myLot isn't a dating site!

United States
December 27, 2016 2:02am CST
myLot is a discussion website, if you want to 'date', online date, attempt to flirt, whatever it is - then you're looking on the wrong site! Unless you potentially meet someone, click together & it works out - by all means good for you! Me - personally, I'm not interested & private messaging me is another thing, I will not respond. I pretty much ignore all messages, with the acceptation of some members with whom I know isn't a crazy stalker, annoying, and an actual human being! There are some members who I can actually have a full on conversation with that is enjoyable and endless and some where I just get to the point. Just recently, I had someone ask if I would exchange usernames / web chat on a chatting app with them. I don't have any interest in chatting with strangers. Anyhow, that's my rant of the evening!
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74 responses
@owlwings (43915)
• Cambridge, England
27 Dec 16
MyLot has always tried to make sure that its members can feel that this is a safe, family-friendly site and it has made settings available so that people can protect themselves as much as possible from being harrassed and stalked. Unfortunately, there will always be a small number of people who misinterpret what the site is about and try to take advantage of the system. Many people will find this kind of abuse just annoying and stupid but some may feel genuinely threatened. It is worth bearing in mind that people who use the messaging system to make inappropriate suggestions and advances to you (which you may be able to brush off without more than just a mild irritation), are highly likely to be doing this to others who may feel less secure. Even if you, yourself, don't feel threatened and simply block these people, it is well worth reporting such incidents to Admin (@goaskalice) Only he can check whether the person is abusing the system and making a nuisance of himself (such people are usually male) to others. Please always bear in mind what effect such messages might have on those who may be weaker and less secure than you and take the time to let Admin know the username of anyone who is using the system inappropriately!
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@Bluedoll (16774)
• Canada
27 Dec 16
cool wording had to look it up @pgntwo profoundly wise person, esp. one famed for wisdom. 2. an experienced person respected for sound judgment. adj. 3. wise, judicious, or prudent: sage advice
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@pgntwo (22412)
• Derry, Northern Ireland
27 Dec 16
Sage advice, clearly.
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@Bluedoll (16774)
• Canada
27 Dec 16
MyLot has always tried..@owlwings What is MY Lot? Serious question. I know it is a website. I know two login names "my bugs" "ask alice" but I don't know who "represents" mylot? Also "family friendly site" not sure what that actually means? Is it official? I've look on the internet and found one site that defines what that is but mylot isn't listed there?
Find approved websites and destinations that support online safety of family members using the internet. The Original Family-Friendly Directory started in 1996.
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@ms1864 (6886)
• Bangalore, India
27 Dec 16
i would second this thought. I feel the same way. I have had a handful of guys asking me the same thing...there is no option but to ignore them. A few of them I don't even see interacting in any discussion...they just want to chat on private messaging and get to friendly. I just cut to the chase and be clear with them.
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@lyanhnan (151)
• Thrissur, India
27 Dec 16
Yes, just keep everything public here. Thats the way myLot is supposed to be.
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• United States
27 Dec 16
@lyanhnan Private messaging can still be used for regular talking just not creepy activity :) I do prefer to comment on discussions and communicate that way though.
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• United States
27 Dec 16
I just ignore them since they're not worth speaking to :) And just because I commented on their one latest discussion doesn't mean I'm interested in them or want to be friends. It's weird how some people think!
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@Drosophila (16573)
• Ireland
27 Dec 16
Lol just tell them you're a bloke, and all is well
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• United States
27 Dec 16
@Drosophila But my photo doesn't correspond haha. Then I'd be the creeper with a female picture haha
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@Drosophila (16573)
• Ireland
27 Dec 16
@infatuatedbby exactly and you shall never hear from them again!
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@DianneN (246452)
• United States
27 Dec 16
Good one! LOL!
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@MALUSE (69428)
• Germany
27 Dec 16
This happened to me on a language learning site some time ago. The only thing to do is to ignore the weirdo and notify admin.
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• United States
27 Dec 16
@pgntwo I always just leave it as that (ignore) because they usually get the memo and plus they'd disappear because myLot wasn't what they thought it is to be. Or because they claim earnings are too little.
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• United States
27 Dec 16
@MALUSE I think if we have a profile picture, chances are we'll get weirdos private messaging!
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@pgntwo (22412)
• Derry, Northern Ireland
27 Dec 16
Life is full of weirdos, to some degree. Knowing which to ignore and which to report, that's the trick..
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@DianneN (246452)
• United States
27 Dec 16
I have gotten several of those myself. And, I'm a grandmother for Heaven's sake!
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• United States
27 Dec 16
@DianneN I ignore them too! Plus they don't usually stick to myLot anyway!
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• United States
27 Dec 16
You're beautiful! I am sure you ignore the messages too, or do you respond to let them know BACK OFF! I'm happily married & a grandmother - get a life
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@DianneN (246452)
• United States
27 Dec 16
@infatuatedbby I ignore them. Now I will start reporting them. Idiots!!!! . I just noticed your first sentence. Omg! Thank you for thinking that.
