The 'One'
By Jabo
@jaboUK (64346)
United Kingdom
September 29, 2019 1:11pm CST
I read a post the other day from Julie55 in which she explained that she knew her husband was 'the one' when she saw how kind he was to animals. (Link at bottom of post)
This got me thinking about my own husband. I remember him taking me to meet his mother for the first time and how impressed I was with the way he treated her. I thought right then that he would be the one for me.
He'd previously told me that while in the army in his youth he'd volunteered to become a paratrooper. He'd done this solely for the extra money he would earn, which he sent straight to his mother.
I thought that if he'd jump out of planes just so he could help his mother financially, then there wasn't a lot wrong with him.
Was there a defining moment in your relationship with your other half that made you realise that he/she was 'the one'?
Photo from Pixabay.
One fine morning me and my husband were driving to the park where we usually walk on Saturdays. Suddenly in the middle of the road we spotted a tiny black...
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@rebelann (117193)
• El Paso, Texas
30 Sep 19
Sorta, @nanette64, I never married anyone nor did I have kids and now I'm finding that I am somewhat envious of those women who have grandchildren to enjoy.
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@rebelann (117193)
• El Paso, Texas
30 Sep 19
I wasn't rich enough to adopt @nanette64 there were so many things that ruled out single women back then. As for getting pregnant, my exboyfriend and I tried but I just couldn't, it wasn't in the stars.
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@nanette64 (20363)
• Fairfield, Texas
30 Sep 19
@rebelann I married twice.....11 years apart and they were both jerks. Your only choice would have been to have adopted a child....unless you could have gotten a guy to just get you pregnant and never see him again.
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@thelme55 (79311)
• Germany
29 Sep 19
@jaboUK Nope. I didn't know him yet at that time. I had a conversation with my girlfriends when I was in highschool and this was the answer I said immediately to them when talking about having a boyfriend and getting married when we grow older. It was just a coincidence.
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@crazyhorseladycx (39503)
• United States
29 Sep 19
aw, what beautiful memories 'n so fortunate the choices ya made, hon. i wish i'd such a happy tale, this'un 'twas brilliant 'til 'bout 5yrs'n. then the drunken narcissist emerged.
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@crazyhorseladycx (39503)
• United States
1 Oct 19
@jaboUK aw, thanks, hon. no need though. 's they say "ya made yer bed, now lay'n 't". bad 'xperiences due to bad choices 'n leniency'n my part. should'a followed my 'nstinct'n, not others folks urgin' 'n ran like my hair 'twas'n fire.
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@TiarasOceanView (70020)
• United States
24 Oct 19
Lovely but I never had the blessing of the one.
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@TiarasOceanView (70020)
• United States
24 Oct 19
@jaboUK No I let someone else have him. 
Its okay we had a good time while it lasted.
Its okay we had a good time while it lasted.1 person likes this
@jobelbojel (36791)
• Philippines
30 Sep 19
Wonderful story. Thank you for sharing as well your story "The One".
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@LadyDuck (502148)
• Italy
30 Sep 19
What a beautiful story Janet. I am thinking when I decided that my husband was "the one". I worked in an office where he was an associate. We were two girls and ten men. I remember a day another associate told me "I am going home, as I go your way I bring you home". I did not like than man, I was embarrassed, my now husband came out of his office, looked at me and said "I am sorry, but I still need to keep Anna here, I need a translation". Five minute after the other has gone, he brought me home.
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@LadyDuck (502148)
• Italy
1 Oct 19
@jaboUK I already knew he had to stop to go to college, he found a job and studied during the evening because his father had a car accident and he had to be put in a nursery home. His father was 25 years older than his mother. I knew he was a good son, I appreciated his sensibility when he came out to help me.
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@Tampa_girl7 (54714)
• United States
29 Sep 19
I also noticed how kind my husband was and especially to children and animals.
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104615)
• United States
1 Oct 19
Aw, I love this little story! Yes a man who would willingly jump out of planes to help his mother financially, that is a good man indeed.
My ex husband.. Hmm. I've been thinking about this question since you asked it and I just am not sure how to answer it. Ours was a puppy love, the kind that doesn't always last. Ours certainly didn't and he became a man that I did not want to know after awhile.
I think I was infatuated with him, and was wearing rose colored glasses.
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104615)
• United States
1 Oct 19
@jaboUK Yes, I think that was it. I am a decade or so older now and realize that I was just a baby when I got married. When I hear of the younger generations get married I both cringe and wish them the best of luck.
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@jaboUK (64346)
• United Kingdom
2 Oct 19
@ScribbledAdNauseum Sometimes it works out, but people change so much as they mature that they become different people from what they were.
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@Marilynda1225 (91011)
• United States
2 Oct 19
That's an awesome memory Janet and I was always taught that the way a man treats is mother is how he will treat you. Sadly I didn't listen to that when I married but I told my children that when they were dating.
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@Marilynda1225 (91011)
• United States
10 Oct 19
@jaboUK two of my daughters and my son are happily married. My middle daughter got divorced last year but she's better off without him.
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@DeborahDiane (40843)
• Laguna Woods, California
30 Sep 19
@jaboUK - Yes, I think there is often one thing which is the tipping point. My husband and his first wife were married as teenagers and it did not go well. She did not like taking care of their young children. He told me how he would go to work, come home, give his daughters their baths and put them to bed. Then, the first time I met his ex-wife, even she told me that he had been a good husband, she just wasn't ready for marriage. I figured if your ex-wife is telling your girlfriends that a man had been a good husband, that is a really good sign. He turned out to be a very good husband!
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@jaboUK (64346)
• United Kingdom
2 Oct 19
@DeborahDiane Yes, the daughters were so lucky that you took them on and treated them as your own.
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@DeborahDiane (40843)
• Laguna Woods, California
1 Oct 19
@jaboUK - I think they both just married too young, and his first wife did not like being a wife and mother during her teen years. She had two children before she was 20 years old, and I think she felt she had missed out. She has always had trouble settling down. She is on her fourth or fifth husband now (we never knew if she married one of the guys she lived with). She is unhappily married right now, and she is 72. In many ways, I have always felt sorry for her, because she was so discontented. My step-daughters have always had a difficult time dealing with their mother. I feel bad for them, too.
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@DianneN (254949)
• United States
5 Oct 19
That’s such a great story! 
Although my husband had all the qualities most women would want, I knew he was the one for me when he told me on our first date that I would break up with my boyfriend of six years and marry him. After laughing at his nerve, I decided that I liked it. He was right as he always has been.
Although my husband had all the qualities most women would want, I knew he was the one for me when he told me on our first date that I would break up with my boyfriend of six years and marry him. After laughing at his nerve, I decided that I liked it. He was right as he always has been.1 person likes this
@VivaLaDani13 (60812)
• Perth, Australia
28 Jan 20
@jaboUK aww what a sweet man. This was a beautiful story to read. I like the photo even though it made my heart beat a bit faster lol ( hate planes )
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@VivaLaDani13 (60812)
• Perth, Australia
31 Jan 20
@jaboUK You're very welcome. And yes, I think you were both lucky to have one another. Sweet couple I reckon.
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