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United States
August 11, 2015 4:27pm CST
I know that this has been said a long time ago back before MyLot got revamped, but I feel the need to stress this again, especially for the people that are new to the site ... and maybe even for those of us that have had a long absence and might need to a refresher course. This site, unless I am mistaken and this has changed as well, is for having discussions. That means that if someone comments or responds to you, then (if possible) you should try to further the conversation. Now I know that is not always possible or advisable, but those are not the instances to which I am referring. I am talking about when people start discussions and then never comment back to the people responding. That was an issue way back then, and we seem to have the same issue now. If you are here for the earnings, then it would help to respond and keep the conversation going. If you are here for fun, then it would help to respond and keep the conversation going. If you are here for knowledge or social interaction, then ... (can you see where I am going with this?) 'Nuff said ... rant over ... who has the brownies?
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@topffer (42156)
• France
11 Aug 15
It has always been an issue here. I tend to follow back any member following me, but if after 2 or 3 responses to this member, I have not had any comment, I stop to respond to his/her discussions, especially if this member has not responded or commented in any of my discussions. I receive also a lot of suggestions of discussions to respond to. It is a good feature if it is not abused (you should have suggested me this one, you are never abusing with me) but some members tend to suggest all their discussions to all their followers and it looks like spam.
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• United States
12 Aug 15
@topffer If the discussion is good and well written, then I might comment on it if only in hopes of getting others to do so as well, and then I can have a conversation with them, even if the original poster of the discussion does not ever reappear. I have received over twenty suggestions, and most (if not all) of them do seem to be to discussions that were started by the suggester. I agree that I do not want to abuse this privilege, so I will wait until something important to use it. By the way, did you know that we can now delete other people's comments/responses on our discussions?! I do not really see that as a good thing, but I guess that is not the general consensus.
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@topffer (42156)
• France
12 Aug 15
@purplealabaster I responded again today to a discussion suggested by a member who never commented on one of my responses. I will unfollow if I have no comment this time (it is my 4th response to this member) to not be spammed by the suggestions coming from this member. I did not noticed the possibility of deleting responses and comments to our discussions. It can be useful when a spammer stops to post a link, but I also think that it is not generally a good think. I also do not like that this site offers a button to block members. It has not a place in a discussion site where we should have the possibility to disagree with somebody without risking to be blocked.
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@topffer (42156)
• France
12 Aug 15
@purplealabaster If a member never comment on responses, I don't see the interest to give a response, never mind if the discussion is good and well written. On the opposite, I really appreciate that some new members having more difficulties than me to write in English are making an effort to comment, even if their comments are short. In the past two weeks I have received only one suggestion sending to a page not written by the member who suggested it. I suggested to 4 friends the discussion that I started yesterday, and it is the only use that I have done of this new button. I will probably use it again, but I don't want to abuse of it.
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@allknowing (130471)
• India
12 Aug 15
That's what I am here for with hardly anyone in the real world sharing my interests. Not many like photography, nor gardening, nor article writing, nor cooking, nor winemaking, nor, nor travelling - the list is endless. So in my case you better write another post when to stop
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• United States
12 Aug 15
I actually like photography, although I am not very good at it. I have dabbled in it and experimented with it here and there, and I have actually impressed myself and taken some really good photos ... if I didn't know that I took them, then I would think that someone with some experience and talent took them. I also really enjoy looking at photography of others and have a pretty wide range of interest in it, although I do admit that some of the subject matter is not to my liking. Gardening - I love looking at the gardens of others, but I do not enjoy the actual act of gardening myself. I really admire how some people make it look so effortless when it is really a lot of work. If I could just wave a magic wand and have a beautiful garden, then I would totally have at least five or six, and at least two would need to have water features.
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• United States
12 Aug 15
@allknowing Thank you. Should I also mention that I like eating as long as someone else is cooking? Seriously, though, I have started watching some of the cooking competition shows, and some of them are really interesting. It does not make me enjoy cooking any more than before, but I certainly have a better understanding and respect for people that do take cooking seriously.
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@allknowing (130471)
• India
12 Aug 15
@purplealabaster You have other interests I see here. I like your sense of humour.
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
12 Aug 15
Hello! Yes, I agree with you. You have made a valid point that if one starts a discussion and receives responses, s/he should post his/her comments and counter-comments on the responses received so as to allow the conversation to go. As of now, all old timers have not returned to the site, who are/were perfect in turning a discussion into a fruitful conversation. Hope your post is well taken by all mylotters (newbies and old timers). As far as I am concerned, I make it a point to post my comments/counter-comments on the discussions started by me. I used to do the same in past and I follow the same course of action presently.