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@Mike197602 (15489)
• United Kingdom
27 Dec 16
there are some weirdos out there glad you don't ignore any of my messages as I am a real human
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@owlwings (43915)
• Cambridge, England
27 Dec 16
It has to be assumed that the 'weirdo's are also, in a sense, 'real humans' - albeit bent and twisted ones!
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@Mike197602 (15489)
• United Kingdom
27 Dec 16
@Bluedoll some would say it's a matter of opinion
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@Mike197602 (15489)
• United Kingdom
27 Dec 16
@owlwings I agree with what you said somewhere else on this discussion. Some could brush it off as a mere annoyance whereas others may be put off coming on here so I would say if anyone gets unsolicited advances they should tell admin. BUT...if any girls want to make unsolicited advances to me I wouldn't mind
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@dpk262006 (58673)
• Delhi, India
27 Dec 16
There are some incorrigible elements in this world, who just cannot be mended. These elements are found on every social networking site and wherever facility of private messaging is available, they shamelessly send messages to every member on the site (in a way misuse the facility). As our friend @owlwings has suggested that if you find that a mylotter is sending you PMs unnecessarily, you could immediately block him. Also, if you go to your settings, you could disable the option of receiving PMs from others.
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@owlwings (43915)
• Cambridge, England
27 Dec 16
It's usually only necessary to change the setting to "Only those I follow can message me" and, if you want to, block the user (which also stops them from following you). Even so, telling Admin does no harm. If the person is being a pest to others, he will be made to disappear in very short order!
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@dpk262006 (58673)
• Delhi, India
28 Dec 16
@owlwings -Thanks for explaining. I agree with you that even if we block a particular user and we feel that he may do more harm, it would be better to report about such user to Admin.
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@Bluedoll (16774)
• Canada
27 Dec 16
some waht?? @dpk262006
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@youless (112091)
• Guangzhou, China
27 Dec 16
Mylot is a website for me to practise my English, and mean I can earn from it. I can't believe some people will regard it as a dating website
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@youless (112091)
• Guangzhou, China
28 Dec 16
@infatuatedbby I also feel like my English improved a little bit
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• United States
28 Dec 16
@youless You are doing great!
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• United States
27 Dec 16
@youless myLot is a great place to practice your English in addition to earning a little extra as an incentive. I like myLot because its fun and therapeutic, but I'm not looking for anything more.
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@sishy7 (27169)
• Australia
27 Dec 16
Could not agree with you more there!
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• United States
27 Dec 16
Do you get any strange pm's?
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• United States
27 Dec 16
@sishy7 Hehhee Diane said She received messages! Too & she's a grandmother I think it depends if we have a profile picture or not too.
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@sishy7 (27169)
• Australia
27 Dec 16
@infatuatedbby No, not me... They must have read that I'm a mother of four grown sons so I'm too old to be flirted with...
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@cahaya1983 (11121)
• Malaysia
27 Dec 16
Web chat? Yikes! Seems like whoever it was that requested that from you had a totally different idea about myLot.
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• United States
27 Dec 16
I think so too! Ha-ha!
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@cahaya1983 (11121)
• Malaysia
4 Jan 17
@magallon I know right? Sounds a little fishy to me, haha.
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@magallon (19281)
• Philippines
29 Dec 16
requesting for a webchat is already a different thing. maybe there is a hidden agenda in there.
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@just4him (303392)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
27 Dec 16
Sorry that happened to you. I agree, this is a discussion site, not a dating site.
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• United States
28 Dec 16
I'd like to stick to the discussion site
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@just4him (303392)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
28 Dec 16
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@Plethos (13618)
• United States
27 Dec 16
i wish i had a stalker . . . i wish this site had a group private messageing option. im sure some of those conversations would be very interesting!
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@vandana7 (98520)
• India
28 Dec 16
Here I come...soon will be stalking you ...but with Jesus Christ as avatar...everybody must be treating you like a priest..
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• United States
27 Dec 16
We can have group discussion comments.
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• Boone, North Carolina
28 Dec 16
and alarmingly scandalous
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@magallon (19281)
• Philippines
27 Dec 16
Very well said. I am with you my friend...
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• United States
27 Dec 16
Sure if the people want to flirt within the discussion or whatever that's their business but by me commenting a discussion by someone doesn't mean I'm interested in them!
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• United States
27 Dec 16
@magallon Some may like the attention, but I don't need it! There are some members where humor takes part and that's fine as it's jokingly. However there are some I've stumbled upon tries too hard.. and I just ignore the comment.
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@magallon (19281)
• Philippines
27 Dec 16
@infatuatedbby Yeah, that's what I noticed too. Interactions here is normal. It should not be given other meanings...
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27 Dec 16
This is one problem which is, perhaps, common to all social forums. Places where you won't find people coming up with amorous proposals are rare to find in the virtual world.
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• United States
27 Dec 16
Yep it happens everywhere.
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• United States
28 Dec 16
@sayanmondal At what point would I be offended? I am not talking about Facebook or social media. And on myLot, there isn't a button to mark one's relationship status because it's simply not a dating website.
