@ElusiveButterfly is a good detective, more about Hatley
@GardenGerty (165674)
United States
June 2, 2018 5:42pm CST
I called Hatley's cell phone, it is no longer in service.
I called Westminster Villa, and the number I got was some kid who only answered because my number from Kansas came up and he thought I might be a friend from KU. I got the number online, from two different sites and it was Totally Wrong.
After some research, I found another number for the retirement home. I called and was told the number had been changed and that the new number was unknown.
@ElusiveButterfly had messaged me with a number for a rehab center in southern California, because that is where Robby said she was. EB got it right. I called and they connected me to Hatley. Technically they should not have due to privacy laws, but they did.
She could not hear me very well and needed to go soon, but she KNOWS that we here at myLot are worried for her. She sounded good. But there is a problem.
Patsie just was told that Westminster Villa will no longer accept her as a resident. She has to find a new home, and find a way to get her things. I think they just told her yesterday or today.
She is in Seal Beach, and the only way her son can get there is to find someone with a car to take him.
If she had a place to stay, I would try to come up with time and money to go move her myself.
Patsie says she can stay at the Rehab center until she has a new place to go, and that they are really nice to her.
Do not get the wrong idea about her former place. If she requires more care than they can provide they CANNOT keep her there. It is licensed as an assisted living facility, not a Long Term Care or Health Care facility. It probably was out of their hands and all up to Medicare and Medicaid or who ever.
I told you guys I would post more, so now you have it.
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@JohnRoberts (109845)
• Los Angeles, California
2 Jun 18
Thanks for the update/ Hopefully things will work out for her.
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@GardenGerty (165674)
• United States
3 Jun 18
If this was a movie we would be forming a convoy starting in New England headed west to help Patsie find a new place and get moved. She is worrying about her computer at Westminster.
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@GardenGerty (165674)
• United States
3 Jun 18
@MarshaMusselman Her son lacks a lot of resources, and I do not know if they would release it to him. He would have to find someone to drive him to pick it up, that is for sure.
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@MarshaMusselman (38833)
• Midland, Michigan
3 Jun 18
@GardenGerty is that something her son could pick up and keep safe for her? Or maybe that's not a good idea either?
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@PatZAnthony (14749)
• Charlotte, North Carolina
3 Jun 18
Thank you for these details. We've all been wondering and asking!
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@GardenGerty (165674)
• United States
3 Jun 18
Oh, I know. I was hoping it was better than it is.
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@ElusiveButterfly (45941)
• United States
3 Jun 18
She should try to find an advocate in the community for the elderly. Here we have a service for the elderly that will help her find a new place that will accommodate her needs. The social worker at the rehab should be setting these things up for her.
Hopefully they will find a place closer to where here son resides so he may visit her more often.
I am glad that you were able to connect with her. Thank you for doing so. You have a big heart lady.
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@GardenGerty (165674)
• United States
3 Jun 18
In Kansas that would be an Ombudsman. Yes, Social Services at the rehab is likely helping her, but that would be a suggestion.
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@LovingMyBabies (85294)
• Valdosta, Georgia
2 Jun 18
I'm glad you explained that because at first I was hurt for her about them telling her she has to go elsewhere-at least it does make sense even if it's not the ideal situation.
Gosh, poor Hatley. =( I wish things were better for her. I will be praying for her and her situation with housing.
Thank you for updating us!
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@GardenGerty (165674)
• United States
3 Jun 18
I hope the prayers carry her along, but I wish I could put feet on those prayers and DO something.
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@LovingMyBabies (85294)
• Valdosta, Georgia
3 Jun 18
@GardenGerty I so wish I could do something also but unfortunately I can't. However, I will be praying God sends her the angel she needs to help her.
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@GardenGerty (165674)
• United States
3 Jun 18
@Shavkat I reply to comments on my posts always. She did have a fall, broke her wrist. It turns out she had pneumonia as well.
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@Shavkat (140941)
• Philippines
3 Jun 18
@GardenGerty It was really a bad fall. I felt bad about that. I humbly say that I have a golden heart and willing to help her. Unfortunately, I am too far.
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@GardenGerty (165674)
• United States
3 Jun 18
I am sure the fall and the diabetes and her overall failing eyesight and hearing made it necessary. It does feel rotten, though.
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@just4him (318791)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
3 Jun 18
@GardenGerty Yes, it does feel rotten.
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@GardenGerty (165674)
• United States
3 Jun 18
The facilities, even the ones like Westminster are the worst for people who do not have regular visitors checking in on them.
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@BarBaraPrz (50329)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
3 Jun 18
Thank you for the continuing news of Patsie's situation.
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@GardenGerty (165674)
• United States
3 Jun 18
I am trying to keep up because we all want to know.
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@GardenGerty (165674)
• United States
3 Jun 18
@BarBaraPrz You mean my breakfast won't help? I was always glad to read those posts because it did show that there were options that suited her diabetes and diverticular disease.
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@BarBaraPrz (50329)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
3 Jun 18
@GardenGerty You're right about that. I want to know what she's having for breakfast. 
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@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
3 Jun 18
The poor dear. I am surprised how difficult it was to get the phone number, that seems a bit odd to me
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@GardenGerty (165674)
• United States
3 Jun 18
It did seem very creepy about Westminster. Seal Beach was a piece of cake, as Sarina had looked it up.
