Missing Him

By Jabo
@jaboUK (64361)
United Kingdom
January 6, 2020 4:43pm CST
Each morning when I first awake I touch his smiling face but it's just a photograph as he has left this place. His smile, his laugh, his impish charm they're all sweet memories now, I know that I'll get used to it but really don't know how. His chair is looking so forlorn as empty as my heart, I talk to him but he's not there it hurts that we're apart. If you are one who's lost your love you'll know that love won't die it's all still there within yourself though months and years go by. But if you've yet to find that 'one' I hope you do some day for then you'll know and understand why grief won't go away. I miss him. Photo of me and my husband, he died February 2019.
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@DianneN (246809)
• United States
6 Jan 20
That’s such a beautiful photo of the two of you. I know how much you miss him, Janet. It can’t be very easy to lose your soulmate after so many years of love and wonderful memories. I feel for you and understand your grief, so beautifully stated in your poem. My parents, brothers-in-law, and most recently Doodles are with me in my heart every single day. I knew the date was approaching. Sending you love and hugs.
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@jaboUK (64361)
• United Kingdom
7 Jan 20
Thanks for those lovely comments Dianne, you are a good friend. As long as we keep loved ones in our hearts they haven't truly gone away.
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@DianneN (246809)
• United States
7 Jan 20
@jaboUK Awww, you are so sweet. You are absolutely correct, although it hurts our hearts, They say time heals all, but it’s only true to an extent.
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@rebelann (111168)
• El Paso, Texas
7 Jan 20
I have a friend who lost her love in 2010 and she still grieves, she told me that the ache for her husband doesn't go away but it becomes easier to tolerate after a few years.
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@rebelann (111168)
• El Paso, Texas
7 Jan 20
I hope so @jaboUK but it's not an easy thing to get over the love of your life passing. I wish I had words that could help.
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@rebelann (111168)
• El Paso, Texas
7 Jan 20
@jaboUK Liz said that the first year was the hardest for her especially because he passed near the middle of November which is close to our Thanksgiving but after that hurdle she started concentrating on all the fun she had with him and their kids, it was helpful.
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@jaboUK (64361)
• United Kingdom
7 Jan 20
@rebelann You do help just by being there.
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• Preston, England
7 Jan 20
A sad loss indeed - love the fez he is wearing - I have one too
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@jaboUK (64361)
• United Kingdom
8 Jan 20
The fez was a present from either our son or daughter (can't remember which) - they got it in Turkey and he loved it.
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• Preston, England
8 Jan 20
@jaboUK great present - I just bought mine online
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@LadyDuck (458091)
• Switzerland
8 Jan 20
Oh Janet, I can only imagine how much you miss him, not something that I would want to experience, but we do not know what life prepares for us. This is a beautiful photo, you both looked so happy.
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@LadyDuck (458091)
• Switzerland
8 Jan 20
@jaboUK Those are the precious moments to remember.
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@jaboUK (64361)
• United Kingdom
8 Jan 20
Thanks Anna - I chose that photo because it showed how happy we were
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• United States
6 Jan 20
This really says it all Janet. I lost the love of my life in 1993 and I still miss him every single day. It does get easier as time passes but you never truly get over it.
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@jaboUK (64361)
• United Kingdom
6 Jan 20
Yes, I'm beginning to understand that I won't get over it, but I'm learning to live with it. Sorry you lost your love too Marilyn.
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• United States
7 Jan 20
@jaboUK I just think how fortunate I was to have experienced such love. Many people never do You too Janet...cherish those wonderful memories
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@jaboUK (64361)
• United Kingdom
7 Jan 20
@Marilynda1225 I really do cherish the memories - I try to focus on all the good times we had and I succeed most of the time
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@just4him (306196)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
7 Jan 20
Beautiful photo and beautiful poem. I feel your loss in the poem.
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@jaboUK (64361)
• United Kingdom
7 Jan 20
I don't often like photos of me in them but I do like this one - it shows us being happy together.
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@jaboUK (64361)
• United Kingdom
7 Jan 20
@just4him Thank you
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@just4him (306196)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
7 Jan 20
@jaboUK It's a very good photo. The lights in your eyes and your smiles say a lot. Beautiful!
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• Pamplona, Spain
7 Jan 20
Beautiful poem, beautiful photo and the grief is something we work through although we don´t want it who really would want grief as it is? I prefer to feel good now and send them love and light but that does not mean to say I don´t have those days also.
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@jaboUK (64361)
• United Kingdom
7 Jan 20
I'm fine most of the time, I try to dwell on the good times. However, it's inevitable that I should feel sad sometimes.
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• Pamplona, Spain
7 Jan 20
@jaboUK Its part and parcel of all that feeling which is not good to bottle up inside only hurts more instead. Its a part of what we go through like it or not.
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@jaboUK (64361)
• United Kingdom
7 Jan 20
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@sprite1950 (30453)
• Corsham, England
7 Jan 20
Your poem brought tears to my eyes. Not even a year yet so it must still hurt. Take comfort in the fact that you had the kind of love that some people never find. That's why you miss him so much.
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@sprite1950 (30453)
• Corsham, England
7 Jan 20
@jaboUK If you believe in the afterlife you will be reunited one day.