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
13 Aug 15
@purplealabaster - It made me smile to read that you remember me and it was fun interacting with each other. Yes, I agree that anyone could turn a discussion into a fruitful conversation, provided s/he has the will and dedication to do so. Wherever we feel like, we should add our views in a discussion to make it more lively.
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• United States
13 Aug 15
@dpk262006 Well of course I would remember you!
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• United States
12 Aug 15
I do remember you doing this, and it was fun interacting with you. There are not just one or two or a few people that can turn a discussion into a fruitful conversation - anybody can do it. The trick is just to be yourself and interact with others whenever you feel that you have something to add to the conversation. The more you do this, then the more others will follow, and it becomes a contagious thing in a good way.
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@Rollo1 (16679)
• Boston, Massachusetts
12 Aug 15
I am still working my way back into the site, and so it's good to remind us of how it all works. I haven't been here in two years. It all looks a bit different, and so I think I forget to like discussions and comments, etc. I really would like to see the site hopping again, I loved myLot.
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• United States
12 Aug 15
I have only recently started using the "like" button, and there are several other functions that I have not tried out yet, but I am sure at some point in time I will find a use for them. I am also not sure what the "follow" function does, because I can see discussions and comments/responses from people whether I am following them or not, so I am not sure what advantage that gives us. I think that most of us are just feeling our way around, and hopefully we will help each other out along the way and take the adventure together.
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@Boonie1 (425)
• Ashdod, Israel
12 Aug 15
@purplealabaster very new here, but I assume the "follow" function gives you kind of a shortcut to the people you follow, you can still see everything else, but if you wish to you can check out the people you follow easily. kind of like youtube subscribe option
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@Boonie1 (425)
• Ashdod, Israel
12 Aug 15
@purplealabaster well in the "people" tag above you can find everyone you follow I think, but yeah maybe they should add something to be able to manage it better, I dont know how it prioritize what you see first (probably time?) but there should be an option to "favorite" people maybe to make it easier to find them
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@much2say (53988)
• Los Angeles, California
12 Aug 15
I'm trying - I really am! I just have to jump in and back to conversations whenever I get my pockets of time to be here. Oh but the zillion notifications are hard to keep up with at times! But I will try - I really will! Now that I've had my say, may I please have a brownie?
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@sacmom (14192)
• United States
12 Aug 15
@much2say I know you are! I'm trying too! I really am! lol @purplealabaster I really like how they're set up as well. Though like you, I sometimes feel like I am drowning in them!
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• United States
12 Aug 15
*passes plate of brownies and glass of chocolate milk* I completely understand about the "pockets of time". I have actually been on here more than I planned or should, and I have been neglecting things off-line, which is not a good thing. I now remember why I had so much extra time once I stopped posting on MyLot. I really like how the notifications are set up now, because I never remember to check my e-mail, but whenever I come on here I do not have to look far to see the notifications. On the other hand, sometimes I feel like I am drowning in them, and I wish that someone would throw me a life-preserver or rope or something.
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@much2say (53988)
• Los Angeles, California
15 Aug 15
@purplealabaster @sacmom [Treading water] See, I guess I swam right by the notification of your comments - I almost missed them! Back then, I never looked at my email for notifications - too much back and forth - so I'm glad this was set up too. But I don't know how everyone can keep up with this stuff - yes, I feel like I'm drowning as well. Is there a life guard around here?? But hey, as long as this $ea is alive and well, I need to $wim for my life!!
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@DaddyEvil (137142)
• United States
12 Oct 15
Hello ma'am, Have I met you yet? Uhm... where is your accomplice in crime? *DE looks around for @TexanTornado .* I know she must be here somewhere! You two seem to be joined at the hip. I never see either one of you alone on myLot! This seems to be an interesting discussion, too, ma'am... I have been trying to do right by everyone I meet on this site...
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• United States
12 Oct 15
Believe it or not, we are not always together. In fact, I have been absent more frequently recently, and I have not seen here around. I am sure that we will run into each other again, though, especially since we seem to be drawn to similar kinds of discussions. This discussion most certainly was not intended for you, my dear. You absolutely have the knack of responding/commenting back to people and furthering the conversation. It seems that others need to be reminded about doing that from time to time, though.
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• United States
13 Oct 15
@purplealabaster I think he should know we are sisters, not Siamese twins. You do have a good point though, it does seem we have the same interest in discussions so our paths do cross quite often.
