Would you ever be OK with adoption?

This will be a long one. Adoption, is a noble deed and just like many other noble deeds that go really wrong, this is no exception. You cite on your post the example of an adoption gone wrong. So I skip that part. My opinion - adopt a child - which is really good. But never ever let the child know that s/he was adopted - this is quite impossible in cases when the biological parents turn up to claim benefits - there have been instances where the biological parents turned up just because money, property and other factors were involved. I never support telling the kid about being adopted - because that is surely going to create an imbalance. any age, we are all humans. and when we come to know that what we have believing in all our life is just false, not many can handle the shock. I do not know anyone personally, but yes, I admire one - Sushmita Sen - former Miss Universe. She has been an ideal and icon to me as she fought a legal battle to adopt Rene (her child). Indian law did not permit unmarried people to adopt back then and it was because of her that the Laws changed. I admire her more because she sacrified her career in movies to keep her commitment. Also, she had stated at the courts - "Motherhood is something that cannot be learned and taught by any book or school. It is something that comes to you automatically when you become a mother" and yes, she has proved the theory correct. She has done everything that a mother would do for her daughter.

I am not adopted, but two of my friends are adopted. One of my friends was born in India, she was adopted by a Danish couple and she grew up in Denmark. Some years later her mother got pregnant. Her younger brother was disabled. In their childhood her parents spent most of their time on her brother. She feels that she was neglected, but things might have been different if her brother hadn't been disabled. My other friend was born in South Korea and she was also adopted by a Danish couple. Her mother also became pregnant later on. The relationship between my friend and her mother has never been good. They didn't get along in her childhood and they still don't get along. My friend doesn't have a good relationship to her brother either, and they don't really talk to eachother,

I have a friend who adopted a baby girl when she was just 3 months old .She already had a son who was 5 years old and the girl is now 12 years old and everyone has forgotten that she was adopted ..I am not sure if they have told her yet but I too feel that the girl should know about it from her parents rather than from someone else ! I have three children of my own and am really not able to nor have I thought of adopting a child ! But for those who do so, I have a great admiration !

It is a good option for people that cannot have children or just want more. I am not adopted. I would never consider adoption however. I am not in a position to do so.

I am in favor of adoption. I want to adopt a kid or two provided that I have all the necessary documents. I am not adopted and I don't know from my circle of friends who are adopted.

Adoption? I'm not ok with it bu t 'm not also against it, well depends on the situation ... Its all cool though. But if I were the one who's adopted and then my parents told me the truth I'll totally freak out! But in a silent way. You know like run to the refregirator and eat a lot of eggs, so I can sink in all the words they say. XD XD

One of my closest friends is adopted. For the moment, I feel as though my family is complete. So I'm not sure if I will adopt. I will see what the future holds.

I most definitely would be. There are so many children that need a good home, someone to love them and keep them safe. I looked into it once years back, before I had 4 kids (step children) added to my family.

Two of my cousins have adopted children. They are both Italians, one adopted two boys from Bolivia and the other one girl from Colombia. All the adopted children are now all grown up.

I had two children of my own but I wouldn't have had any problem adopting at all if I had not been able to have any children. At my age right now and with the health issues, I would adopt now.

nice discussion, I am not adopted but I don't see any problem with adoption especially for those who cant conceive.

From all I have seen when kids find out they get very sad about it, one they thought it was their birth parents, then two feeling like they were not wanted. I knew three kids in grade school, when they found out they were unhappy a lot after. one kid found out in 8th grade and told us and he was upset for a long time. I wouldn't have a problem adopting from another country, true the adoption process is much faster from what I have seen, but we have so many here ,that need to be adopted. Myself no, I would not want to adopt at my age , mine are grown now, I can barely take care of me half the time, so wouldn't want to start raising children all over.

In my opinion I feel like adoption is a very good way of having kids. I feel like we have enough people in this world without the help of constant birth. Imagine the opportunity to give some child somewhere the chance to experience a family and love that only a parent can give. Not saying that having a birth child is wrong, most people want to adopt but that brings up another issue on it's self. Not many people can afford to adopt (as far as I know you have to pay something for adoption like a fee and depending on where you adopt from it can be pretty expensive). On the plus side though you could also choose what age to adopt from so basically like skipping the early years where from my experience most parents say the first three years can be a handful. Now on the question as to where i would adopt, I definitely would, one because I believe we should parent the kids that already are born and not make more kids, and two because I could just skip the early years and not wake up at 2 in the morning.

I adopted one of my girls. Of course I love her as my own. She is grown now.

My husband and I talked about the possibility of adoption many years ago. Due to having health issues in the past, I didn't think it would be possible for me to get pregnant. However, talking about it was about as far as we got. Although it took 4 years, it eventually happened on it's own.

I am going to try to do adoption since I am not able to have kids. But I have to wait until I'm financially set to do this. I would treat them as my own and I think the age to tell them is in their teens before getting into the big schools. They don't know any better when their young so they won't know the difference. But when their older they will start asking questions because of friends they meet etc.

I think adoption is amazing. It is a gift to the birth parent, the child and the adoptive family. I would love to win the lottery, buy a mansion and adopt a whole bunch of kids.

My fiancé and I have already decided we will adopt. I have some health problems which make having biological kids too dangerous.

Bless those who adopt.

i'm all fer adoption, there's been several in my family o'er the past many years. i've a cousin who spent 7 years tryin' to 've a baby 'n they'd given up, so became foster parents. they fell in love with the lil fella immediately (they're white, he's half black/half hispanic) first time they laid eyes on 'im at 3 months 'f age. not e'en a month later, they found out they were pregnant. they adopted this cute lil fella 'n now he's a brother to join 'im. i think one ought to be open 'bout such 'n tell 'm 't what all feels the 'ppropiate age. funny thingy is, that lil chap who fell into their laps looks more like kin 'n that lil red-headed, blue-eyed lil fella they gave birth to, lol.