western australia

Unwelcome house guests

@JudyEv (382358)

Rockingham, Australia

March 5, 2019 7:43am CST

Sophie (@SophiaMorros) recently wrote about how house-guests can make themselves unwelcome. We host musicians every time we have our house concerts. They come in time for a sound check, then we give them a meal and after the concert, they stay the night and leave next morning after breakfast. Most are lovely people but some become a bit ‘up themselves’ if you’ll pardon the expression. One man who was/is a fantastic musician blotted his copybook well and truly. We always ask the musicians if they have special dietary requirements and this guy was vegetarian which was fine with us. But it wasn’t until he arrived that we found out that he also didn’t eat onion or milk products. We’re 7 kms from town so it’s inconvenient if we suddenly need to do some shopping we hadn’t intended to do. Then, after the concert we were sitting having coffee and he went into the kitchen and took a packet of frozen peas from the fridge. It turns out he had an aching arm but why not just ask for a freezer pack (or packet of peas)? I thought he was very rude but that’s okay. We don’t have to have him back. The photo shows a kangaroo checking out the cement pad before we put up the walls of the Music Shack.

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@DianneN (254926)

• United States

5 Mar 19

That was rather rude. Seems to me he lacks manners. No excuse for that!

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@JudyEv (382358)

• Rockingham, Australia

6 Mar 19

I thought it was rude. He only had to ask and I'd have found something willingly.

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@Hannihar (130150)

• Israel

6 Mar 19

@JudyEv But he didn't and thought he could get away with that kind of behavior.

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@Hannihar (130150)

• Israel

5 Mar 19

@JudyEv That is something. He really has nerve. He was acting like it was his home. I had someone that i thought was a friend stay over night and when I put a new roll of toilet paper in the bathroom and put it s certain way and she would change it and I would change it back. I thought that was strange but did not say anything. We are no longer in contact not because of that but other things and so she will not be staying at my place ever again.

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@JudyEv (382358)

• Rockingham, Australia

6 Mar 19

Some people have no idea about the right way to behave in someone else's house.

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@JudyEv (382358)

• Rockingham, Australia

6 Mar 19

@Hannihar I understand completely what you are saying.

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@Hannihar (130150)

• Israel

6 Mar 19

@JudyEv So so true. You do free concerts and you do so much for them and to treat you with disrespect is not right. I am not in contact with that person again, not because of that but I saw the real her and it was not the first time so this was it. I cannot have people that just want you to support them and do not support you in my life.

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@allknowing (153529)

• India

6 Mar 19

We all have our share of unwelcome guests. Don't we?

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@JudyEv (382358)

• Rockingham, Australia

6 Mar 19

Yes, that's true. It goes with the territory.

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@jaboUK (64346)

• United Kingdom

5 Mar 19

That was extremely rude of him, I'm not surprised that you won't be having him back.

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@JudyEv (382358)

• Rockingham, Australia

6 Mar 19

I guess he'll never know why he's not welcome. But it's okay - he just thinks the dates are never convenient.

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@wolfgirl569 (135910)

• Marion, Ohio

5 Mar 19

He should have asked. Glad most are good guests for you.

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@wolfgirl569 (135910)

• Marion, Ohio

6 Mar 19

He might.

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@JudyEv (382358)

• Rockingham, Australia

6 Mar 19

He probably wonders why we haven't asked him back.

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@arunima25 (93194)

• Bangalore, India

5 Mar 19

I also feel that he was rude to use your fridge without your approval. I would not appreciate that either. Also it is not courteous to tell his dietary restrictions before landing. A last moment change can be unpleasant and stressful.

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@JudyEv (382358)

• Rockingham, Australia

6 Mar 19

It is difficult for us when it means an unplanned trip to town. There is a lot going on in the last few hours before our concerts.

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@arunima25 (93194)

• Bangalore, India

6 Mar 19

@JudyEv Yes it is. I can understand it. The guest should be more sensible.

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@snowy22315 (209080)

• United States

5 Mar 19

Well, I guess he won't be coming back! The roo, not so sure..lol.

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@JudyEv (382358)

• Rockingham, Australia

6 Mar 19

Haha. Different rules for the kangaroos.

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@crossbones27 (53001)

• Mojave, California

5 Mar 19

Cool, sorry for the capers but sure hope you invite this band one day. I heard they keep the rodents away.

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@JudyEv (382358)

• Rockingham, Australia

6 Mar 19

I think they might be too much of an assault on the ears of our (mostly) elderly audience.

@SIMPLYD (90717)

• Philippines

7 Mar 19

That was very rude indeed. He should have asked for help from you he owners, not get those frozen peas to use for his aching arm as a freezer pack. Those are foods so it should be asked for permission.

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@SIMPLYD (90717)

• Philippines

7 Mar 19

@JudyEv Did you tell him about the freezer packs when you saw him with the frozen peas?

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@JudyEv (382358)

• Rockingham, Australia

8 Mar 19

@SIMPLYD No, I was pretty much speechless.

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@JudyEv (382358)

• Rockingham, Australia

7 Mar 19

We had soft freezer packs which would have been just as effective. He only had to ask for them.