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• United States
13 Oct 15
@purplealabaster Thank you sweetie. It's the second sibling in 3 months. Oh you could be right. Am I showing my good side?
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• United States
11 Aug 15
I can remember this being an issue years ago here. I think a lot of people are here for a few cents. I realized a long time ago that I had the best time here when I actually engaged in conversations. As I went through and had real two way conversations just like magic I had a few cents appear in my account. It is nice to both earn money and enjoy your time here so we all might as well participate. Now where do we get the brownies? and was someone in charge of bringing punch?
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• United States
11 Aug 15
I admit that before I was here for the money ... I was not entirely here for the money, but that was certainly a motivating factor back then. I left before the site stopped paying, though, because of the changes that were happening and the nonsense that started happening ... it stopped being fun and became more like a chore. When I came back recently, it was before it started paying, and when I initially came back I did not know that they were even thinking about paying again ... one of my old friends just happened to ring my bell and I answered. Now, I am here for the fun, although I do appreciate the few cents that I have managed to accumulate over the last two weeks. The person in charge of the brownies should be here shortly, but I am not sure about the punch. I heard a rumor that if we did get punch it might be spiked, so you might not want to have too many, especially if you have to drive home from here.
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• United States
11 Aug 15
@purplealabaster I quit before they quit paying as well. The nonsense took a lot of the fun away. I didn't even know the site was still up and running but I got nostalgic about all the fun I used to have here and though I would check back. I'm kinda excited to see its closer to the way I remember it when it was fun. The layout could use a little tweaking though :).
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• United States
11 Aug 15
@happythoughts How on earth do you do those cute emojis? My little typed ones are just not holding up to all this cuteness.
@sacmom (14192)
• United States
12 Aug 15
I wouldn't have started any at all since I've returned, but the Lamb made me do it!
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@sacmom (14192)
• United States
12 Aug 15
Tell me about it! Darn that Lamb!
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• United States
12 Aug 15
@sacmom And the worst part is that if you can get him to keep still long enough to slather him with mint sauce he is so slippery that you can't properly get ahold of him to put him over the spit, so eating him is out of the question.
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• United States
12 Aug 15
LOL - For some strange reason the Lamb has mystical powers that mere mortals can never understand.
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@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
12 Aug 15
Good point and I agree, I too have responded to many discussions , for which I have not got any response so far,,,Unless you either acknowledge or respond how can the discussion progress..
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@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
13 Aug 15
@purplealabaster LOL, of course not.. I feel that the newcomers need some time to actually participate because many of them begin interacting after a while when they have become more familiar with the site ..
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• United States
12 Aug 15
I am sorry to keep you waiting so long, and I hope that you did not think I was one of those people. You are right that it cannot be a discussion without one or more people participating back and forth, and I do hope that more people will come to this realization as well. I can talk a lot, but even I cannot manage to hold up a one-sided conversation for very long, especially when I know all my responses to my arguments!
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• United States
13 Aug 15
@kiran8 I agree that it might take some time for new people on the site to feel comfortable interacting ... heck, it might take some time for people that were on here before to get used to the new format ... but hopefully we will all get there together. It just seems to me that if someone starts a discussion, then they would feel more comfortable participating there, especially if they are new. They might not want to "butt in" or "take over" someone else's discussion (not that people on here would think interacting on discussions was like that, but it might feel that way to a newcomer), but I would think that they would feel more comfortable interacting all over their own discussions. If they aren't going to do it there, then where do they start and how do we help them understand?
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@TLChimes (4822)
• United States
12 Aug 15
That is exactly what is better about myLot over other forms of social media. It is how I made some very special friends. I love the community feel here. I love the conversations... of all types... The ones that leave us laughing so hard our sides hurt, the ones where we think a lot and learn some too. And the pennies, nickels and almost a quarter now that we earn is just a bonus.
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• United States
12 Aug 15
I completely agree with you, my friend! I am not on any other social media sites ... mostly because I hear about too much drama surrounding them, especially Facebook. The feel here is not like that, though. Of course, there are going to be minor misunderstandings and such, because that is part of life, but the overall feel here is positive and fun. I have learned more about different cultures and regions here than I ever learned in school, and I had much more fun and even earned money for the opportunity to gain knowledge.
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• United States
12 Aug 15
@bagarad Definitely, not to mention the fact that you can ask questions that they can actually answer rather than try to find somewhere in a book ... or the Internet.