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@1hopefulman (45113)
• Canada
3 Jun 18
Thanks for sharing this with us. I hope she finds a place where they can take care of her.
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@GardenGerty (165674)
• United States
3 Jun 18
I hope someone is helping her. I know how the process works in Kansas, but she is over 1500 miles away from here.
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@1hopefulman (45113)
• Canada
4 Jun 18
@GardenGerty Yes, elderly ones need people who care for their interests but sadly at times they are neglected and abused.
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@BelleStarr (61422)
• United States
3 Jun 18
This is heartbreaking. I am wondering if we could get her a tablet, they are so inexpensive these days and with the tablet, she could go online. Just a thought, I would love to be able to help her in some way.
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@BelleStarr (61422)
• United States
4 Jun 18
@BearArtistLady That is certainly encouraging news, I hope we can do something, I feel so helpless.
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@BearArtistLady (6036)
• United States
3 Jun 18
Actually Netbooks are so inexpensive now, and the screen is large enough that I can see it without without my glasses without too much trouble. When my house burned down Bill got me both a tablet and a netbook to keep me on track with my communications with both the business and all my friends. Netbooks start around $75 (or less) and can go up to about $150.
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@MarshaMusselman (38833)
• Midland, Michigan
3 Jun 18
Thanks for this information. I'd not heard that she wasn't at the residence currently. Was she in rehab because of her wrist or other reasons? I'm sure they will help her move also. When my husband spent a few months in a long term care/rehab facility in 2014, they drove him to appointments two hours away until he could bend his legs to get into a car.
Has she been there all this time do you think?
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@GardenGerty (165674)
• United States
3 Jun 18
She went to the hospital because of her fall and wrist.They discovered she had pneumonia. She was in the hospital a while then was released to rehab. I hope they are good to her.
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@GardenGerty (165674)
• United States
3 Jun 18
@MarshaMusselman You know there is no provision in medicare or medicaid for glasses, dentures, or hearing aids. We do not take care of our elderly well at all, and I am one.
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@MarshaMusselman (38833)
• Midland, Michigan
3 Jun 18
@GardenGerty I hope she is well taken care of and that her wrist is much better. It would also be nice if she got glasses again to see better.
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@GardenGerty (165674)
• United States
3 Jun 18
I am just watching as things are unfolding. I may try to get info from the Rehab center. It will not be until Tuesday, though.
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@GardenGerty (165674)
• United States
3 Jun 18
Westminster Villa was an assisted living placement. She called it retirement home but it is licensed as Assisted Living. I think she probably needs a health care facility with more health care professionals on site.
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@GardenGerty (165674)
• United States
3 Jun 18
@cintol I know that in Kansas there are assessments that a person must be given to see if they can safely stay in a certain level of care.
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@cintol (11261)
• United States
3 Jun 18
@GardenGerty That could be, they are probably thinking more of a nursing home for her then if assisted living can no longer take care of her.
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@GoAskAlice (5843)
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5 Jun 18
Thanks for the update. I've actually been wondering about her a lot the last few weeks, wondering how she was doing. I hope she can get her situation stabilized. I actually miss both her sweet demeanor *and* her razor tongue. If you talk to her again, please let her know I'm thinking of her.
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@GardenGerty (165674)
• United States
5 Jun 18
I would love to be able to do that. Thank you for responding. We are trying not to lose or misplace her again.
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@GardenGerty (165674)
• United States
24 Jun 18
I trust you have seen the latest updates I have posted.
@epiffanie (11325)
• Australia
3 Jun 18
Thank you for this update again .. Patsie must be feeling a bit lost ..but glad that she can stay at the rehab center until she finds another place .. It's a shame that her son can't drive himself to see his mom ..
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@GardenGerty (165674)
• United States
3 Jun 18
Eleven or so years ago Patsie and Robbie lost everything. It has been really hard for both of them ever since. I do not know all of his situation, except for what Patsie says.
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@epiffanie (11325)
• Australia
4 Jun 18
@GardenGerty oh, I didn't read that on Patsie's posts .. and obviously she only had one son .. I remember her writing about her son calling her and visiting .. I hope they got together .. She must miss him a lot..
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@Mike197602 (15516)
• United Kingdom
3 Jun 18
I've been off the site for a few months and was going through discussions and I noticed she wasn't about.
After Barry passing I thought it'd be more bad news so I'm glad she's still with us and thanks for posting this.
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@GardenGerty (165674)
• United States
24 Jun 18
Mike, are you doing okay? I will have to check your profile. I try to keep up.
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@Mike197602 (15516)
• United Kingdom
24 Jun 18
@GardenGerty I'm fine thanks, just haven't been here for a while.
@GardenGerty (165674)
• United States
24 Jun 18
More posts have been added lately.
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@WriterAI (5373)
• Bulgaria
27 Jun 18
@GardenGerty I read about Facebook information about her. Thanks a lot.
@Jessabuma (31697)
• Baguio, Philippines
3 Jun 18
Oh I hope she's doing well. Thank you for the update
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@Jessabuma (31697)
• Baguio, Philippines
3 Jun 18
@GardenGerty it's good to know that..
Nice new profile picture my friend.
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