All the Neighbors are Trash

@akalinus (44366)
United States
April 29, 2019 1:13pm CST
I live in a park in Florida. One of my neighbors has told me that everyone else in the park is trash which most likely includes me but I try to think well of people. What do you tell someone who thinks everyone is trash? I can't agree with her but it is useless to reason with her. What should I do or say? Have you ever met anyone who thinks that way? What do you do or say?
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snowy
@snowy22315 (209080)
• United States
29 Apr 19
I would probably not say anything, but think to myself, that is not very nice.
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snowy
@snowy22315 (209080)
• United States
29 Apr 19
@akalinus Sounds like she was projecting..SMH.
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Jo Ann
@akalinus (44366)
• United States
29 Apr 19
@snowy22315 I am sure it was aimed at me in particular as this is the second time I heard her say it.
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Jo Ann
@akalinus (44366)
• United States
29 Apr 19
She started in on her views on politics and I really had to go. I heard her screaming at a neighbor a few minutes ago.
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Valerie J. Routhieaux
@just4him (323168)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
30 Apr 19
One person's trash is another person's treasure. You're the treasure.
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Jo Ann
@akalinus (44366)
• United States
30 Apr 19
I'm not sure about that, but thanks.
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Jo Ann
@akalinus (44366)
• United States
2 May 19
@just4him If we just go about our business and stay out of other people's business, yeah, welcome to the neighborhood.
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Valerie J. Routhieaux
@just4him (323168)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
1 May 19
@akalinus I'm sure. You're welcome. I think we'd make good neighbors.
Anna
@LadyDuck (502653)
• Italy
30 Apr 19
I would say nothing and try to ignore her.
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Anna
@LadyDuck (502653)
• Italy
1 May 19
@akalinus If she insists and repeat that "everyone in the park is trash", simply tells her "so, why do you want to speak with a trash? Let me alone."
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Jo Ann
@akalinus (44366)
• United States
2 May 19
@LadyDuck That would probably start World War 111.
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Jo Ann
@akalinus (44366)
• United States
30 Apr 19
I will just go in from now on if I see her out. She is out walking her little dog at any hour though so sometimes it is not avoidable.
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jaishankar
@Shivram59 (50288)
• India
30 Apr 19
@akalinus Yes,there are many persons here who think I'm a trash.I don't argue with them,because I know I can't change their opinion.They think I'm good for nothing.They have the same opinion about many other people as well.I prefer to keep mum.It is another matter that the same persons often come to me requesting me to help them.
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Jo Ann
@akalinus (44366)
• United States
30 Apr 19
@Shivram59 I don't know either, it is just one of those things.
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Jo Ann
@akalinus (44366)
• United States
30 Apr 19
I can tell you that I rather like you. You are interesting and different. I have never met you but for now, I say you are a great person.
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jaishankar
@Shivram59 (50288)
• India
30 Apr 19
@akalinus Thanks. I don't know why you think so,but....
Nevena Zivkovic
@Nevena83 (66063)
• Serbia
29 Apr 19
It's very bad and I think it should ignore it. There are many good people.
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Jo Ann
@akalinus (44366)
• United States
29 Apr 19
Everyone has some value and worth. It might not always show. This park is a haven for gossip. That is why I seldom venture out. I don't like all the gossip.
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Jo Ann
@akalinus (44366)
• United States
30 Apr 19
@Nevena83 When we gossip, it hurts the reputation of the person talked about and makes others see him/her in a different way.
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Nevena Zivkovic
@Nevena83 (66063)
• Serbia
30 Apr 19
@akalinus Yes, you are right. I do not like gossip too.
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José Valera
@jvicentevalera (13671)
• Santiago, Chile
29 Apr 19
I would just stare at her, and nod. Then say a little lie that I something came up and get out of there! Toxic people aren't meant to be heard. LOL
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Jo Ann
@akalinus (44366)
• United States
30 Apr 19
I know you are right. I did tell her I had things to do and would catch her later.