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@bagarad (14283)
• Paso Robles, California
12 Aug 15
@purplealabaster Yes. Learning first hand about other cultures from people who are part of them beat any second-hand learning.
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@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
12 Aug 15
And what about someone who is just around to peek into the views/life of friends and is quick to notice the mention of Brownies... Cakes... Coffee... basically almost anything eatable
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• United States
12 Aug 15
Why do you think that I included those things ... it was precisely intended to attract the attention of those persons.
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• United States
12 Aug 15
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@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
12 Aug 15
@purplealabaster some people really care for friends
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• Williamsburg, Virginia
18 Aug 15
I totally agree. I love the fact that mylot is back. I love meeting new people. I don't get out of the house much so this gives me the opportunity to socialize. God bless.
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• United States
22 Aug 15
Yes, this is a wonderful place to socialize. In fact, I said that I was not going to be on here much and yet I found that I could not resist coming on here and interacting, even when I was supposed to be doing other things. I actually had to ban myself from even opening this site for about a week, because I was neglecting things at home to come here and have fun.
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• Germany
12 Aug 15
It's really great to be back but to be honest I am totally unsure about what Mylot is expecting from us now. I can't find a link to some kind of terms, I think you can only see it when signing up or when you are logged out. Mhh, does anyone have the link or do I have to log out to see it? I will try to keep my topics as discussions as I have always tried to to that hoping it will work *g*
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@savak03 (6684)
• United States
23 Aug 15
Owlwings did a discussion with a faq list. Ask alice liked it and said she was going to use it.
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• United States
12 Aug 15
I think that they pretty much are expecting what they used to expect from us ... discuss, keep it friendly, no spam, etc. I know that Owl ( @owlwings ) has been keeping up with things and has been really good at answering questions and helping people out, so maybe he can come here and drop you a link or two. I must admit that I have not completely figured out the new site and format, but I am just doing what I am doing and learning as I go. So far it has worked for me, and I haven't been banned yet, so I think that you are pretty safe!
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• United States
13 Aug 15
@stine1online LOL - thank you for that, because I don't really pay attention to my balance (I just looked there and was actually pleasantly surprised), and I had not seen the "help" link, so now I know for the next time someone asks.
@jaboUK (64360)
• United Kingdom
21 Oct 15
I'm trying to adapt to this site - it's so different from the 'comment and run' type of thing.
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@rebelann (111546)
• El Paso, Texas
22 Oct 15
Not to worry @jaboUK I know @purplealabaster won't mind if you take your time jumping around. Just watch out that you don't end up confused, that happened to me a couple days ago and although it was all very funny I still have no clue what it was all about
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• United States
21 Oct 15
It is different than that ... or at least it is supposed to be different ... but you seem to be adapting very well I see you jumping in on discussions, which is part of the fun of the whole thing. Also, as we come to know each other better, we get "inside jokes" that transfer from one discussion to another. It is fun running with them when they come up in conversation.
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@jaboUK (64360)
• United Kingdom
22 Oct 15
@purplealabaster Yes I'm really enjoying it here - the trouble is finding the time get round to everyone that I want to. And the inside jokes are fun.
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@SViswan (12051)
• India
12 Aug 15
Thank you for the reminder. I am back after a pretty long hiatus from myLot. Just checking it out again. I hope I enjoy it as much as earlier. I always would check and respond and keep the conversation going earlier. But with my two boys older now and driving them around takes a lot of my time...not to mention energy, I wonder if I will be as committed as earlier. But I will try to,
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
12 Aug 15
Welcome back Sandhya ! Nice to see you here.
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@savak03 (6684)
• United States
23 Aug 15
Welcome back. if we get more of the older members who really liked to have conversations back we can this this rocket off the ground.
• United States
12 Aug 15
Welcome back, and I hope that you enjoy the new site just as much as you enjoyed the old version. I completely understand time constraints ... of course our personal lives have to take priority over this site. I also will not be here as much as I used to be, because there are other things that need my attention and need to take priority. On the other hand, I do not start many discussions and on the rare occasion when I do, I try to make sure it is a time when I will be able to devote more of my attention to the discussion than normal, because I think that is only fair.
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@GardenGerty (158095)
• United States
12 Aug 15
I think brownies are in order, too. I do try to participate in the discussions I start. It is fun to see who you find there. I think myLot keeps my brain from rotting.
