People that only talk to you to ask a favor...

I'd have had some respect for them if they had come out at first and asked "How much do you charge to DJ a wedding", but all this "How are you doing/What are you up to today?yada yada yada" crap...come on, they don't even say "Hi" most of the time and I have never got a text from them

@JolietJake They probably overspent on the flowers and had to cut costs somewhere and thought "Hmmmm, who do we know who can DJ and might just do it for nothing". You should have agreed to do it if Scar could be best man (cat!!).

@thehousewife That's how I answer every call that comes from my kids!!!

@JolietJake guts. pure guts.

Pretty much

@hereandthere It is called shamelessness.

Wow............that is awesome. LOL

@vandana7 — thank you! I’m at the club all weekend. Drive safely and don’t forget to tip your wait staff. (That’s what a lot of comedians say at the end of their performances at comedy clubs here. So those of us who think we’re funny adopt it. )

@JolietJake I look for it to try starting in a few months now that mom and dad are gone. Both of my siblings often borrowed from them. It wont take either one of them long to be broke again. But once this is settled they can go you know where

My family knows better. I made it plain to them long ago how I feel about that. I am either family all the time or not at all.

@wolfgirl569 My brother borrowed from my parents, until they had nothing left. Now, he's looking for someone else, to pay his bills:(

I don't get invited to my neighbor's place, though their kids are at my place quite often. No charges. The reason is different. They are rich, and they have this superstition, unmarried childless woman can sort of desire for children cause bad vibes which will make the child ill or something. It is the superstition common out here. I have come to accept it. I hardly take any help from them, and you can bet they won't be invited should there be anything worth that. :)

@kobesbuddy Aw...as if it can't happen at schools. Sigh. It is weird that people think that way. While looking after little boys is necessary and being around them is, being overprotective makes them more vulnerable because they are unsure of all territories.

@vandana7 My own son loved to have young friends, staying overnight! So did my daughter, she liked to do this. I had a licensed day-care home for 6 years. I didn't have one thought, to do evil things, ever.

@JolietJake OK, then. You can ignore them all you want.

Are we not supposed to ignore such relatives?

Not mine

Thanks a lot Bhaiyya. When folks are like that, they need to be put in their place...yeah..remember the guy who asked me to adopt him? When myLot was down, he did not keep in touch at all. You were concerned about him, and asked me to help him out. I had offered not once but many times, to help him reduce his local stay bill and conveyance. Nothing more. But within a day he thinks he is my well wisher enough to saddle me with himself and his family. He does not read my comments, but is going to listen to me in my old age. Right..I believe it. I will ask water, and he will listen not give me water. LOL

@JolietJake we will feel the same. clearly they just need a favor. maybe you should have for a pay?

Not really, since it went exactly as I expected it to

@Mavic123456 I don't do DJ work anymore, and I never did do weddings, they are too much of a hassle.

@JolietJake Hmmm, what's the point at this stage?

They are due to get married in 3 weeks from today, and this morning on facebook I saw them trying to find out where to rent folding chairs...sounds like they haven't planned this out very well

It was the bride actually

Ha ha...the world is bad. How do we get surrounded by such folks? But I will be honest. I have former neighbors, who were gems. Some 30 odd years association. They have no children. Dad once accused me of being friends with them, because they have no children, with hope of inheriting something. I cut off. Aunty continued to keep in touch, and is still in touch. I blurted. She has been one of the few who has been substitute family. So I couldn't hold back. I explained to her, this is what dad thinks, and you know I am in the least bothered about what you two have. I want goodwill of your folks (her sister is a gem too, and looks after me well), not your money. If you write something to me, my relatives will step into your house as well, to take whatever it is that you are writing and more. Please do not do that. Let me have people who will be there in case I am thrown on roads. She accepted that verbally, has a room for me in her home, and her sister too understands and has agreed to that, but both aunty and uncle have made me the person who will be allowed to stay in tirupati and other destinations..should I choose to do so, they have this once a week benefit for life for themselves and for somebody they choose. I am overwhelmed. I hope she keeps her word of not writing anything on my name. I hope both of them think that it makes me more insecure if I have that much additional money, because it will attract my relatives all the more.

@Shiva49 There is a lot of value such people add to our lives. The value that cannot be weighed in monetary terms at all. I have already received more than enough from them, and I can't repay that...even as a person by their side. If I were to walk out of the obligation, they wouldn't hold it against me. But I don't feel it as an obligation. I care. I hurt all the while when I'd cut off. She is the one who taught me whatever little cooking I know today. How can I forget her?

@vandana7 I know some imputing wrong motives even when we are clear. It gives them pleasure. I worked for a very wealthy person but I made sure I gave more than I took. There was an unsaid understanding I would see to it that all his wealth was properly passed down and I made sure that I did whatever I could. I am now in the process of making sure others do not have to run from pillar to post to sort things out when I am gone. The material comforts that I enjoy here will be no use hereafter and I should leave with a take my life touched many and that I did not live for few but for society. I feel comfortable with those who are simple-hearted. The issue arises when we refuse to pass from one stage to another. We are ready to move from student to householder but not to retire and renunciate! siva

I've learned I don't have to say 'yes' to everything these days...

@thislittlepennyearns I used to often say 'yes' to things I didn't really want to do. With my health in the shape it has been in since my stroke 3 years ago, I put my foot down quite often now

@JolietJake Something tells me you've never really had a problem saying no.

I've become fed up with this type of person/people. If I 'needed' something, most of them wouldn't have the time of day to give me.

@JolietJake Those people are cruel and selfish. They'll look for you when they need you and when they don't you're just like someone they don't know.

@JolietJake opportunists?

@Cristi_Ichim Pretty much.

And it isn't like they are actual 'friends', we know each other because we know some of the same people, but we've never hung out together

@JolietJake you know you can't have cake

Maybe a piece of cake...maybe not

Money wasn't mentioned until I said no...then they never mentioned a price, just wanted to know how much I wanted...told them I didn't want any, I wasn't interested in doing it

I knew as soon as I got the first text they were going to ask for something, but I figured it would be to use my van to move something

@JolietJake And your instinct was right. But maybe that could be too if you agreed to DJ for them. They just had to say it one by one.