Big Sigh of Relief

@DianneN (247216)
United States
December 13, 2019 2:30pm CST
If I’ve seemed a bit off or curt, it’s been due to a life being a roller coaster. I believe it has come to a stop. Our younger son’s divorce was finally finalized today. It’s a bit sad, but a huge relief. He saw his ex for the first time, since he threw her out of his house on July 4th. They did not speak, although he told us she was about to say something. He didn’t want to hear another lie, so walked away. He let the lawyers battle out his final demands. Thank heavens for his brilliant lawyer and the sage advice our older son drafted into the documents. He’s a corporate attorney, not a divorce lawyer, but he knows his contracts. Our son came out smelling like a rose, so to speak. His ex will not get the big, beautiful, costly house or his money, but in return she will get a cash settlement just to shut her up and make her disappear. We all let out a big sigh of relief. We are so happy this ordeal is finally over.
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@CarolDM (203451)
• Nashville, Tennessee
13 Dec 19
Glad he let the lawyers handle it. He can move forward now.
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@DianneN (247216)
• United States
13 Dec 19
Just got off FaceTime with him. He still has some anger left which he will deal with.
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@DianneN (247216)
• United States
13 Dec 19
@CarolDM He knows that. He will talk to someone about it on Tuesday.
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@CarolDM (203451)
• Nashville, Tennessee
13 Dec 19
@DianneN I am sure he does, it will take some time.
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@just4him (308019)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
14 Dec 19
That's a huge relief for the family. I'm glad it worked out well for him and the family. I'm also happy he is over with that sad situation and will never need to address it again. I love the flowers.
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@DianneN (247216)
• United States
14 Dec 19
He’s still a bit sad and angry, but that will pass. He’s in Boston partying it up right now.
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@DianneN (247216)
• United States
14 Dec 19
@just4him Thanks, and I guess it’s normal to feel that way.
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@just4him (308019)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
14 Dec 19
@DianneN I'm glad he is. I'm sure it's a relief. I'm not surprised he's both sad and angry. What she did was horrid.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
14 Dec 19
Life is indeed like roller coaster. We only have to be able to ride it well . I am happy that your son has finally have his divorce.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
15 Dec 19
@DianneN Thank you. The ex deserved the divorce.
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@DianneN (247216)
• United States
14 Dec 19
Well said! Love it! Thank you. We are all so relieved that it worked out so well for him and not so well for her.
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@DianneN (247216)
• United States
15 Dec 19
@SIMPLYD She sure did!
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@rebelann (111388)
• El Paso, Texas
14 Dec 19
Now he can begin a bachelors life once more. I hope he'll be able to sell the house for a good profit then find a nice place where he will feel comfortable.
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@rebelann (111388)
• El Paso, Texas
14 Dec 19
I hope all goes well for him @DianneN
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@DianneN (247216)
• United States
14 Dec 19
Thank you. One step at a time for him. He is meeting with one of the bosses next week. They spoke today, and yesterday at their Christmas party.
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@LadyDuck (460004)
• Switzerland
14 Dec 19
I am glad it is closed and it is over. Your son is going to spend a better Christmas, he can forget now.
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@LadyDuck (460004)
• Switzerland
15 Dec 19
@DianneN I am really glad that it is over, a divorce is all the time a source of worries.
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@DianneN (247216)
• United States
16 Dec 19
@LadyDuck Thank you. We worried right up until he had to appear in court.
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@DianneN (247216)
• United States
14 Dec 19
Thank you. He feels a bit emotional, but that’s to be expected. He plans on going to Boston to party with friends, and tomorrow is having a friend hang out with him for his meatless nachos and some football games on TV. Hubs and I are soooooo relieved this is over.
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@Alexandoy (65308)
• Cainta, Philippines
13 Dec 19
That's the hassle of divorce that you need to go through the settlement. We don't have divorce here but I find the younger generation avoiding to get married, they just live together and get pregnant. It looks like a convenient way of settling down.
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@Alexandoy (65308)
• Cainta, Philippines
13 Dec 19
@DianneN so nice to hear that they have no children. When I separated with my first wife, she went to the US with our daughter. But I did not protest just to have a little peace between us.
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@DianneN (247216)
• United States
13 Dec 19
@Alexandoy I’m sorry to hear that. Do you ever get to see your daughter or she you? I know you are remarried.
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@DianneN (247216)
• United States
13 Dec 19
It seems that many couples get divorced here these days. He didn’t want to, but didn’t want to live with a cheater and liar. He took his wedding owls seriously. She didn’t. Thank goodness no children were involved.
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@shaggin (71676)
• United States
16 Dec 19
That just makes me so angry she even thinks she deserves money after what she did. She sure doesn't deserve a cash settlement, she deserves nothing in my opinion.
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@shaggin (71676)
• United States
16 Dec 19
@DianneN I’m glad I don’t live there then! Here in PA he would not be required to pay her alimony or anything since it was her fault!
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@DianneN (247216)
• United States
16 Dec 19
@shaggin She was kind enough not to ask for alimony . They were only married for 18 months, so the courts wouldn’t be too sympathetic to her if my son took her to trial. However, trial would have cost them both a fortune. We suggested he pay her off and make her disappear.
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@DianneN (247216)
• United States
16 Dec 19
That’s exactly how my son feels, but Connecticut is a no fault state. However, she got much less than she bargained for, and not only with money. She’s one sorry idiot now.