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27 Dec 16
i don't want to offend you but it's a known fact to all of us., this is the way everything works, as an instance , why the hell there is relationship status option in fb profile? have u thought about it?
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@celticeagle (157563)
• Boise, Idaho
27 Dec 16
I guess some just do not go by rules and think that any forum is the place to do whatever they want. Good that you put your foot down.
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@celticeagle (157563)
• Boise, Idaho
28 Dec 16
@infatuatedbby ......You have to. There are going to be people like that out there and all you can do is turn the other cheek, ignore them and don't get them excited.
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• United States
28 Dec 16
@celticeagle Yep! If we budge or feed them, they'll be grinning with happiness
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• United States
28 Dec 16
I ignore, but I'd prefer the discussion site.
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@vandana7 (98520)
• India
28 Dec 16
1. Love is beautiful. If it comes to you ..irrespective of which site...be open to it...provided it makes sense. 2. myLot is not a dating site...so folks here are more reliable and you know their minds if not their faces and lower parts of their bodies. 3. Little bit of flirting never harmed anybody. It kinda helps some folks whose spirits are low feel lighter and rejuvenated..kinda. I give up about 4th to zillionth point...typing issues. What say @DaddyEvil, @TheHorse...
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@vandana7 (98520)
• India
29 Dec 16
@infatuatedbby .. Can't say I didn't try to influence you to have some fun out here...and Junior...he is as rotten as DE and JJ...watch out...
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• United States
29 Dec 16
@vandana7 I do have fun with some of the members
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• United States
28 Dec 16
1. Love is beautiful, but I am not interested in loving someone of the internet 2. & 3. Yes, myLot isn't a dating site & flirting doesn't harm anyone but I have no interest in some at all lol! Some are OK like... @moffittjc
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@averygirl72 (37544)
• Philippines
27 Dec 16
Maybe mylot is really popular some strangers would like to meet someone here or just have someone to chat on webcam. Someone PM me too who seems to like videochat with strangers
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• United States
28 Dec 16
Did you answer the particular person? It could be the same guy then?
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• United States
28 Dec 16
@averygirl72 Oh perhaps a different person then.
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@averygirl72 (37544)
• Philippines
28 Dec 16
@infatuatedbby He is interested to learn English. He is looking for a teacher. He's a chinese.
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@DaddyEvil (137251)
• United States
28 Dec 16
WOW! Ranting just because someone ask for you to exchange usernames? Somehow, I am sure there is MUCH more to this story, infatuatedbby! (Did you catch @vandana7 looking at me with friendship shining from her eyes and mistake it for something else? Maybe it was someone else you saw looking at me with love in their eyes, like @moffittjc? You know he has a thing for me, right? LMAO!) I am glad I never got on your bad side by calling you 'hon'! (I do know I have called you that, but I think I ask if it would be okay, first. I try to, at least.) I also guess this is not the time to tell you I come from a different solar system, is it? Rant all you like! We've all had days like that!
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@vandana7 (98520)
• India
28 Dec 16
Oh DE dah ling you just broke my heart...sob sob sob.... So glad we are best friends...you understand me for what I am offering. I wouldn't risk such things with others. It would hurt them. With you, I know I am in safe territory. :) Now I am not sure about Junior and you. Sad...
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@vandana7 (98520)
• India
28 Dec 16
@DaddyEvil .. Me too.. a day without DE would be like a day without bathing....stinking.
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@DaddyEvil (137251)
• United States
28 Dec 16
@vandana7 Now, if only you could pull off the Hungarian accent that goes with spelling Darling that way, vanny! THAT would be real talent! LOL! I wouldn't want to lose your friendship for anything, vanny! It will stand the test of time!......... As far as @moffittjc and I are concerned, I do hope he has figured out I am male by now! I am sure it was quite a shock to his system when he finally understood, though... or maybe not?! SMH! With Jeff, you never can tell! He might still say he is in love with me, just to give the ladies some kind of competition! Jeff...
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@TheHorse (203694)
• Walnut Creek, California
28 Dec 16
I occasionally exchange personal messages with other members, but it's not about dating.
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@vandana7 (98520)
• India
28 Dec 16
@infatuatedbby ...Oh so the entire grouse is about strangers...you are right to find them objectionable...
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• United States
29 Dec 16
@vandana7 Yep strangers are no no!
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• United States
28 Dec 16
It could be about dating if you're both interested though. I do exchange personal messages with some other members as well but its not completely strangers that I never spoke with.
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@shaynas (5488)
• India
27 Dec 16
I second you! There are many dating sites available, why not go there if they intend to do the same. It's really irritating at times.
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• United States
27 Dec 16
Totally, it doesn't make any sense! Yesterday, I commented on a guy's discussion and in return I get a private message and due to language barrier it was saying I'm Asian? Or I'm from Asian. What's my username for a web chat app. That's not how myLot works!
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@shaynas (5488)
• India
27 Dec 16
@infatuatedbby This is too much at times. I think some people are so frustrated that they just want to try their luck everywhere
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• United States
27 Dec 16
@shaynas Probably or they could be lonely? Or need the attention whereas at home they're not getting it. Who knows ...
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