely we have made' progress from the days of owning slaves. I once had a reverse racial picking on when I worked out of a nurses registry. I and another nurses aide from the registry were new on the floor of this hospital. She was an attractive middle aged negro lady but she at once told me she took no disrespect from no bad word bad word whitey. I tried to placate her telling her that I had no prejudices against any race.
She just kept on telling me what she thought of me. I finally realized she and i were not going to work well together. I went to the head nurse on the floor and she told me she wanted me to work with another girl from the agency . She put another negro lady with the belligerent one and i guess they got along just fine.
I had never come across some one who told me i was a bigot before they even learned my name. I am not bigoted nor was I ever. I went to school in South Dakota where a lot of Swedes and Norwegians had emigrated too so I was used to a class of mixed races. kids normally do get along with each other irrespective of race if their parents were not bigoted.
