it's okay to leave without eating
By hereandthere
@hereandthere (45628)
Philippines
December 25, 2017 9:13am CST
when they arrived this morning, this relative said they'll try to go home early because there's a problem with their gate's lock.
when the time came and they were saying goodbye, mother said we should start setting the table so they could eat before leaving.
the thing is, these two have motion sickness. they purposely don't eat, or eat very light, when they have to commute.
or else they'll throw up, which can be messy and embarrassing in public transportation.
so i urged them to speak up.
once they did, i walked over and also mentioned their concern about the gate's lock.
and so, they were allowed to leave.
i wish they just spoke up right then and there, instead of being too embarrassed to say no, then telling me their apprehensions.
although i found a goodbye/farewell picture on pixabay, the caption on this picture caught my attention so i'm using this instead.
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16 responses
@sjvg1976 (42727)
• Delhi, India
25 Dec 17
@hereandthere then it's okay they should not say and should have clearly stated why they are avoiding meal at your place.
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@hereandthere (45628)
• Philippines
25 Dec 17
@sjvg1976 we already ate several times today. it's more of "one last meal before you go" kind of thing, but in their case, it's better not to (due to motion sickness) and the need to check the house as soon as possible.
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@hereandthere (45628)
• Philippines
25 Dec 17
they have to go already because it was already dark, their house is quite far and there weren't too many public transportation today
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@garymarsh6 (23998)
• United Kingdom
26 Dec 17
They need to overcome their politeness especially if it is to their detriment.
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@hereandthere (45628)
• Philippines
26 Dec 17
some people seem to be crippled by it.
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@hereandthere (45628)
• Philippines
25 Dec 17
i guess so. i don't really like having to 'fix' situations like these.
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@Madshadi (8840)
• Brussels, Belgium
25 Dec 17
@hereandthere I wouldn’t like to either
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@hereandthere (45628)
• Philippines
25 Dec 17
@Madshadi i guess i could have let it in one ear then out the other, shrug and tell myself it's not really my problem.
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@everwonderwhy (7355)
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26 Dec 17
Your mother is very hospitable and caring. I hope she understood your guests' reason why they declined her invitation for a meal before leaving.
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@hereandthere (45628)
• Philippines
27 Dec 17
i told her to speak up and explain so mother would understand
@hereandthere (45628)
• Philippines
25 Dec 17
exactly! if you can be real with your friends, what more your family members?
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@hereandthere (45628)
• Philippines
25 Dec 17
always saying yes to elders shouldn't be a rigid rule. sometimes we have to be practical and realistic.
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@SIMPLYD (90717)
• Philippines
11 Jan 18
@hereandthere I would also do so if I am in the same situation. 
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@hereandthere (45628)
• Philippines
26 Dec 17
i'm okay because i understand, but i have to urge her to speak up and explain so they aren't forced to eat
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
26 Dec 17
they should rest and sit for an hour before leaving to commute if they have motion sickness. the food should be in their stomach so they won't vomit out.
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@creativeaashish (2609)
• Kathmandu, Nepal
25 Dec 17
Great! Yeah, many people have their own problems! It was better you know for the couple to stay in that way otherwise they would spoil everything!
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@hereandthere (45628)
• Philippines
25 Dec 17
my mother understood once they explained everything
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@creativeaashish (2609)
• Kathmandu, Nepal
25 Dec 17
@hereandthere Oh! Yeah! They shouldn’t hide their situation and be forced too! Whatever happened it happened for good!
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