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José Valera
@jvicentevalera (13671)
• Santiago, Chile
30 Apr 19
@akalinus Best way to cut it off. Ugh! I hope you don't bump into her anymore!
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Jo Ann
@akalinus (44366)
• United States
2 May 19
@jvicentevalera She lives close.
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Kareng
@kareng (80243)
• United States
30 Apr 19
A good response is to tell her to just keep her opinioins to herself. Then walk off.
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Jo Ann
@akalinus (44366)
• United States
30 Apr 19
I do walk off but give an excuse instead of being rude or sinking to her level.
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Porcospino
@Porcospino (31365)
• Denmark
30 Apr 19
I think I would avoid the topic completely. I wouldn't tell her that I agree and I wouldn't tell her that disagree I would simply avoid commenting on the topic. If she keeps talking I would find something else to talk about.
Porcospino
@Porcospino (31365)
• Denmark
30 Apr 19
@akalinus It would also make me uncomfortable. Changing the subject might the best solution.
Jo Ann
@akalinus (44366)
• United States
30 Apr 19
I have just started talking about something else. It makes me very uncomfortable when she starts on that subject.
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louievill
@louievill (28846)
• Philippines
29 Apr 19
I would say " even in trash there is gold! "
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Jo Ann
@akalinus (44366)
• United States
30 Apr 19
Hm, that might be a good idea. I was thinking that everyone has intrinsic worth.
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AmberLynn
@ScribbledAdNauseum (104615)
• United States
29 Apr 19
I would say it's a little too late to say anything now. If she brings it up again either stay silent or tell her she has a right to her opinion. Of course that might cause an argument, so I'd generally stay silent.
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Jo Ann
@akalinus (44366)
• United States
29 Apr 19
I happened to run into her at the laundry. She came on blazing from both barrels. I don't want to argue with her so I don't answer that. I will answer her on other matters.
AmberLynn
@ScribbledAdNauseum (104615)
• United States
29 Apr 19
@akalinus Maybe she was just having a pretty awful day. Hopefully she won't come spewing that stuff again.
Jo Ann
@akalinus (44366)
• United States
29 Apr 19
@ScribbledAdNauseum This is the second go-round of hearing this stuff. The first was when her dog got loose and I helped her find it. I quickly started asking questions about the dog and that got her attention away from the subject.
Judy Evans
@JudyEv (382357)
• Rockingham, Australia
30 Apr 19
It isn't going to help if you disagree. I'd probably just try to avoid her.
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Jo Ann
@akalinus (44366)
• United States
30 Apr 19
You are right about that. One wrong word from me and she would be calling the office and telling them that I must get thrown out for harassing her.
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NJ Chicaa
@NJChicaa (127165)
• United States
29 Apr 19
I wouldn't care what she said about me.
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Jo Ann
@akalinus (44366)
• United States
29 Apr 19
I am sure she aimed the comment at me. It is the second time she has told me that. I can't discuss it with anyone here so that is why I am asking here. No one knows her or the other neighbors here unless one of you lives in my park.
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Thelma
@thelme55 (79323)
• Germany
29 Apr 19
I would keep myself far from that kind of person. Maybe your neighbor is not contented with her or his life.
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Jo Ann
@akalinus (44366)
• United States
29 Apr 19
I know she is not right and has been sick. I'm not sure if that is a factor or not.
Tonietta(Philippines)
@Tonietta (1179)
•
30 Apr 19
Sorry to hear you encounter people like that, just ignore him/her and just focus on yourself I think:)
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Jo Ann
@akalinus (44366)
• United States
30 Apr 19
I always try to be friendly to everyone, I find it the best policy. But I won't agree or say anything rude.
Oshy
@TiarasOceanView (70020)
• United States
30 Apr 19
Yes I have met someone that thinks that way, but she is right in her case.