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@hereandthere (45628)

• Philippines

5 Mar 19

hmm, maybe because the frozen peas is vegetarian and good for the environment? hahaha! but no, i would not open the fridge and take anything without asking the host first.

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@JudyEv (382358)

• Rockingham, Australia

6 Mar 19

Oh well. At least I don't have to have him back if I don't want to.

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@LadyDuck (502686)

• Italy

5 Mar 19

That man was really rude, I am sure you will avoid to host him again.

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@LadyDuck (502686)

• Italy

6 Mar 19

@JudyEv I would say that he was not only rude, he was offensive.

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@JudyEv (382358)

• Rockingham, Australia

6 Mar 19

@LadyDuck That's true. I was offended by what he did - and I very rarely get offended by anyone.

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@JudyEv (382358)

• Rockingham, Australia

6 Mar 19

We'd never have him again. It was just too much to do that.

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Vicki, #1 Creek Girl

@1creekgirl (44560)

• United States

5 Mar 19

The kangaroo probably would have better manners than that guy!

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@JudyEv (382358)

• Rockingham, Australia

6 Mar 19

Yes, I think so.

@JohnRoberts (109841)

• Los Angeles, California

5 Mar 19

The roo is an unwelcome guest?

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@JudyEv (382358)

• Rockingham, Australia

6 Mar 19

Naa, he can have my green peas any time.

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@amitkokiladitya (171988)

• Agra, India

6 Mar 19

Do you have these kangaroo very often.

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@JudyEv (382358)

• Rockingham, Australia

7 Mar 19

They spend much of each day on our property.

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@JudyEv (382358)

• Rockingham, Australia

7 Mar 19

@amitkokiladitya They are very timid so ours mostly take off if you get too close.

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@amitkokiladitya (171988)

• Agra, India

7 Mar 19

@JudyEv omg...we don't have any here. Are they human friendly

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Valerie J. Routhieaux

@just4him (323168)

• Green Bay, Wisconsin

6 Mar 19

That's sad and irresponsible of him to act that way. No, you don't need to have him back. That's a good picture of the kangaroo. I'm guessing she was unwelcome too.

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Valerie J. Routhieaux

@just4him (323168)

• Green Bay, Wisconsin

7 Mar 19

@JudyEv That's a good thing.

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@JudyEv (382358)

• Rockingham, Australia

7 Mar 19

Luckily the cement had set or we would have been a bit peeved to have big feet marks in it.

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@YrNemo (20254)

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7 Mar 19

I had some unwelcome houseguests in the past. Too bad the experience that I am frightened to experience that again.

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@JudyEv (382358)

• Rockingham, Australia

7 Mar 19

This wasn't THAT bad but I won't be asking him back.

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@JudyEv (382358)

• Rockingham, Australia

8 Mar 19

@YrNemo Yes, mostly we don't know the musicians until that evening.

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@YrNemo (20254)

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7 Mar 19

@JudyEv I do admire you and Vince's kindness to guests (many of them are strangers to you too, right?)

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@dgobucks226 (37621)

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6 Mar 19

That musician must of read somewhere that frozen peas make a great ice pack. Of course, that's if you don't have a real one! Now that's making yourself at home

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@JudyEv (382358)

• Rockingham, Australia

6 Mar 19

Yes, but at MY home, not his. Not good behaviour in my opinion.

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@dgobucks226 (37621)

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7 Mar 19

@JudyEv NO that's for sure!

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@Janet357 (75638)

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6 Mar 19

An ill-mannered man! And yet you still dealt with him with composure. Byt thw way, do kangaroos visit your place often? Are they gentle?

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@JudyEv (382358)

• Rockingham, Australia

6 Mar 19

We have a lot of kangaroos on our property. They come and go as we have bush on two sides. They are not tame but they are never a threat to us. Some come and drink at our bird baths.

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@JudyEv (382358)

• Rockingham, Australia

6 Mar 19

@Janet357 We sometimes put out a bit of hay for them if we have it but mostly there is plenty of grass for them to eat.

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@Janet357 (75638)

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6 Mar 19

@JudyEv do you feed them? I really love your place. So they just eat grass right?

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Nevena Zivkovic

@Nevena83 (66063)

• Serbia

6 Mar 19

Sometimes the guests are terrible. The photo is beautiful.

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@JudyEv (382358)

• Rockingham, Australia

6 Mar 19

Yes, occasionally guests can be very rude.

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@JudyEv (382358)

• Rockingham, Australia

8 Mar 19

@Nevena83 Some we don't meet until that time so it's a bit hard to weed them out sometimes.

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Nevena Zivkovic

@Nevena83 (66063)

• Serbia

7 Mar 19

@JudyEv I hope you no longer have guests that act so freely.

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@LowRiderX (22901)

• Serbia

6 Mar 19

That was very rude, very. I do not like that kind of people

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@JudyEv (382358)

• Rockingham, Australia

6 Mar 19

I was quite offended really but luckily I don't have to have him back.

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@LowRiderX (22901)

• Serbia

6 Mar 19

@JudyEv I believe you are, everyone would

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