How do I tell her that no matter how she looks on the outside, beauty is only skin deep and doesn't always cover an ugly soul?
By JJ
@JolietJake (50190)
January 20, 2018 7:06am CST
I'm not really worried about hurting her feelings because I am not sure she has any, but I'm trying to figure out how to make a girl understand that not all 'ugly' shows on the outside.
I only know what little she has shown of herself online, which seems, to me, to be very superficial.
I was married to someone like that once...nice to look at, but inside the stuff nightmares are made of.
I proudly fly my 'ugly' flag...no matter how often people try to say I am 'nice', that is only sometimes.
I don't really have much tact, I'd as soon hit someone upside the head with a sledgehammer of words to get my point across.
Saves time in the long run.
Yes, I am abrasive...what some may even call abusive...but at least you'll know where you stand with me.
And if I tell you to 'stop breathing' it doesn't necessarily mean I want you to kill yourself.
After all, what is gonna happen is you'll just pass out and start breathing again. 
So how do I tell someone the mirror doesn't show their true beauty?
Yes, I am abrasive...what some may even call abusive...but at least you'll know where you stand with me.
And if I tell you to 'stop breathing' it doesn't necessarily mean I want you to kill yourself.
After all, what is gonna happen is you'll just pass out and start breathing again.
So how do I tell someone the mirror doesn't show their true beauty?22 people like this
22 responses
@m_audrey6788 (58470)
• Germany
20 Jan 18
Gosh! 
It`s really hard to let a person understand what you´re pointing out especially when they`re blind by their self pity 
I usually just stay away with them until they really ask for the reason behind of my being honest with them in a strange way
It`s really hard to let a person understand what you´re pointing out especially when they`re blind by their self pity I usually just stay away with them until they really ask for the reason behind of my being honest with them in a strange way 3 people like this
@JolietJake (50190)
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20 Jan 18
Seems many people are just superficial and only think looks and possessions shows real worth.
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@m_audrey6788 (58470)
• Germany
20 Jan 18
@JolietJake Yes and sad to say that they really don`t get the true meaning of appreciating someone by their good heart and not their physical outlook
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@FourWalls (74766)
• United States
20 Jan 18
Went and investigated. I see an activity count of 10. What do you want to bet that person doesn’t reach 30 before abandoning ship here....
And yes, you’re abrasive, abusive, and ugly....but your cat is cute.
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@andriaperry (118751)
• Anniston, Alabama
21 Jan 18
Come clean, tell her "you have an ugly soul and its bleeding out all over your face. No amount of make up can change how you act"
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@Mr_Anomaly (790)
• United States
20 Jan 18
Sounds like a lesson she'll have to learn for herself... is she young? Typically wisdom comes from age, and eventually, when "attractive" mates become more and more scarce and wrinkled, she may turn course and begin to understand.
Also when you tell her that beauty isn't just on the outside, she may be listening but not fully grasping the concept. It's tougher for some people to grasp... I bet if you tried to tell the moms that force their daughters into beauty pageants that beauty isn't just on the outside, they'd have brain aneurysms. .
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@Mr_Anomaly (790)
• United States
20 Jan 18
@JolietJake Has been quite a while! Hope all is well
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@Srbageldog (7716)
• United States
21 Jan 18
The girl in question sounds like a teenager based on her handful of posts. Frankly I'm disgusted by the responses she received. Girls do not have to put up with unwanted advances from guys they do not find attractive, just because the guy is "sweet and kind."
Teenagers minds aren't full developed, and being told to "stop breathing" could be inferred as being told to kill themselves. If an adult said that to my 16 year old stepdaughter, I'd tear them a new one. 
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@scarlet_woman (23463)
• United States
21 Jan 18
sounds like i missed something..damn..see what happens when i step away to fix something..
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@nanette64 (20364)
• Fairfield, Texas
20 Jan 18
I wonder how you and I would get along; since I'm so 'verbal' @JolietJake . Scar would probably have to become a referee.
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@Morleyhunt (21742)
• Canada
20 Jan 18
I was the first to comment on that discussion. I was appalled at how shallow this Mylotter is. I've been out, so I'm not sure if she's responded to my comment.
I'm off to find out.
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@seaprimavera (46)
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20 Jan 18
I totally agree. Personality for me is more important than outer appearance. To treat other with kindness and love should be human nature, but unfortunately there are people that will judge you before they even know you. And unfortunately it can also go both ways. Some people are judged on being thin, tall, fat, short, light, dark, beautiful, ugly the list goes on. :(
I think it is important for people to get to know people on one and one basis and know a person for who they are without making generalizations.
That being said, online definitely should not be a place to meet someone, I know from past experience. Strong relationships usually start with friendship then escalate to love, it is just more natural.
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@sjvg1976 (41967)
• Delhi, India
21 Jan 18
I never have a thought to the physical beauty of anyone. For me the one who is good in behaviour is beautiful. I don't know how this guy will feel when she will tell him that she doesn't love him . How greedy she is as she is waiting for the gift he will give her on Valentine day and she will tell the reality then.
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@kobesbuddy (78856)
• East Tawas, Michigan
26 Jan 18
Some of the ugliest people I've ever met, have been walking around in a beautiful body. And some of the most beautiful people I've ever know, would get laughed at in a line-up for a beauty contest! The word 'ugly' is a personal concept, we all view things from a different perspective. That's what keeps life in this world so interesting:)
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@stapllotik (1933)
• India
20 Jan 18
My ugly love, you' re a messy chestnut. My beauty, you are pretty as the wind.
Can we change this mentality?
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