Take Nothing Personal

@CarolDM (45411)
United States
October 8, 2019 2:25pm CST
Have learned many painful lessons in life. In the past few years one big one is to not take anything personal in life. Easy to say. Hard to do. But if you can learn to do this, your life will be so much happier. I used to let things bother me that others would say or do. Wanted them to be more like me I suppose. That did not work. At all. People only change when and IF they want to change. Finally, after many hurt feelings I decided. Do not take anything personal. I try not let things, especially those out of my control, go right out the door. Life is too short not to be like this. And this includes family. More times than not, it is family that causes you hurt feelings. Have you also learned a similar life lesson?
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@Janet357 (30583)
8 Oct
well said miss carol. i was like this before too. as i age, i get more matured i bet.
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@CarolDM (45411)
• United States
8 Oct
Thanks, it is hard to do. And yes, you learn with age.
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@Janet357 (30583)
9 Oct
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• Serbia
8 Oct
As you said that is easy to say, but hard to do. I am still learning this. Thats why i sad many times. I hope i will learn soon that important life lesson.
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@CarolDM (45411)
• United States
8 Oct
Life can be hard. You will learn.
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@HazySue (33226)
• United States
9 Oct
I try not to take things personally. I agree, life is too short to take offense at things other people think and say.
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@CarolDM (45411)
• United States
9 Oct
I hav live and learned many lessons unfortunately.
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@HazySue (33226)
• United States
11 Oct
@CarolDM I had to learn that lesson quickly. I used to teach ESE middle school. Some of the socially challenged kids can be brutal.
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@CarolDM (45411)
• United States
11 Oct
@HazySue I can only imagine.
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@DocAndersen (9165)
9 Oct
I try. It isn't easy on good days. Bad days, it is impossible. well it feels impossible!
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@CarolDM (45411)
• United States
9 Oct
Tell me about it Doc. Nothing is easy in life. But we keep pushing through.
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9 Oct
@CarolDM we do keep on pushing!
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@CarolDM (45411)
• United States
9 Oct
@DocAndersen It is called survival.
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@thelme55 (22815)
• Germany
8 Oct
I have learned that lesson, too. Since I get older, I don't care anymore what others think of me and I ignore what I can't control or change.
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@CarolDM (45411)
• United States
8 Oct
We live and learn Thelma. Good for you.
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@thelme55 (22815)
• Germany
9 Oct
@CarolDM yes, indeed. We become wiser as we aged I think.
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@CarolDM (45411)
• United States
9 Oct
@thelme55 That is the goal for sure.
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@dgobucks226 (19045)
10 Oct
Oh yes, I'm certain this is extremely common. We all have feelings and emotions and sometimes things said or done can hurt. One must try to adopt the attitude of this famous magazine character...
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@CarolDM (45411)
• United States
11 Oct
That made me smile, thanks!
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@dgobucks226 (19045)
12 Oct
@CarolDM Anytime
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@LadyDuck (245602)
• Switzerland
9 Oct
I agree with you, it's family that causes hurt feelings most of the time. I have learnt to live my life and to meet only those family members that I appreciate.
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@CarolDM (45411)
• United States
9 Oct
It is sad, those we love the most often hurt us the most. Doesn't make a lot of sense.
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@LadyDuck (245602)
• Switzerland
9 Oct
@CarolDM No, it does not make sense, but it happens.
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@Gillygirl (39769)
• Sutton, England
8 Oct
I don't take things personally anymore as life is too short
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@CarolDM (45411)
• United States
8 Oct
We have learned the hard way my friend.
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@Gillygirl (39769)
• Sutton, England
9 Oct
@CarolDM Very true
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@Starkinds (17471)
• India
8 Oct
Nice quote
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@CarolDM (45411)
• United States
8 Oct
Thank you.
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@Starkinds (17471)
• India
9 Oct
@CarolDM welcome
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@Ladanger (12024)
• United States
15 Oct
I am trying trying to learn to be more like that.
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@CarolDM (45411)
• United States
15 Oct
It takes a lot of life to do this.
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@JohnRoberts (91573)
• Los Angeles, California
9 Oct
It's easier not to care what people think once you get old.
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@CarolDM (45411)
• United States
9 Oct
That is so true John. We have learned so much in life. Sometimes I wish I could get a do over. Then I say, no, carry on.
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@ZedSmart (5483)
• Philippines
9 Oct
Maybe, over time, one will learn the art.
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@CarolDM (45411)
• United States
9 Oct
These things do take time.
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@maezee (38833)
• United States
9 Oct
I agree, or learn how to move on quickly.
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@CarolDM (45411)
• United States
9 Oct
Yes we have to learn in life.
@allknowing (85600)
• India
9 Oct
I too have become wiser in my ways - credit goes to my age (lol) I had a pain to deal with at Virily . I dealt with it so fast and then I realised that age has taught me how to deal with such situations at jet speed (lol)
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@CarolDM (45411)
• United States
9 Oct
Life has a way of helping us learn after many struggles it seems. I am coming out on the other side a stronger person hopefully.
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@JudyEv (173966)
• Bunbury, Australia
9 Oct
I have a hard time with not taking stuff personally.
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@CarolDM (45411)
• United States
9 Oct
I have all of my life, but when it affects your health, it gets your attention.
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@Susan2015 (26590)
• United States
9 Oct
In several of my jobs as a bank teller when people would complain it was hard but I didn't take it personally. In my job now as a Receptionist, I try not to. For friends or family, sometimes it's harder not to take it personally.
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@CarolDM (45411)
• United States
9 Oct
It is hard when you are detain with the public, but you know that. Life can be difficult at times.
@PatZAnthony (14032)
• Charlotte, North Carolina
8 Oct
It is harder for some than others as we all have different personalities and experiences in life. Not taking things personally will certainly make life easier in many cases.
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@CarolDM (45411)
• United States
8 Oct
Yes you are right, just sharing what works for me.
• United States
8 Oct
i'm still workin''n such, but fear that distance 'tis gonna be the best solution.
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@CarolDM (45411)
• United States
8 Oct
Yes I think we are all a work in progress.
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@dya80dya (18459)
8 Oct
This is very good advice. And it's true, family hurts us so much.
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@CarolDM (45411)
• United States
8 Oct
Yes it is sad but true.
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• Sonora, California
8 Oct
Definitely the past few weeks have been a lesson in that!
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@CarolDM (45411)
• United States
8 Oct
Yes it has for you.