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@marguicha (216191)
• Chile
13 Dec 19
I hope that she is never seen again.
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@marguicha (216191)
• Chile
14 Dec 19
@DianneN I hope your son forgets all about her soon.
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@DianneN (247216)
• United States
13 Dec 19
I, for one, never want to set eyes on her again!
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@Tina30219 (81549)
• Onaway, Michigan
14 Dec 19
I bet he is glad it is over with. Now he will have a new start in the new year.
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@Tina30219 (81549)
• Onaway, Michigan
14 Dec 19
@DianneN Right it will take time
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@DianneN (247216)
• United States
14 Dec 19
Thank you. You are right on both accounts, although he has to come to terms that it’s finally over.
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@DianneN (247216)
• United States
14 Dec 19
@Tina30219 Yes, thanks.
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@birjudanak (14320)
• India
14 Dec 19
Its really a big relief because of its the most hard thing here as its a business where girls demand a lot of money for a divorce.
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@DianneN (247216)
• United States
15 Dec 19
@birjudanak Yes, the game really started with her. Now it’s all over for her and she’s all alone. They knew each other for 7 years, but you really never know some people.
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@DianneN (247216)
• United States
14 Dec 19
Yes, she tried for lots of money, but they agreed on an amount. My son wouldn’t budge and would have taken it to trial if he had to knowing she couldn’t afford a lawyer for that long. He still thinks that she didn’t deserve anything after what she did to him - sexting and lying during the marriage.
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@birjudanak (14320)
• India
15 Dec 19
@DianneN Sexting is thing which everyone forget other thing and then game start. Its good your son now free but here its very tough so its much need to know person during wedding and thus its OK it take time but need right person.
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@andriaperry (116860)
• Anniston, Alabama
13 Dec 19
I am glad she didnt take him to the cleaners as well. God is good.
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@DianneN (247216)
• United States
13 Dec 19
Yes, thanks!
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@nela13 (55818)
• Portugal
14 Dec 19
I am glad that is over, your son can now keep on with his life. I remember when you wrote about what happened, he deserves a better woman in his life.
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@DianneN (247216)
• United States
14 Dec 19
Thank you. This has been dragging on and going back and forth for far too long. He’s a little sad and angry at her lack of remorse, but he will be fine. He’s in Boston partying with his friends, male and female. It’s just what he needs now. We are so relieved!
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@DianneN (247216)
• United States
16 Dec 19
@nela13 Thank you!
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@nela13 (55818)
• Portugal
16 Dec 19
@DianneN it is a new chapter in his life. All the best for him.
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@Starkinds (32703)
• India
14 Dec 19
Congratulations I'm also happy that your son get ride off all the problems of his ex
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@DianneN (247216)
• United States
14 Dec 19
Thanks so much! Woot! Woot!
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@Starkinds (32703)
• India
15 Dec 19
@DianneN most welcome
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@cool83 (4467)
• Sri Lanka
14 Dec 19
I`m happy to hear that you are relief over your older sons divorce ..
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@DianneN (247216)
• United States
14 Dec 19
Thanks, and it was our younger son. I’d die if it were our older son. He has two children.
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@DianneN (247216)
• United States
15 Dec 19
@cool83 Right! Thank goodness our younger son had no children l. It would have had a huge impact on his divorce.
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@cool83 (4467)
• Sri Lanka
15 Dec 19
@DianneN Ohh Yeah that is good he has no kids rite ??
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@GardenGerty (157803)
• United States
14 Dec 19
This was a good time to let the lawyers do their work.
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@DianneN (247216)
• United States
14 Dec 19
Yes, and oh what legal mumbo jumbo. Now he’s waiting for the bill.
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@ptrikha_2 (45606)
• India
14 Dec 19
Indeed, it would be a big relief for him. I think he would take time to adjust to the changes. But living with such a dishonest person is not worthy.
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@DianneN (247216)
• United States
15 Dec 19
So true and thank you. He is out partying with friends tonight!
• China
14 Dec 19
Glad that your younger son's thing worked out fine ! "Better a finger off than aye wagging."
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@DianneN (247216)
• United States
14 Dec 19
That’s so true and thank you.
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@JudyEv (326592)
• Rockingham, Australia
14 Dec 19
That is certainly a good thing to have over and done with. No doubt he is still hurting badly from this.
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@DianneN (247216)
• United States
14 Dec 19
He is, and thanks. He has lots of mixed emotions and believes she does, too. However, it’s over as far as he’s concerned.
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@LindaOHio (158044)
• United States
13 Dec 19
I'm glad it's over and that it turned out relatively well.
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@DianneN (247216)
• United States
13 Dec 19
Thank you. It turned out extremely well - for our son. I just let out another big sigh. He almost went over the edge when Doodles passed away, but she did text him her sympathy. So did her mother.
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@LindaOHio (158044)
• United States
13 Dec 19
@DianneN That was nice of the two of them. All's well that ends well.
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@ZedSmart (19753)
• Philippines
14 Dec 19
Thankfully the legal battle is over at least they could move on now with their respective lives (separate lives as the song reminds me). On your part also, it's a huge relief and a peace of mind.
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@DianneN (247216)
• United States
14 Dec 19
Yes, exactly, and very well said. It is a huge relief!
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