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@jaboUK (64361)
• United Kingdom
7 Jan 20
@sprite1950 I'm afraid I don't. My daughter does though, and she's convinced we'll see him again.
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@jaboUK (64361)
• United Kingdom
7 Jan 20
All you say is true and I really am grateful to have had my husband for so long - we were married for 53 years.
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• United States
7 Jan 20
i wish i'd great words 'f wisdom to mend yer broken heart. a magical spell to ease yer pain, sweet @jaboUK. sadly i've none's i sit'n join ya with wet cheeks 'fter readin' this lovin' poem. i 'lways keep ya close 't heart ~
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@jaboUK (64361)
• United Kingdom
7 Jan 20
Thank you Crazy, I can feel the warmth in your words
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• United States
8 Jan 20
@jaboUK yer welcome, hon. i sure hope so!
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@xFiacre (12598)
• Ireland
6 Jan 20
@jabouk "His smile, his laugh, his impish charm" - they all come out of that photo. You do make a colourful, interesting couple!
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@jaboUK (64361)
• United Kingdom
6 Jan 20
Thank you, he was a fun guy.
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@nanette64 (20364)
• Fairfield, Texas
19 Aug 20
Oh @jaboUK , that made me cry it was so beautiful. I'm sorry that I haven't caught some of your postings. I don't know why.
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@jaboUK (64361)
• United Kingdom
19 Aug 20
I'm getting used to being a widow now
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@jaboUK (64361)
• United Kingdom
20 Aug 20
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@nanette64 (20364)
• Fairfield, Texas
20 Aug 20
@jaboUK Well you know I can't replace Noel; but I love you dearly.
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@Morleyhunt (21737)
• Canada
6 Jan 20
My heart goes out to you. I knew it was getting close to a year. Sending comforting thoughts and healing hugs. If not physical then as close as possible.
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@jaboUK (64361)
• United Kingdom
6 Jan 20
Thanks so much for your sympathetic words, I really appreciate them
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@Morleyhunt (21737)
• Canada
6 Jan 20
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@JudyEv (325759)
• Rockingham, Australia
6 Jan 20
I'm sure the anniversary of his passing and all the occasions that you now face on your own are very painful. Sending hugs and best wishes. Hopefully it will get a little easier over time.
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@kobesbuddy (74553)
• East Tawas, Michigan
7 Jan 20
What a lovely photo, of you and your husband:) You will see him again someday, in Heaven!
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@jaboUK (64361)
• United Kingdom
7 Jan 20
Thanks Kharla and I'm pleased you like the photo.
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@jaboUK (64361)
• United Kingdom
8 Jan 20
@kobesbuddy That is so true
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@kobesbuddy (74553)
• East Tawas, Michigan
7 Jan 20
@jaboUK It's a beautiful picture, one you will always cherish:)
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
14 Mar 20
I know your grief so well. I still have my husbands ashes in urn that goes every where I move May sound crazy but I still talk to him after 18 yrs. hes been gone.
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
15 Mar 20
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@jaboUK (64361)
• United Kingdom
15 Mar 20
My husband was buried so I can visit his grave if I feel the need.
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@Tampa_girl7 (48937)
• United States
13 Jan 20
I can't even imagine how much you miss him. I know that my daddy missed mama terribly.
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@jaboUK (64361)
• United Kingdom
13 Jan 20
Yes, the hurt doesn't go away though I try not to show it too much.
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@Tampa_girl7 (48937)
• United States
20 Jan 20
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@VivaLaDani13 (60355)
• Perth, Australia
22 Feb 20
@jaboUK I struggled with this one. I started crying within the first 4 lines and had to keep taking little breaks throughout. But was still a pleasure to read. Very heartfelt. I love the photo.
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@jaboUK (64361)
• United Kingdom
24 Feb 20
Thank you Dani. I'm not sad all the time (far from it) but it just hits me occasionally.
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• Perth, Australia
24 Feb 20
@jaboUK I can understand what you mean.
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@thelme55 (76476)
• Germany
7 Jan 20
That's a lovely poem for your husband. I am sorry for your loss. I can feel how you miss him. He is always with you, in your heart.
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@jaboUK (64361)
• United Kingdom
7 Jan 20
You are right, he's in my heart. Thank you Thelma.
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@thelme55 (76476)
• Germany
7 Jan 20
@jaboUK You are very welcome. Take care.
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@YrNemo (20261)
10 Jan 20
Made me think of the time my children left the nest. I missed them so. Especially since I bought lots of expensive stuff for them. (I ended up having them for myself since they left things behind. I was pleased in a sense, for normally I would never dare purchased those things for myself.) Take care.
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@jaboUK (64361)
• United Kingdom
10 Jan 20
That was a nice side effect of your children leaving home.
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@YrNemo (20261)
10 Jan 20
@jaboUK I like your positive attitude .
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@cool83 (4467)
• Sri Lanka
7 Jan 20
That is a beautiful picture both of you ..I can feel if loved ones away from you ..it is really diffcult to handle .. i hope that you will be getting be strong as always.
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@jaboUK (64361)
• United Kingdom
7 Jan 20
Thank you Umanga - yes I try to stay strong.
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@cool83 (4467)
• Sri Lanka
7 Jan 20
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