Take Nothing Personal

@CarolDM (203452)

Nashville, Tennessee

October 8, 2019 2:25pm CST

Have learned many painful lessons in life. In the past few years one big one is to not take anything personal in life. Easy to say. Hard to do. But if you can learn to do this, your life will be so much happier. I used to let things bother me that others would say or do. Wanted them to be more like me I suppose. That did not work. At all. People only change when and IF they want to change. Finally, after many hurt feelings I decided. Do not take anything personal. I try not let things, especially those out of my control, go right out the door. Life is too short not to be like this. And this includes family. More times than not, it is family that causes you hurt feelings. Have you also learned a similar life lesson?

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@HazySue (39264)

• Gouverneur, New York

9 Oct 19

I try not to take things personally. I agree, life is too short to take offense at things other people think and say.

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@HazySue (39264)

• Gouverneur, New York

11 Oct 19

@CarolDM I had to learn that lesson quickly. I used to teach ESE middle school. Some of the socially challenged kids can be brutal.

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@CarolDM (203452)

• Nashville, Tennessee

11 Oct 19

@HazySue I can only imagine.

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@CarolDM (203452)

• Nashville, Tennessee

9 Oct 19

I hav live and learned many lessons unfortunately.

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@DocAndersen (54411)

• United States

9 Oct 19

I try. It isn't easy on good days. Bad days, it is impossible. well it feels impossible!

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@CarolDM (203452)

• Nashville, Tennessee

9 Oct 19

@DocAndersen It is called survival.

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@CarolDM (203452)

• Nashville, Tennessee

9 Oct 19

Tell me about it Doc. Nothing is easy in life. But we keep pushing through.

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@DocAndersen (54411)

• United States

9 Oct 19

@CarolDM we do keep on pushing!

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@LadyDuck (458180)

• Switzerland

9 Oct 19

I agree with you, it's family that causes hurt feelings most of the time. I have learnt to live my life and to meet only those family members that I appreciate.

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@LadyDuck (458180)

• Switzerland

9 Oct 19

@CarolDM No, it does not make sense, but it happens.

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@CarolDM (203452)

• Nashville, Tennessee

9 Oct 19

It is sad, those we love the most often hurt us the most. Doesn't make a lot of sense.

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@thelme55 (76476)

• Germany

8 Oct 19

I have learned that lesson, too. Since I get older, I don't care anymore what others think of me and I ignore what I can't control or change.

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@thelme55 (76476)

• Germany

9 Oct 19

@CarolDM yes, indeed. We become wiser as we aged I think.

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@CarolDM (203452)

• Nashville, Tennessee

8 Oct 19

We live and learn Thelma. Good for you.

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@CarolDM (203452)

• Nashville, Tennessee

9 Oct 19

@thelme55 That is the goal for sure.

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@dgobucks226 (34369)

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10 Oct 19

Oh yes, I'm certain this is extremely common. We all have feelings and emotions and sometimes things said or done can hurt. One must try to adopt the attitude of this famous magazine character...

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@dgobucks226 (34369)

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12 Oct 19

@CarolDM Anytime

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@CarolDM (203452)

• Nashville, Tennessee

11 Oct 19

That made me smile, thanks!

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@Janet357 (75656)

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8 Oct 19

well said miss carol. i was like this before too. as i age, i get more matured i bet.

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@Janet357 (75656)

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@CarolDM (203452)

• Nashville, Tennessee

8 Oct 19

Thanks, it is hard to do. And yes, you learn with age.

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@maezee (41997)

• United States

9 Oct 19

I agree, or learn how to move on quickly.

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@CarolDM (203452)

• Nashville, Tennessee

9 Oct 19

Yes we have to learn in life.

@allknowing (130064)

• India

9 Oct 19

I too have become wiser in my ways - credit goes to my age (lol) I had a pain to deal with at Virily . I dealt with it so fast and then I realised that age has taught me how to deal with such situations at jet speed (lol)

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@CarolDM (203452)

• Nashville, Tennessee

9 Oct 19

Life has a way of helping us learn after many struggles it seems. I am coming out on the other side a stronger person hopefully.

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@PatZAnthony (14752)

• Charlotte, North Carolina

8 Oct 19

It is harder for some than others as we all have different personalities and experiences in life. Not taking things personally will certainly make life easier in many cases.

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@CarolDM (203452)

• Nashville, Tennessee

8 Oct 19

Yes you are right, just sharing what works for me.

@JudyEv (325809)

• Rockingham, Australia

9 Oct 19

I have a hard time with not taking stuff personally.

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@CarolDM (203452)

• Nashville, Tennessee

9 Oct 19

I have all of my life, but when it affects your health, it gets your attention.

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@JohnRoberts (109857)

• Los Angeles, California

9 Oct 19

It's easier not to care what people think once you get old.

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@CarolDM (203452)

• Nashville, Tennessee

9 Oct 19

That is so true John. We have learned so much in life. Sometimes I wish I could get a do over. Then I say, no, carry on.

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Christina Ladanger

@Ladanger (14582)

• United States

15 Oct 19

I am trying trying to learn to be more like that.

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@CarolDM (203452)

• Nashville, Tennessee

15 Oct 19

It takes a lot of life to do this.

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@ZedSmart (19753)

• Philippines

9 Oct 19

Maybe, over time, one will learn the art.

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@CarolDM (203452)

• Nashville, Tennessee

9 Oct 19

These things do take time.

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@Starkinds (32703)

• India

8 Oct 19

Nice quote

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@CarolDM (203452)

• Nashville, Tennessee

8 Oct 19

Thank you.

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@Starkinds (32703)

• India

9 Oct 19

@CarolDM welcome

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@snowy22315 (169966)

• United States

8 Oct 19

It is a no win situation to take things personally, but as you say it is easy to say and hard to do.

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@CarolDM (203452)

• Nashville, Tennessee

8 Oct 19

Yes it is, hard but a must in life.

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crazyhorseladycx

@crazyhorseladycx (39515)

• United States

8 Oct 19

i'm still workin''n such, but fear that distance 'tis gonna be the best solution.

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@CarolDM (203452)

• Nashville, Tennessee

8 Oct 19

Yes I think we are all a work in progress.

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@Alexandoy (65308)

• Cainta, Philippines

8 Oct 19

I was like that when I was younger that I would be bothered by trivial matters. But now I simply ignore things that I could not change.

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@CarolDM (203452)

• Nashville, Tennessee

8 Oct 19

We do seem to live and learn.

@NJChicaa (116002)

• United States

8 Oct 19

I have a hard time letting things just go.

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@CarolDM (203452)

• Nashville, Tennessee

8 Oct 19

I was there as well and I finally, when it started affecting my health, said enough.

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@dya80dya (33515)

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8 Oct 19

This is very good advice. And it's true, family hurts us so much.

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@CarolDM (203452)

• Nashville, Tennessee

8 Oct 19

Yes it is sad but true.

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Michelle Renee Kidwell

@Michellekidwell (29260)

• Sonora, California

8 Oct 19

Definitely the past few weeks have been a lesson in that!

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@CarolDM (203452)

• Nashville, Tennessee

8 Oct 19

Yes it has for you.