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• United States
12 Aug 15
Usually Wld1 ( @1wldngl ) or Dawn ( @dawnald ) bring the brownies, but it seems that they have been slacking in their responsibilities lately. I do not start many discussions, so when I feel the urge to start one, I definitely want to participate in it. Otherwise, I do not see the point in starting one. I also agree that it is fun to see who shows up, because it is a good way to meet and interact with new people while still maintaining old friendships.
@tammyr (5946)
• Etowah, Tennessee
12 Aug 15
I always try to respond back to people that respond to my discussions. Not every response gets a comment though, because my time here is limited. I like every comment and response tho, as long as I actually like it, that is.
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@rosekiss (30380)
• Eugene, Oregon
12 Aug 15
I always say the same thing, that when you start a discussionm amd people respond, then you should have the courtesy to comment back. Not only dodes it keep the discussion going, but you are also recognizing that the person took the time to respond to you. I always check my discussions and make comments to responses. i know there are some that all they do is start discussions and not do anything else. They need to understand how this site works and that is to discuss, and that means don't start a discussion and leave it as that certainly isn't discussing. i just hope that this all changes in time, and people will be courteous to others and comment back to the responses. Take care, and have lots of fun.
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• United States
12 Aug 15
@rosekiss I do really like it when the discussion starter comes back and comments/responds repeatedly, because then it really is a discussion or conversation rather than just a question/answer type thing. I also think that it will take a little time for people to get back into the habit of discussing, because as far as I can tell that is not really how the site has been run for a couple years, so it will take some time to readjust.
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• United States
12 Aug 15
I completely understand not having the time ... or even pacing yourself when responding and doing it a little at a time, because you have other responsibilities or things to do and can't sit here for hours on end typing on a computer. I even understand not knowing what to say to every comment/response, so you might skip them ... or sometimes they are not worth responding to if they are being negative or whatever. What I do not understand, though, is when you only have one response on your discussion and yet do not comment back, especially when it is on-topic and (at least in theory) something that can further the conversation, which I try to do when I respond to most discussions.
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• United States
12 Aug 15
Carrying on a conversation has never been a problem for me . But I do hate seeing people not returning to converse with those who respond to their "discussion".
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@savak03 (6684)
• United States
23 Aug 15
Hey stormy, good to see you!
• United States
12 Aug 15
LOL - Carrying on a conversation has never been a problem for me, either ... knowing when to stop, on the other hand, is an entirely different issue. This discussion has been going on for two days now and has gotten a ton of interaction all over it from a bunch of different people, which is wonderful. I have even noticed people that I have responded to here and there making more of a point of commenting to me and others in various discussions, and that makes me very happy. The sad part, though, is that the discussions that I have responded to that spurred this discussion have still remained vacant.
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@bagarad (14283)
• Paso Robles, California
12 Aug 15
Quite right. It's the conversations that most of us like about myLot. At the very least one should be responding to comments on one's discussions, and maybe to other comments if you have something to say. Getting to know each other is half the fun.
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• United States
12 Aug 15
@bagarad I completely know what you mean ... it is almost like no time has passed and yet it has been years. I do have some trouble remembering certain aspects of people's lives, but even that is coming back as we continue to interact, and of course some of those things have changed in the time we were gone anyway. There was only three people that I interacted with in the time I was away from MyLot, and two of them were only once or twice, but the third I am happy to say we kept in touch on a regular basis. I missed many, many more people than that, but I am not on Facebook or any other social media sites, so it is more difficult to stay in touch with people.
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• United States
12 Aug 15
I definitely agree that getting to know each other is half the fun, and the discussions back and forth, inside and out, and sideways are the best way to get to know each other. All the interaction keeps it lively and fun, and it also gives us more to talk about, because as we get to know each other we find we have more in common and can reference other things that further the conversation.
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@bagarad (14283)
• Paso Robles, California
12 Aug 15
@purplealabaster Agree. When I returned here and started seeing familiar avatars and names, I'm amazed at how much I did remember about old friends from those old interactions, even when I wasn't interacting with them on other sites during those two years away.
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@jkct02 (2874)
• Kota Kinabalu, Malaysia
12 Aug 15
I agree with what you said. It is frustrating when the one started the discussion does not respond to the responses. I personally also feel that it is not courteous to not acknowledge responses.
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• United States
12 Aug 15
I can see how it would make people feel unwelcome or not appreciated, especially after they took the time and effort to respond to a discussion. In addition, if they really wanted to discuss the topic, then they might feel disappointed that they not only wasted their time but also do not get the interaction that a discussion site is supposed to provide. That does not bode very well for the site, especially when MyLot is trying to build its reputation back up and draw in more members.
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