Do you know people who can&#39;t be &quot;single&quot; for awhile?

Jabo

@jaboUK (64361)

• United Kingdom

31 Dec 15

@TheHorse Thanks, I've been very lucky.

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JENNY ARCHER

@bookbar (1609)

• Sudbury, England

1 Jan 16

@jaboUK @TheHorse Me to, having been married for 55yrs, my soulmate would be irreplaceable, and I wouldn't even feel the need to try, although it would leave a huge hole in my life, I have always been happy in my own skin, though it is nice having a kind of 'twin flame' to share with when life deals out a bag of lemons....

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@TheHorse (207345)

• Walnut Creek, California

31 Dec 15

I'm still trying to figure out what separates those who need someone/anyone, from those who are "choosier." Congrats on 50 years, by the way!

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ElizabethWallace

@ElizabethWallace (12074)

• United States

31 Dec 15

If they remain single for some time, they have to deal with life without help. They also will be alone with their thoughts and emotions. This is terrifying to some. Not me. I stopped dating after I realized that I was better off without a man in my life. It turns out that more can go wrong than right, and if it goes right, men die too soon. No thanks.

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M.-L.

@MALUSE (69409)

• Germany

1 Jan 16

@ElizabethWallace Sadly, this is true. What is 'Vorsorge' in English? It's paid for by the health insurance companies, yet fewer men than women have it done. They're afraid that 'something can be found'! Women are much more courageous.

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@TheHorse (207345)

• Walnut Creek, California

31 Dec 15

Sorry about that dying early thing. I wonder why that is.

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ElizabethWallace

@ElizabethWallace (12074)

• United States

1 Jan 16

@DaddyEvil There is also the fact that most men do not take care of themselves and avoid seeking medical care when a woman would.

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Kevin

@kevin1877uk (36988)

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31 Dec 15

I don't know many people myself so I can't say. I've have spent many years on my own after a relationship break down. I hope to change that, I've been on my own for far too long in the past and really need someone right now, I do miss being with someone, I hope things change in 2016. Have a wonderful New Year to you and yours.

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@TheHorse (207345)

• Walnut Creek, California

31 Dec 15

Gracias. Same to you.

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@TheHorse (207345)

• Walnut Creek, California

1 Jan 16

@tallawah When I see people doing, it wind up doing it repeatedly, and not being satisfied.

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@TheHorse (207345)

• Walnut Creek, California

1 Jan 16

@tallawah Some people do the "overlap" thing. I've seen that a few times.

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rebelann1949

@rebelann (111403)

• El Paso, Texas

1 Jan 16

Most of the women I know are married with children (grown mostly), a few are single moms that never married and at least one waited to divorce hubby 1 when she snagged future hubby 2. I'm happily single living with my furbabies, no other 2leggers round to boss me round.

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rebelann1949

@rebelann (111403)

• El Paso, Texas

1 Jan 16

Pretty much @TheHorse I find it odd that hubby 1 is still her friend, go figure.

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@TheHorse (207345)

• Walnut Creek, California

1 Jan 16

Fur babies are good. Did your friend do the "overlap" thing, not releasing Hubby 1 until she had Hubby 2 lined up?

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@TheHorse (207345)

• Walnut Creek, California

1 Jan 16

@rebelann I have seen that happen. I'm OK with that.

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Anna

@LadyDuck (460083)

• Switzerland

1 Jan 16

I do not know why this happens, but it is true, some people cannot be single. My brother is like this, he is going from a bad experience to another.

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Anna

@LadyDuck (460083)

• Switzerland

1 Jan 16

@TheHorse I cannot understand why he always picks up schizophrenic or psychopathic women. I am sure there is a reason.

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@TheHorse (207345)

• Walnut Creek, California

1 Jan 16

@LadyDuck I went through a phase in my life when I was a "borderline magnet." I wound up attracting women with borderline personality disorder. It was a tad disorienting.

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@TheHorse (207345)

• Walnut Creek, California

1 Jan 16

I feel bad for him. Do you know why he makes bad choices?

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@DaddyEvil (137142)

• United States

1 Jan 16

I divorced my second wife roughly ten years ago, pony. I am not and have not looked for a replacement for her. (I believe I married my "rebound" person... Never a good idea at any time, but I had just divorced the love of my life. (I still think about and sometimes miss my first wife, even after the heck she put me through during our seven year divorce.) I have a niece who cannot stay single for long... She just divorced her sixth or seventh husband... (I ask Pretty if she could remember how many divorces her cousin has had and she thinks it is seven while I can only remember six ex-husbands for her.) My niece always vows she is never getting married again, but within ten days of getting divorced she is either living with or engaged to another guy...

