Do you give your recommendations to your friends/relatives who want to buy something?

I think your friend was not totally honest with you in the first place.

Uhm... dpk? I believe you may be asking the wrong question, sir. In my humble opinion, the question you should be asking ... Is this person really my friend or simply someone who seeks to take advantage of the people I know and like and who like me? When that person ask for your recommendation, it was implied that he wanted your specific knowledge of the car lots and the dealers he would encounter. Since he had already done a considerable amount of pricing both for the deal he might get and for the trade value of his old car, he was basically setting you up for failure. It is very rare for the dealer who is willing to give the real "best price" for a trade in to also quote the best sale price for the new vehicle. Normally, the salesman gets his fee for selling the car from one end of the deal or the other. Your "friend" was trying to cut the salesman's fee completely out of the deal. That would not be fair to the salesman and certainly not for you to ask the salesman to do that, either. I would be thinking long and hard about the implied worth of the friendship between you and him if your "friend" is willing to take advantage of you/your dealership friend like that. At the very least, you now know that he is not going to give you credit for getting him the best price he could have paid for the new car... Which brings something else to mind... Was your friend THAT sure he was going to get the dealer who was giving him the higher price for his trade-in going to be able to also match the sale price your dealer-friend quoted him? (I am willing to bet he finds out he has to pay that fee on one end or the other, no matter who he goes to for buying the car he wants.) You did a fine job attempting to help your friend. You did better than he did himself, or he would have told you and the dealer you suggested that he was getting the car at that price already but was curious if you could encourage your salesman friend to beat the quote he was already given. Hmmm... will you be able to find out what price he pays for the vehicle at his dealer and what he receives for his trade-in? (I mean reliably without having to depend on your "friend" to tell you the truth? I would be very interested in hearing whether he actually saved as much money as what he thinks he can save in that deal.) To answer your question, yes, if someone asks me to give my recommendation on a subject that I am very familiar with, then yes, I will give my suggestion(s) as to what I believe I would do in the same situation. But my friends also know that I am saying what I would do, not what I think they should do. I can only give them my knowledge. If they have knowledge beyond that, then they should have the good sense to know when to use or not use what they know. I don't take responsibility for their choices. They came to me asking for a recommendation. They did not ask me to take responsibility for things I have no way to know. You might also tell your friend you didn't agree to take responsibility to live his life for him. You only agreed to tell him what you would do in that situation. (See if that shuts him up! It should!)

Friendships break when recommendations go wrong. I have realized that. I invest in mutual funds. I suggested the same thing to one of my former neighbors. They did invest. But the market slumped. I have the patience; they don't. In any event, had those monies been with them, they would have circulated and got 2 percent interest per month! So..if they have better alternatives before them, I would avoid. Personally, I wait to be asked, and say ..I have done this, and I am satisfied, or so and so did it, and they are continuing or apparently satisfied.

As a mechanical engineer, i will give so many suggestions but most of them will have their own wish and buy some thing that i have not told!

I would have thought its your friend that have wasted your time. The 1 day thing was just an excuse to back out the deal. He must have gotten a similar offer else where and was curious to see if you could do better. In my opinion it's a silly thing to do, as this probably cost a bit of your friendship than the few pennies he has saved.

well for me i cannot decide yet.in the first place maybe they don't like the deal and they will blame me or they just folling me.next time make an alliby

How ungrateful they are for you taking the time to accompany them to your recommended dealer . They might have not liked the dealer's price , but not blame you for wasting their time , just because they weren;t able to get the deal they like . If they were my friends , they would surely hear a not so nice words from me .

That was mean of her to say that.. didn't your friend have anything to say to his wife? I understand your feelings.

In the past I helped, now I have learned the lesson. People ask for your help and, at most, they do not even say thank you. I do not expect gratitude, but at least not rudeness.

I am sorry to be blunt but your friend (?) is a selfish halfwit.

What a shame your friend is not honest with you. He apparently approach you with business mind. So he not tell that he visited many showrooms. He mixed business and friendship and ruined your valuable time and also blur the relationship of your generous friend.

I don't think you was wrong. Your friend should told you up front what he wanted.

Hmmm, this could be quite a damaging situation to you. i think you friend has certainly put some strain in this relationship. I didn't like the fact that he requested your help and then decided that he could have gotten a better deal elsewhere. And, to be blamed of wasting THEIR time. Some people are just inconsiderate as this.Okay, he probably had confidence in you that you could have gotten him a better deal...but what he did was wrong. If it were me approaching a friend for a favor or help, I would have stated up that I had visited other places, and even though I think I may have gotten a good deal, I would still like to try one more time to see if I could get yet something more in my benefit. So if he had then, decline the offer, it would not have been so disappointing to you. I am sure you felt used. And in a way he did use you, even if it did not started out so.Very bad interactive skills. Because he had left you in the dark, you can't trust that the same situation would not repeat itself. So, next time you reach out to help him, you'll have to query if he already has something in mind. i don't think you should end the friendship though...just put him in a category that bears being cautious. Well, that's my advice. (^_^)