Two more failed marriages
By Judy Evans
@JudyEv (325854)
Rockingham, Australia
July 25, 2019 6:48pm CST
Vince’s brother and his wife came to visit this morning. They brought sad news with them as the marriage of one son has broken down. The couple have been married 23 years. This is one marriage that I thought would last as they were high-school sweethearts. Our nephew would take his girl a flower each day and was never fazed by the ribbing he received from his mates.
Just a week ago, a German backpacker told us that his marriage had broken down. I wrote about him before. Here’s the link: https://www.mylot.com/post/3265290/all-in-the-name-of-love
Basically, he was in love with a Russian lass but she looked like being stolen by an American. He moved heaven and earth to win her back. They married and we stayed with them in 2015 and met her and their new baby boy. Now they’ve split. I do hope there isn’t going to be one of those times when a third similar event occurs.
Pictured is of happy couple who were married at Melk Abbey in Lower Austria. We came across a few weddings in our travels. I wonder if they are still together. I hope so.
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@DianneN (246906)
• United States
26 Jul 19
We have a divorce going on in the family ourselves. It's sad, but not the end of the world. My brother divorced 2 times and has found the love of his life and has been happily married to her for almost 20 years. My son is being hit on by every girl now, but isn't ready for them - yet!
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@arthurchappell (45002)
• Preston, England
26 Jul 19
always sad when family and friends split up
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@arthurchappell (45002)
• Preston, England
26 Jul 19
@JudyEv Always sad when it is a marriage that we assume to be perfect - we often know nothing of how things really are for them
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@JudyEv (325854)
• Rockingham, Australia
27 Jul 19
@arthurchappell You could have knocked me down with a feather.
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I am sorry Judy, it is sad after 23 years.
@SophiaMorros (5046)
• Belews Creek, North Carolina
26 Jul 19
Marriage is hard work sometimes and we live in a culture that seems less invested in making things work. It's rather sad.
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@SophiaMorros (5046)
• Belews Creek, North Carolina
26 Jul 19
@JudyEv I've had that conversation with my daughters. What happens in the weeks, months, and years that follow should be more important than the day.
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@SophiaMorros (5046)
• Belews Creek, North Carolina
26 Jul 19
@UncleJoe no disagreement from me. What baffles me is people who live together but "can't afford to get married." A wedding doesn't have to be a big expensive party.
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@LeaPea2417 (36451)
• Toccoa, Georgia
26 Jul 19
It really saddens me to read about marriages failing especially when the couples have been married over 20 years. Do you know what was even sadder? I had a great Aunt whose husband left her for another woman after 40 years of marriage! Can you believe that?
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@LeaPea2417 (36451)
• Toccoa, Georgia
27 Jul 19
@JudyEv Yes, I heard through the grapevine that my great Aunt had either weekly or monthly standing appointments with a psycologist/counselor. I can understand how bad she would feel where she would need to confide in one of those.
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@JudyEv (325854)
• Rockingham, Australia
28 Jul 19
@LeaPea2417 She must have felt really gutted after so many years together.
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@crazyhorseladycx (39515)
• United States
26 Jul 19
sometimes folks jest grow 'part 'n gettin' those divorces 're the correct thingy to do - 'fore too much damage's done to either party (emotionally).
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@crazyhorseladycx (39515)
• United States
26 Jul 19
@JudyEv i'm thinkin' folks these days've not the gumption fer long-term when there'd be hiccups'n the road. seems to think 'f those romance novels/movies? false 'xpectations? search me, mine'd be a disaster, lol.
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@JudyEv (325854)
• Rockingham, Australia
27 Jul 19
@crazyhorseladycx Most don't seem prepared to weather the rough patches. As soon as something goes a bit astray, they just opt out.
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@JudyEv (325854)
• Rockingham, Australia
27 Jul 19
We didn't get this view of it as we parked behind it. It is incredibly ornate. It was the first place I went to where I thought the decor etc was obscenely lavish. But of course at the time it was all to do with 'glory to God'.
@moffittjc (118459)
• Gainesville, Florida
26 Jul 19
Our society has made it too easy for people to divorce, and now no one even tries to make marriages work anymore. Of course, I can't say that without pointing a finger at myself, as I too am divorced. Marriages are hard, and people just seem to not want to put in the effort anymore.
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@moffittjc (118459)
• Gainesville, Florida
28 Jul 19
@JudyEv I don't think we'll see these types of longevity anymore with current and future generations. times have certainly changed.
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@JudyEv (325854)
• Rockingham, Australia
27 Jul 19
I agree completely. Sometimes it's not easy to stay and work out differences. But for us, after 48 years (less a month or two) we need to stick together to function properly!! Neither of us can remember 'stuff' anymore and it takes two of us to do anything much. And now I don't know whether to put a smiley face or a sad one! 
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@JudyEv (325854)
• Rockingham, Australia
28 Jul 19
@moffittjc That's great - and my parents made 63 years which was pretty admirable too.
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@YuleimaVzla (1505)
• Maracaibo, Venezuela
26 Jul 19
I am divorced, my marriage only lasted 8 months friend, but sometimes when the situation does not work it is better to separate before the situation becomes unsustainable and ends in rupture or even in domestic violence or offenses as was my case, I led to I cut my ex-husband for physical and psychological violence and I do not finish anything well, everything in time has a solution and the roads never close, it is always early to start again, Cheer up!
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@JudyEv (325854)
• Rockingham, Australia
27 Jul 19
@YuleimaVzla Some people do seem to be very unlucky in love.
@YuleimaVzla (1505)
• Maracaibo, Venezuela
27 Jul 19
@JudyEv That happened about 7 years ago, today I am a single mother of my most recent ex-partner and sometimes I learned that only women can meet and have happiness through our children
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@Hannihar (129481)
• Israel
28 Jul 19
@JudyEv
Divorce is not easy even if it is better for all. I look at it this way the people were not right for each other so should split up and if want to find the right ones that are. I got married in my late 30's and it was a very bad marriage and there really was nobody to find after so I never remarried and really did not want to.
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@BelleStarr (61047)
• United States
26 Jul 19
It is sad when a marriage breaks down especially a long term one, we see a lot of it these days. My oldest son was divorced from his first wife and so was my younger brother. Both of them have now been happily married for the long term.
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@BelleStarr (61047)
• United States
27 Jul 19
@JudyEv I think that is true and they often make a better choice of a partner
@lovebuglena (43080)
• Staten Island, New York
26 Jul 19
They decided to divorce after 23 years of marriage?
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@lovebuglena (43080)
• Staten Island, New York
28 Jul 19
@JudyEv Wow! That's shocking and sad.
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@Starkinds (32703)
• India
26 Jul 19
Really it's so sad to break a wonderful marriage.
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@Ghosthere2 (891)
• United States
25 Aug 19
People change and things happen. I hope if they decide to make that decision they can still find a way to be kind to each other.
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@JudyEv (325854)
• Rockingham, Australia
26 Aug 19
I hope that too. And yes, people do change. It just seems such a shame.