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@DaddyEvil (137142)

• United States

1 Jan 16

@TheHorse I am 52 now, pony. I wish I knew. I think she just needs someone with her. My niece is intelligent, has beautiful children but can't live without a man beside her.

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@TheHorse (207345)

• Walnut Creek, California

1 Jan 16

@DaddyEvil Yep, too young to be my friend's uncle. Well, technically, a niece can be older than her uncle, but that's not usually the case. Did she get enough attention from her dad? I think my friend did not.

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@TheHorse (207345)

• Walnut Creek, California

1 Jan 16

I think you're to young to be my friend's uncle. Oh, and she didn't marry all those guys. What's the common denominator?

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celticeagle

@celticeagle (159843)

• Boise, Idaho

1 Jan 16

I certainly do. Getting into another relationship so soon only sabotages your next relationship. They aren't ready. They are selfish too in that they don't think of their children. I think they have a psychological problem and really need to set back and rehash the past relationship and what went wrong before jumping into another one.

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celticeagle

@celticeagle (159843)

• Boise, Idaho

1 Jan 16

@TheHorse ...Sensible isn't popular now days I guess.

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@TheHorse (207345)

• Walnut Creek, California

1 Jan 16

I think it's a sensible thing to do. But it's hard for many.

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@TheHorse (207345)

• Walnut Creek, California

1 Jan 16

@celticeagle I don't know if my friend is the exception or the rule.

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Marlina

@marlina (154165)

• Canada

31 Dec 15

Yes, I know a few people that can't seem to be alone very long.

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@TheHorse (207345)

• Walnut Creek, California

31 Dec 15

I wonder why some take their time and others have to be attached.

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Marie

@Tampa_girl7 (49242)

• United States

1 Jan 16

I have been married forever and truly enjoy being in marriage, but I was a very content and happy single person too. I was nearly 27 before I married.

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@DaddyEvil (137142)

• United States

12 Jan 16

@TheHorse Studies show that people who are 23 years old and older are more mature and are actually ready to settle down and have children. Their marriages are much more likely to last than a couple who got married straight out of High School!

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@TheHorse (207345)

• Walnut Creek, California

2 Jan 16

Maybe being a content single person is a part of why your marriage has lasted so long!

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@TheHorse (207345)

• Walnut Creek, California

12 Jan 16

@DaddyEvil That makes sense. I hadn't heard that 23 was some kind of magic number, though.

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Robert

@lokisdad (4226)

• United States

2 Jan 16

for some people they can't deal with being alone and it makes them seek out other people for companionship. They will stay in an unhealthy relationship because the idea of being alone is unbearable for them it frightens them to the point that they will even go as far as to the other person do things that the average person will not accept as the norm.

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Robert

@lokisdad (4226)

• United States

2 Jan 16

@TheHorse my wife had a friend who was like that she would stay in miserable relationships just to not be alone.

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@TheHorse (207345)

• Walnut Creek, California

2 Jan 16

That's a really good point. Some will accept abuse rather than be alone.

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@TheHorse (207345)

• Walnut Creek, California

2 Jan 16

@lokisdad I see that happen more often than I'd like.

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Anna M. Wilkes

@gr8nana6 (6614)

• Conyers, Georgia

31 Dec 15

I used to be the one who didn't like living without a partner, but after I lost the love of my live in 2002 I have found out that I love living by myself. I can do what I want whenever I want, lol. Have a happy, healthy and prosperous New Year.

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@TheHorse (207345)

• Walnut Creek, California

31 Dec 15

Sorry to hear of your loss, but glad to hear that you ENJOY doing what you want to do. Happy New Year!

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@TheHorse (207345)

• Walnut Creek, California

1 Jan 16

@tallawah I miss those aspects of being single when I'm in a relationship.

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M.-L.

@MALUSE (69409)

• Germany

1 Jan 16

I don't know what's puzzling about the different reactions. People differ in so many respects why not in this one, too?

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@TheHorse (207345)

• Walnut Creek, California

1 Jan 16

I'm interested in what predicts the two types. I'd rather people take their time and be happy in their relationships.

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JENNY ARCHER

@bookbar (1609)

• Sudbury, England

31 Dec 15

Don't you find though that some people can't stand their own company, whether single or in a relationship...they always need others around them.... I have friends like that, even those married or with partners, still appear to need others around them permanently....I often wonder what it is about themselves,that they are lacking or trying to escape,via others personalities... bit like emotional vampires..

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Wendy789

@Drosophila (16573)

• Ireland

1 Jan 16

Yep needy people can be too much to handle

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@TheHorse (207345)

• Walnut Creek, California

31 Dec 15

Emotional vampires. I like that. I actually had a dream once about a vampire bat with the head of someone I was considering dating. I interpreted it as a warning, and it turned out I made a good decision.

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@TheHorse (207345)

• Walnut Creek, California

1 Jan 16

@Drosophila What's weird is that not all of them have the same personality. I guess that's not weird. But they share that need not to be alone.

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Tiff Gray

@T_gray (7774)

• Salina, Kansas

31 Dec 15

I think it depends on how badly the relationship was and how it ended for me on how quickly I get back on the saddle. I just got out of a three year mess of a relationship and I'm very hesitate to get into another relationship to quickly. Other times I feel like I need that "rebound" to get over my ex faster.

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@TheHorse (207345)

• Walnut Creek, California

31 Dec 15

I've had a flurry of activity after a break-up. But I've never really jumped into a new relationship right after a loss or break-up.

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Tiff Gray

@T_gray (7774)

• Salina, Kansas

31 Dec 15

@TheHorse "flurry of activity" never heard it called that before. I like that. I've also had flurry of activity too after a break up. Sometimes you do what you feel your heart wants.

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@TheHorse (207345)

• Walnut Creek, California

31 Dec 15

@T_gray Yeah, but, as Jesse Winchester wrote/sang: "I know true love/you cant fool me."

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mommaj

@mommaj (23112)

• United States

6 Jan 16

I have wondered the same thing. Why do people NEED to be in a relationship? It's like they can't breathe on their own. I personally do not understand that. I was on my own even when I was in my marriage. Don't get me wrong, I loved having someone to share with, talk to, and cuddle, but honestly it is far easier to be on my own. Less stress, Less drama, and less work.

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mommaj

@mommaj (23112)

• United States

19 Jan 16

@TheHorse That is so true, but you do need a happy medium where you see each other just as much as you see your friends.

@TheHorse (207345)

• Walnut Creek, California

19 Jan 16

In relationships that last, a bit of independence is an important thing.

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Wendy789

@Drosophila (16573)

• Ireland

1 Jan 16

Definitely enjoy being alone for a while before getting involved again. I think being alone is the best time to pump all that energy into yourself.

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Wendy789

@Drosophila (16573)

• Ireland

3 Jan 16

@TheHorse oh ya, I mean even in a relationship, it's important to maintain individuality. Should always be a whole person not a half

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@TheHorse (207345)

• Walnut Creek, California

3 Jan 16

@Drosophila I agree with that. And so do most marriage Counselors, I think.

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@TheHorse (207345)

• Walnut Creek, California

2 Jan 16

For me, it's a time to take care of myself, and not someone else. And to rediscover who *I* am, independent of the other person.

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Shannon

@fawkes62 (1276)

• United States

1 Jan 16

I'm not sure why some people jump from one relationship to the next while others wait a while, but I would guess that those that jump from one to the next don't want to be alone.

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@TheHorse (207345)

• Walnut Creek, California

1 Jan 16

I'd rather not be alone when I'm old and grey(er). But being alone doesn't imply being lonely.

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Valerie J. Routhieaux

@just4him (308152)

• Green Bay, Wisconsin

31 Dec 15

I know people who can't stand to be single and are always on the lookout for the next best out there. Personally I don't like being single, but the best never came along for me after my divorce 22 years ago.

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@TheHorse (207345)

• Walnut Creek, California

31 Dec 15

I'm glad you didn't "settle" for less than true love after your divorce. Many people do, and they're not happy.

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@TheHorse (207345)

• Walnut Creek, California

31 Dec 15

@just4him That's a good thing too.

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Valerie J. Routhieaux

@just4him (308152)

• Green Bay, Wisconsin

31 Dec 15

@TheHorse I'm still looking.

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Janet Anderson

@Auntylou (4264)

• Oxford, England

1 Jan 16

I have never been in a hurry or a worry about not being partnered. But I know some who are only happy when coupled

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@TheHorse (207345)

• Walnut Creek, California

1 Jan 16

Why are some comfortable being alone for awhile, while others can't stand it. That's what I'm trying to figure out.

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Namelesss

@Namelesss (3368)

• United States

12 Jan 16

I know people who cant stand to be single or alone for a minute. They remind me of newborn puppies huddling for warmth. I don't get it but I reckon it must be normal for some.

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